This phobia may get me fired!

[betti_felon]

So I'm pregnant. And feeling sick on and off all the time. Weather this is in my head or not, I'm not sure. If it is just "in my head" well, it still seems pretty real to me. Right now, I'm in pre-panic attack mode. My stomach hurts, and has all day. I have to be at work until nine o' clock tonight. No one will understand me leaveing AGIAN because I've got an upset stomach. I'm pregnant, of course I do. Or at least I feel like that's what people will think. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img] But it's so much more. As most of you understand. If I go into a full blown panic, how will I cope at work? I don't know what to do. I've missed so much work lately...

I LOVE my job and don't want to lose it ether. Why do I have to suffer from this stupid phobia....? It takes the joy out of so MANY things for me.

[leann7123]

Aw I'm sorry. I know how it feels. But I have a 6month old son and I can tell you that you can overcome the sick feeling. I dont know where you live but you can get these candies at Babies r us or online and they are called Preggie Pops or Preggie Drops which really helped me. What also helped was to keep food in my stomach at all times. And i SWORE by Eclipse Peppermint and Spearmint gum. You will get through this. Does your work know that you are pregnant?

[betti_felon]

Yes, they know. But they're all women who've been through it. I feel like I'm being a big baby in their eyes. Only ONE knows about my phobia. Everyone else just thinks I'm a whimp.

[leann7123]

Damn. That stinks. Yeah, most people wouldn't even understand if you told them about your phobia anyway. Only my boyfriend, mom and 2 best friends know about mine. If you ever have any questions, I'm here for you!

[kristin1980]

hey hun.. just know your not alone. I am not pregnant but i have missed ALOT of work due to my phobia because anytime i feel sick i would need to leave to go home asap. I finally did have to tell my boss because everyone that it was unfair that i got to go home every time had some nausea. I have always had poor attendence and i have been given warnings and such... but then I even went as far to to go to my counselor and get a note for it. So that way i have it documented and they know whats going on. Can u atleast maybe go to management out of confidence? I am doing alot better now with counseling since i do know how to talk myself out of panic that way.. i find i only have to go home once every 6 months rather than once every two weeks...
hope everything works out.. hang in there.. u r not alone! stay strong!

[jen_s]

I can totally relate to what you're going through. I found out last week that I was pregnant and basically missed the whole week of work. I just couldn't do it. I immediately felt s* and was up all night pacing the house or sitting on the bathroom floor feeling like I was going to get s*.

I've lost the baby now but I was fully prepared to take the next 7 weeks off if I had to. I just could not have done it. I'm hoping that I felt so crappy because something was wrong and that next time I'm pregnant I won't feel so shi**y. It sucked.

If you love your job and want to keep it then go to your doc and explain how scared you are when you are n* and ask for some anti n* pills that are good. My doc gave me Zofran and I only took them for a few days because I started to feel better when my hormones dived but I felt a ton better taking those than my phenergen. If you have to your doc can write a note saying that you are unable to work at this time due to medical reasons and they are unable to fire you for that. It is so important that you take care of yourself and panic does not help your stomach. I was having d* and panic attacks nightly. It was icky.

I just want you to know that I completely empathize and wish you didn't have to feel so n*. I really hope it's short lived for you, hopefully you'll be one of those women that only feels n* for a very short while during the beginning of their pregnancies. I hope you get to keep your job and you get past this m/s quickly. Congratulations!

[kckitty]

My boss just had a baby - he's 7 weeks old now - and she REFUSED to leave work because she felt bad those first weeks. She kept saying that if she kept working she'd forget she felt bad or something, but I saw her running to the bathroom a few times. I have no idea how she did it! Whenever I get pregnant I swear I will take off work/school (if it ends up that way) at least until 2 months after the baby is born. I don't think I'll even leave the house.

All I can think of is explain your situation (pregnant, emet) to your manager (and your coworkers if they're really concerned about it being unfair). And give those pops a shot - I can't put anything near my mouth when I'm n* but if it would help...

jen_s - I'm really sorry about your loss. I hope things are going okay for you since then.