This is not Sarah...

[sarahx]

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[terified girl]

Fred since your right about Sarah seeing this post, I'd like to tell Sarah that she should really talk to you, especially since you seen to care about what she is going thru, alot of us have bf's that don't care and don't want to know....So Sarah if you do read this talk to Fred, he needs to know whats going on in your head, he's there for you and wants to help you, for your own sake and safety, let him. If you don't he might eventually get fed up of you not opening up to him and walk out....


I hope you know that your lucky to have someone by your side who wants to help you.....


Go on, talk!


Sonia

[Jenneh]

Fred - Sarah may find it difficult to talk to you because she feels ashamed. thing is, getting over a phobia isnt a very easy thing to do - and its not gnna happen overnight. she needs your constant support and REASSURANCE that the social services are not gnna take her daughter away from her.


the fact that she did hurt herself shows that she is SCREAMING out for some help and support - bt maybe shes unaware of how to ask for any from you or anyone else for that matter.


just try, and sit hr down, and ask to tlk seriously and see if she'll open up to you once again. its worth a try.


Jen xxxxxx

[sarahx]

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[Jenneh]

i think Sarah is a fighter. as long as she realises theres hope for her at the end of the tunnel ( i.e. CBT might really help her) then hopefully she wont have to think of suicide to make herself feel comforted.


i hope Sarah isnt angry at you too, because i can understand that uv just come here asking for some advice.


Jen xxxx

[sarahx]

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[trickyvicky]

Sarah,i know sometimes it hard to speak to our loved ones as we don't want to hurt them but it sounds like the depression is getting the better of u and we all know u are a fighter....maybe try and speak to someone that is not close to u then when things seem clear and better to digest then u will understand that your boyfriend is just trying to help the person he loves......From experience and we all do it, but i shut away my boyfriend( not literally) but i wouldn't speak to him,i kept snapping at him for no reason,and in the end i drove him away.....And this was a guy that loved me to bits but just couldn't take the silence and verbal abuse anymore.....Please don't let this happen to u,I'm not saying speak to him as it's always so much harder with someone u love so much......But just remember,because u are hurting doesn't mean that we should hurt the closest and dearest 2 us......please don't hurt yourself anymore physically or emotionally as we have to be strong for each other,,,,It saddens me to hear u in such distress and difficulty,I'm not going to say buck your ideas up as I've been in the same position as u and it's damn hard.....But we all need u as much as your B/f and child....


I hope u find someone to chat to and u have to stand up to this and be strong....don't let it get the better of u,don't let it win....


u can always e-mail me [email protected] so please don't suffer on your own


take care Vicky xx

[sarahx]

Thanks Vicky, it means a lot to have ppl that care on here. i guess i feel syupid talking to my boyfriend, this emet makes me feel stupid. Like its not a real problem? Do u get what i mean? I feel like i should be able to just get over it, but i really cant ive tried so hard. im trying to be open with my bf but its hard and i dont have anyone else to talk to anyway only u guys on here. Sorry for bugging u all.


Sarah xxx

[trickyvicky]

Sarah,please don't ever think u are being stupid as this phobia for us is the same as any other traumatic thing that people have to deal with in life......everyone copes with different things in different ways,that does not make u stupid or less of a person for finding that thephobia is taking over your life..............I have tried to explain to people when i talk about my situation,that if they imagine having a fear and then saying,well for us that intensity is with us every day every hour,every min and every second of the day.Now for some it might not be,it might be that they only get the intensity of it every few months......But i feel that emet is such a difficult phobia to get away from as u sometimes can not escape the feeling of nausea or feeling sick.......when i explain this to people they say omg how do u cope and i think this is what alot of us forget,we get hard with ourselves and angry that we are weak or stupid but we are not for what we all have to go through on a daily basis to do with emet,makes us strong and a fighter.But there is times that when we feel low,that we then start to get angry with ourselves and others..please try and speak to someone as I'm sure this will help u and your b/f...like i said u are welcome to e-mail me anytime and my msn address is on my profile so u can always come and chat,I'm always there in and out through the day,normally talking to Jen .....so please sweetheart don't suffer on your own,we are all here for u.....and one more thing" U ARE NOT BUGGING US "!!!!!!!! LOL


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[terified girl]

Why did you delete what your bf wrote, he was only trying o help....................

[sarahx]

I think he deleted it??? either he did it or someone else can get onto my username! I will ask him lol.......


Sarah xxx

[terified girl]

Oops! I didn't mean anything by what I wrote, but I'm glad all the same it wasn't you!!!![img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]