Feeling sick...

[Galadriel]

Hey guys,


Man Ive just been feeling off all day. I know its because of things with William. See, he has actually moved up here (New York) so that we could be around eachother to be able to have more of a relationship. I know wow! Its a big move for him, and well, hes here in New York, and we are working to take what we have over the internet and put it into person. I guess this causes some struggle sometimes, and I get upset about it and stuff, and course that makes my stupid IBS and emet kick in. I just feel so nauseas. Course that makes it hard to want to do things, because I get afraid of being sick and stuff. Sometimes I just feel so defeated. I wish I had support of family and stuff with this. Its hard, I mean William is great, and we can talk about anything. Still tho, it would be nice if I could have someone to tell me to hang in there and that it'll be okay, like my dad or mom or someone. I really feel like I have no one to rely on other than William. I wish there was a "love manuel" that I could read it and have it give me instructions, but unfortunately there is no such thing. Sometimes I feel lost, cause I am rather new at all this. He helps a lot tho, still tho there are times when we both have struggles, but everyone does. I just am feeling real nauseas, and it would be nice to have reassurance that it will be okay and stuff.

[2jo2]

You know, I think every person in the world at one time or another has said what you said about the manual that would tell you what to do. I know sometimes things can feel like they're overwhelming and the world is on your shoulders, letting you down. But look at what you have with William! He moved to be near you, and that seems to me like he wants to be your family. I know it's not the same, but I just wanted to let you know that you are going to be ok, this too shall pass. Hang in there, and hoping you're feeling better.

[Galadriel]

Hey there,


Thank you, that helps to hear that. I feel like its hard sometimes cause I don't really have a 3rd person like a friend I can rely on, at least one who is going to be understanding. I suppose your right, that everyone at some time or another wishes there was a manual to tell you what to do in such and such a situacion. I know he does care a lot about me, I mean that is a lot that he is doing, to move up here to be near me. Course my family isn't thrilled. I really wish sometimes that I could go to my mom or dad or someone and have them tell me its going to be okay, not to dump him like hes the plague (which is what they would say). Well, I guess the only thing to do is keep perservering through this, and it'll work itself out.

[jgirl236]

Galadriel,


I feel for you sweetie - I really do. I have been in that situation (sort of) and its tough. I had a boyfriend that moved to be closer to me and it was very overwhelming. I don't know how you feel but as happy as I was to have him closer - it felt like a lot of pressure on me to make him happy to be there (since he was willing to make the sacrifce to move to me). It was rough in the beginning.


The good news is - everything will work itself out. It always does. And you need to keep reminding yourself of that. William sounds like a great guy that is willing to do what it takes to see if you can make it together. Do your best to embrace that feeling and block out what others are saying or implying. My mother tends not to be supportive in these kinds of situations and made me feel tremendously guilty for making the decision I made (we live together now). As hard as it is - remember that this is your life and you call the shots now. And if you make a mistake - and that does happen (despite what I have been trying to avoid for most of my adult life!) - you are strong enough to pick yourself up and move on. Trust in your instincts - they will guide you through this.


I know that we don't know each other well - but I live in NJ (so I am pretty close to you - I think) and would happy to do whatever I can to help. Feeling alone sucks and its even worse when you are alone and confused. You can always get in touch with me - even if you just need to vent or chat (if you are interested - I can give you my contact info). I have gained some wisdom over my 30 yrs of life and would happy to share that with you if it would help!


Hang in there- love works in mysterious ways. You are going to be just fine sista!


Jessica[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[Galadriel]

Hey Jessica!


Thank you very much for your kind words. I guess I am feeling rather overwhelmed. I mean its amazing to me that someone would do what he did for me, that really shows he cares a lot and wants this to work. See, I am used to not having many people in my life, I mean Ive never had someone so close before (we have gotten very close over the internet) and its rough to try and put that to a person you have just met, but really do know. Its like putting the cart before the horse! I too feel a degree of pressure, because I mean hes here and he is very good about not being demanding of me, which helps, but we are trying to make this work. I think its gonna be rough here for a bit, but if we can get past this, I think we will be good to go! Its hard especially because I know my dad (whom I live with) he would want to see us not together, and his soon to be new wife (my to-be step mom who doesn't live with us yet, she has her own home with her 2 kids) she has said some things that I felt were uncalled for from her, concerning me and William. It would just be nice to have one of them say "hey its gonna work, hang in there" instead of trying to help rip this apart. William is really amazing tho, I mean we are trying to keep each other held up and trying to help each other get thro this adjustment time. I want this to work so much, I mean he truly is the best guy I have ever met personality wise, and I do want this to work. We are very compatable too. It would just be nice to have some outside encouragement during the tough times, but I know I am not going to get that from any of my family. I appreciate what you said very much.

[jgirl236]

I am not sure what you believe - but it sounds to me like William just might be in your life for a reason. I know you love and respect your family and their opinions - I do too (maybe a little too much). But as we get older - we need to take charge of our lives and do what makes us happy and not work to please others all the time. Let William into your life and your heart and see what unfolds.


I wish you both the best of luck - I am living proof that it can work! Keep me posted on how both of you are doing.......and as always - if you ever need to chat - come find me!


Jessica[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[-celeborn-]

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Im sorry, I was browsing and come across this thread.....I know I shouldnt post, but man [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


jgirl236, that was the sweetest thing ever....Galadriel and I are both christians....Im not sure if anyone here knows how we found each other, but Ill tell ya this, folks that are atheists that I know from another site have had to admit that something was definetly up in how Gal and I came to be.


Its kind of freaky for me to....cause WAY back when i was a kid, I was so sickened by how my friends would make it all about sex and I just wanted someone to love.


I prayed for like 2 years about it...asking God to please bring someone into my life who i could have true love with....and I wanted to know I could love her even if sex were a problem....


After two years I felt He was telling me to wait for ''Laura''..... and you can bet your susupenders I went looking for girls named Laura....found one real quick, matter of fact.....she was so fakey and mean that I just gave up real quick..


All these years later Im on a christian forums....and Galadriel shows up askin me about baptism thru PMs.


I left my wife over adultery she commited, well, and for treating my like dirt the entire marriage as well.... and I was trying to convinve myself I was not permitted to marry again in a thread I started.


This wonderful woman Evee there told me I wouldnt be alone for long....and I would probably meet the person I would love right there on that site ..........Now at this point Im asking her what dating sevirce shes pushing[img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


After a bit of talking, she told me she felt the Lord was pointing out Galadriel.....It was kinda freaky cause no one knew that me and galadriel were talking and getting to know each other and I had already had it go thru my mind ''why cant I meet someone like this" [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


So anyway.....back to the prayers....I then realized that Galadriels name was laura thru and email she sent me.......AND (this is the really odd part) she has a phobia thata will definetly make sex an issue for a while if we did get married (meaning I may well have been put with the a rare ''Laura'' whom I may have to love without sexbeing in the picture for some time )... and whats funny is, if I knew she could never have sex, I love her so much that Id become a eunuch or something just so that wouldnt be in the way. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]


There is so much more to this all that I dont want to type out..... Its so awesome to pray about something and then see it come about in sucha way that you are just standing there almost wondering if your dreaming or not [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


Tell you something else....Im looking back over my life.. and it seems so obvious to me that my life was set up in such a way that I would be ready for Galadriel (Laura)...


I think back to a point in time and I know theres no way Id been able to handle things like this with her.....I had little patience and was very easily discouraged...


I love Laura so much.... looking back, she is the only woman Ive ever met that I would WANT to be with.......she was well worth the 600 mile move....and worth leaving behind everything I know...


Id ask all here that would to please pray for us if you believe in prayer.... Lauras issues make this very hard sometimes for her and for me....


thanks,


william








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