Afraid of my kids

[cass]

This is my first time on this site. I am desperately unhappy as I am terrified of my 2 kids aged 5 and 1. My fear of being s*** has been far worse since having kids as I am no longer in control. I want to keep them away from other kids as theres always some bug circulating. I know I cant do that but am constantly watching for symptons and can't kiss them. I am now making my eldest paranoid too so am now stuggling with guilt too. Anyone else been through this? I really feel that I should never have become a parent as I am just screwing everyone up.

[missy77]

I am not a parent so I don't have any advice for you. I am about to
become a parent in about 7 months and I am terrified of the exact
same thing. There are a lot of people on this site that are parents and
they will be able to give you some advice and support.
Welcome to the site, I know you will find it very helpful! I know I do!
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[vicki5011]

Hi hun! im exactly the same as you, i have a son almost 5 and a 2 year old little girl, i cant kiss my kids either and i always keep them away from other kids.. its not affected my daughter as yet but my son is asking why i dont let him do certain things..
I even took my son out of school for a few months as i couldnt cope with the anxiety, i was constantly watching him, even checking what his poop looked like (sorry tmi).. I have now put him back in school and my anxiety is getting worse, i remind him every day to keep his hands away from his face and i even put baby wipes in his lunch bag to wipe his hands before his lunch! i just hope that some day i will learn to relax a little.
we all have our irrational fears, your just human..
Im sure your a fantastic mum and dont let anybody make u feel any different xx

[callahan]

It sucks doesn't it. To feel like a bad parent even though probably you are a GREAT parent! I know I am... but this stupid phobia is screwing that up. My daughter is 2 and should be going to daycare so that her father and I can make more money, but she doesn't. And I won't send her for awhile. I'm absolutely terrified at the thought of her starting kindergarten!!!! When she is ill her father has to take care of her because I can't be around her. It sucks, but that's why I'm seeking help. Good luck to you, we're in this together!

[sdfl]

It is an awful feeling isn't it? unfortunately my husband being autistic has
not learned certain skills and is unable to possess certain abilities well. So I
have to clean up when my children get sick. But I refuse to send my children
to daycare, which would help us out a lot as I could go back to work, which
is what I really want to do! I would rather be a stay at home mom though, so
I am looking into working from home when I finish school. I myself am not
afraid of going outside, but I do not like other children touching my
children. I love children, but their little hands are just so... filthy!
I know eventually I will have to get over it however. Just never feel alone
dear. I am a recovering emet, as I am not nearly as frightened as I once was,
but it still scares the bejeezus out of me.