i see my counsellor tomorrow

[jazz]

hey guys
as you may already know, i was set to see a counsellor last week who knows my dad relatively well. this obviously caused a bit of a stir, but since then, this bloke has chatted to my dad on the phone, and im to go see him tomorrow.
ahh! im a little scared.
This guy is under the impression im depressed. Am i depressed? I dunno, it's possible, i certainly felt it during the summer holidays, im just hoping he acknowledges the phobia rather than the added fun which comes with it..
not sure how i feel about this, knowing that he worked for my dad..
how have you all managed therapy?

[stephiewephie05]

i've been seeing a counselor for awhile now. i started out telling him little things about me, like my favorite tv shows & that i like to read & talk on the phone to my friends. i would also mention the phobia too. i always write things down if i'm not comfortable saying them at first.

[sarahx]

Well when i saw a counsellor it helped a little, but not with the phobia side of things? You will just have to see how it goes. If youre not comfortable with this guy or you dont think hes going in the directionu want to go in, then find a different one! You have to do what is best for you. Dont be scared to tell the counsellor what is wrong and what you want to make better, if he doesnt listen then hes not very good! Good luck!


Sarah xxx

[sage]

I agree. YOU'RE in the "driver's seat" in therapy - always. YOU tell HIM you're not depressed if you're not. Be ASSERTIVE about the phobia itself as your worst presenting problem. When you're mad at him, tell him. When you're scared of something, tell him. When you don't understand something, tell him. When something bothers you in any way at all, TELL HIM! I listen to so many people in therapy who quit it because they're not honest with the therapist, then they claim therapy doesn't work.


Granted, there are a lot of therapists out there who are not very good, or insensitive, or just plain block-heads. So take the advice above, if that is the case, and move on to someone else. Hopefully it will go well for you - keep us informed, ok?

[jazz]

thank you, im really grateful for your support. It went well.. he knows my dad really well, and was asking about his attitude to vomiting.
Technically, he's a teacher, not a doctor- he's explained this and i understand that, he sed i can go to him to have a vent.
He congratulated me on dealing with this, and was really really nice...i can't imagine myself getting mad at him, because it's obvious that he's not going to make me feel uncomfortable.


Something that did happen though..[img]smileys/smilies_09.gif[/img], the kid who delivered the note to tell me where and when to go to this meeting read it out infront of all the class..i was mortified, because everyone knows i have to see a counsellor now. when i say everyone, i mean the whole class, who dont have a clue that i have these sort of issues.


Anyway, he's never dealt with phobias before, thats fair enough.. he was quite open and sed " i can't help you, but im here to talk to "
we also discussed different foods, and their "richness", and we were saying how we generally avoided them.
I'll keep ya posted.

[Jenneh]

ouch... how insensitive was that for the kid to read it out infront of the class =O


hope all goes wel.


Jen xxxx