Don’t fight...and win the battle

[sweetfreak]

This is something I have recently learned about not just emet, but phobias in general. The more you try to fight off the fear, the worse it seems to get. At least, that is the way it works for me. I find that if I do feel anxious or panicky about anything, if I just accept the fact that I am afraid and I can't help being afraid and not feel ashamed of that fear, I get through the anxiety or panic attack much faster and it also doesn't feel as severe. Does anybody else find this to be true for them?

[eyecandi512]

I am completely the opposite, I need to fight, or else it will manifest my life. If I don't fight off panic, I might panic to the point that I faint....

[izzybee]

I'm not sure - I think I need to fight when I'm in a scarry situation - but only when I'm in that situation (like someone says they feel sick) and I have to learn to try not to think about emet when nothing is bothering me - I feel that I have to fight to become less panicy about situations - so it doesnt overwhelm me!


But I know what u mean about trying too hard - like almost talking about it and getting a rigid plan but the reality is different? that kind of thing??

[hippychick]

I know what you are saying. Like if i start panicking and then i start thinkign "I'm panicking omg" then it gets worse and worse and i try and fight and it all gets too much. whereas if i dont fight and accept i am just anxious then it passes a lot quicker because i am more relaxed.

[Jenneh]

my social worker said to me recently that i need to stop focusing on thefacts i.e. i have 3 phobias cause thats not gnna be very helpful to me... instead if i focus on the source of these phobias i.e. i had a s***e childhood, it will be more useful...


that does link somewhere, trust me, lol, but basically if i do focus too much on the poanic when im panicking then i do get worse.


Jen xxxxxx

[Melikasa]

I get what you are saying. I know when the emet was at its peak it seemed that fighting was the only way I had to try and keep myself sane but once I got to the point where I wasn't fighting Quite so hard and just let it happen the sooner it went away and lessened.

[emmab]

My therapist seems to be suggesting just what you are saying about allowing the panic. Whenever I get panicky and think I might be sick I try and calm myself down and get rid of the fear as quickly as possible. If I accepted the fear and let it run its true course I may feel better and it would not keep coming back.

[Sun666]

The more you try to fight off the fear, the worse it seems to get.

I totally agree. Emet is a part of YOU...and if you fight against the fear, you fight also against YOURSELF.


Emet isn´t a bad monster or anything. It is just a part of you, and everyone should find out, what the emet wants to tell you!


Anybody understand what I mean?