Please help guys...I need advice.

[SullyMel]

I don't know if you guys remember, but I told you I was going to FL for two weeks. Well, we just got back early Wednesday morning. We had fun and all. Our dream is to live there. My husband found two jobs the very first day we were there. I haven't found one yet which makes me nervous b/c I have a lot of bills. We are about to close on a condo at the end of next week. The problem I have is that I am so scared to do this. I have lived in the same town by my parents for 29 years. I don't want to leave them. The thought of not having a job really scares me. Also, one of my husband's jobs is working security at night at a night club, so I will be all alone. I'm just scared that I'm going to freak out there and end up in a mental institution or something. I've never been away from home. It scares the s*** out of me. I don't know what to do. I'm scared that I won't find a job. I do think the sunshine will help my anxiety, but I feel frozen with fearwith what I want to do. I want to do this, but I feel scared. My husband said that if I am completely miserable in two months, we can come back home.We live in Indiana right now. I don't want tohave to deal with these winters anymore. Anyone from Florida? SouthwestFlorida? Sarasota area? Please help guys. We have to move on this quick if we're going to do it. I'm so nervous and scared. I don't want to stress myself out and not be able to eat like I did before my wedding. I feel thatif I don't do it, I will be miserable b/c I will look back on this in 10 years and be kicking myself in the ass. Please guys!!! Give me some advice. What would youguys do? [img]smileys/smilies_25.gif[/img] [img]smileys/smilies_27.gif[/img][img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[kmarie]

oh man girl..that would be scary scary!!! I ahve lived with or enar my parents for my entire life..just having them move out and down the street was hard on me...but i did ok.


I think this move may be good for you..it may not seem like it at first..it may be stressfull and hard..but I think you can..and should go for it..it may be a chance to start a whole new life...the sun would certainly be nice..no more winters..a definately plus...im sure you would be able to find a job..your dream job may not come alomg right at first..but there is always jobs out there..you just have to be willing to do them.


and your husband said if after a few months things werent working out you could move back right?


go for it girl..be strong..and jump in head first...there is always snail mail..email...and the telephone to keep in touch with your parents..i know its not the same..but its not like you are moving to another planet


You can do it..if you go downa nd everything goes really well just think of how happy you will be!!! you could amybe make some new friends even!!!


good luck!!!

[eyecandi512]

Wow....Well, hmm,....I'm from NJ, so I'm pretty useless. But do you think your husband can get a day job instread of a night job? I'm sure that would calm you down a little. I'm sure you can find like a sales associate job or something quick to bring in a little money for the time being.


I think it's a great opportunity to get into a new environment, new peopke and new weather. Maybe you just need a change. As scarfey as change can be gthere arfe sio many opportunites and chances associated with it.


Try it, and if you don't like it....there's never any definites. You can always go back to Indiana, and just remember they arfe just a phone call, e-mail or short plane ride away!!


Good luck!!


Danielle

[r311dude]

I moved from Illinois to California, the warm weather is sooooo great!! I know it's scary, but it's one of those fears you have to face. I was emet before the move and was afraid my new home wouldn't be a 'safe haven', but the instant we got there, I felt right at home. It was wierd though, on the whole trip there (took 3 days), since we technically had no home, I pretty much didn't suffer from emet. I ate the whole trip and didn't even get car sick =)


Take a chance!! =)

[2jo2]

Sounds like a great new opportunity and a way to start fresh!! I would love to move somewhere warm. Change is always hard, but there are so many ways to keep in touch. I see my mom about once every other month, but talk to her or email multiple times a day. It makes it feel that the distance is so small, because you talk about little day to day things so you feel like you're there. Go for it and have fun!!!

[alliecat]

I say go for it! Its someplace new and beautiful. I've never been there, but a lot of people like it. You never know, it may be the answer to your prayers. And, like your husband said, its not permanent if you don't want it to be. So give it a try! One question... aren't you nervous about the weather!? Thats the only thing I'd be worried about... all those hurricanes!

[Melikasa]

I know the feeling of being scared to move to a new place. I think you are right about the sun though. A lot of people get S.A.D. which makes you depressed and anxious, even tired throughout the winter season. Which doesn't help anyone that is already prone to feeling that way from other problems.
I think my biggest worry would be the hurrincanes and stroms there, but who really knows how it will effect THEM personally. There is always something somewhere.
It is too bad that your husband couldn't work during the day, but at least it isn't over night. He will be home as soon as the night club closes.
Change is often a really good thing.
My move wasn't AS big but for me it seemed like it at the time. I moved one last time to somewhere new and it couldn't have been better.
I am sure I wasn't a big help there LOL. I love way out on the west coast in Canada, but I have heard that Florida is a beautiful wrm place to be. If your husband said that if you weren't happy you could move back. I don't think that 2 months can give you a good feel for living there. Any move takes a little time. I think that you should go for it and give it a chance.

[SullyMel]

Thank you so much guys for replying. Someone mentioned the night job my husband has. He said also that if I am completely miserable with him being gone at night, he will quit and find another job. He already plans on looking for another one as soon as we get there. He doesn't want to leave me alone. His mom doesn't want himto leave me alone at night either.lol If he starts getting clients right away for the personal training job, he's going to quit the nightclub anyway. I'm just scared, but I guess it's natural to feel the way I am. Hopefully, I will feel at home when I get there. Thanks again guys. Anything else you guys can think of that will make me feel even more better? I hate being so indecisive all of the time. Thanks again. You guys are great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[Jenneh]

of COURSE ur gnna be scared!! who wouldnt !!!!


bt i really think u shud go for it...... if u dont like it, u can always come back , its not lke ur gnna be stuck out there forever....


this cud be the best thing uv ever done.. take that risk you =)


Jen xxxx

[Melikasa]

I don't think that you ever want the "what if I had gone" There is no point in regretting not doing it. Especially when the option is there for you to come back, your husband being there at night for you, a new experience.
I know non emets that are scared of moving. I don't think there are a lot of people that truely "enjoy" it. Even the ones that are excited are a little scared.
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