Hello, I'm slightly new to this forum, meaning I was here years ago, got kicked off, and am hoping that they let me stay this time.

Anyway, my girlfriend (who is more like my fiance at this point) wants kids SO BAD but I do not want them because of the whole emetophobia thing. She says that I don't have to be the one who gets pregnant, that she'll do it and be fine.

The thing is we need to find a sperm donor because we are both female. I have been sabotaging that like you wouldn't believe because I don't want her to get pregnant. I am scared that not only will I pass this fear onto our children but I won't be able to deal with it when they get sick.

I don't know what I'm supposed to do. My fiance (JB)knows about my emet, and she says that she'll take care of the kid(s) when they get sick...but I'm a mess when someone in close quarters is sick! I mean I can't even be on the same floor of the house as them! I don't know what to do but I don't want her to think that I am dodging the whole situation. She wants to have a kid by age 27 and she's already 25! I get so worried but I don't want to outright tell her NO because I don't think that's fair of me.

There is a part of me that wants kids, I think it would be amazing to have one, but I am so scared about what comes with it. Any advice for me?