Calling to all Australian Emetophobics!

[paradiseaddict]

Hi there,

Anyone out there from Australia?

Just thought it would be nice to share our thoughts and feelings knowing were on the same part of the world. Helping each other or providing support if it is needed.

Karen

[hadenough]

Hi Karen,

Im Kerry i live on the central coast so just north of you not far at all we go to sydney a bit with our daughter.

Kerry

[paradiseaddict]

Hi there! Thanks for writing back I really appreciate it. So you are emetophobic? Or someone in your family?
Well lets keep in touch and compare experiences. Karen

[hadenough]

Hi Karen,

Yes unfortunately i am the emet in this house . Ive been this way for as long as i can remember and has got worse in the last 10 odd years before that i didnt have panics or anxiety unless i felt ill now its a constant fight.

Kerry

[paradiseaddict]

Hi Kerry,

How bad is it??? What do you experience on a daily basis?? Just fear of when it might happen.. lying in wait?

Im curipus because I think I am the same.. But Im getting to a point where I want to fix it.. I just dont know how.. the thought of exposure scares me beyond belief!

[hadenough]

Hi Karen,

It varies between a constant on verge of panic feeling to an occasional feeling of panic. I find it also depends on how i wake up if i get startled awake i get a bit paniced , if i have slept in and have to go out again i get paniced (stupid hey lol)

Then you have the nausea side of it i get bad at that time of the month, and i stress a lot about my kids if they arent themselves i panic all day waiting for one of them to be sick it drives me mental.

I also am seriously wanting to fix this and am not intertested in the exposure therapy as ive been exposed and nope it didnt help at all lol

Kerry

[paradiseaddict]

Hey Kerry,

Yes that does suck... I know from experience. I remember once when my 6 yr old sister was sick... and she came up to me and said can you hold my hand..(she was upset)... So what did I do?? I pushed her out the door... This kind of guilt stays with you.

I was walking home last night and I saw this woman bending over a fence.. I think just leaning on it.. but my mind immediately said something else and I nearly had a heart attack. So how do you handle it when your kids are sick? I have the same issue with my partner... Im more concerned about whether he will be sick than being supportive. When I first meet someone I let them know that if they are ever sick they are on their own,that they ahve to tell me so I can leave the house.. BUT if its me that is sick.. I will need them right next to me holding my hand and comforting me. Unfair huh..

It sounds like you live in constant suffering. during that time of month... could you not take something for the nausea.. is the nausea a cause of stress or a cause of that time? Either way there are things to take.. anti nausea pills from the pharmacy. Oh gosh thinking about exposure therapy gives me a tummy ache.. I coudlnt do it! But what else is there.. were you too exposed too soon maybe?? How old are you and how far are you willing to go to try and fix it?

[paradiseaddict]

oh and I completely relate to when your kids are not acting themselves and it panics you... thats the worst. I find people get sick of me asking.. are you sure youre ok every 2 minutes!

[hadenough]

PMSL i ask my kids that so much especially in the car that the minute i turn around they say yes mummy we are fine lol.

I am extremely lucky in my husbnad he will do all the *v* duty whenever it happens which thankfully isnt very often. He has only been sick a few times since we have been together and yep sadly i stand far away and ask if he is ok then get cranky with him .

Im 37 and am looking into different things now for it mainly hypnosis at this point to try first just have to ring around.

At the moment id be happy to not think about it daily and not have the panic and anxiety attacks which then lead to a worse attack due to the sick feeling they give out

Do you have support for it ?

[julespet]

Hi Karen and Kerry,

I suffer from this phobia, I live in Western Australia

[hadenough]

Hi JULESPET,

So do you have any support with it ?
Do you have kids ?

[afraidnp]

Hi Julespet, I'm the same and I'm from WA too... I'v only ever met one other person from here that suffers with this.

[hadenough]

Hi Afraid NP

Ive actually met a few people with emet but none are close to me so it is hard and lonely most times

Do you have support ?

[julespet]

Hello

I have no support at all, no body in my family understands. I have asked doctors for help, and they ignore my questions. I have 3 children. I can not tend to them when they are sick, I leave than up to my partner.

JULIE

[hadenough]

Hi Julie,

Until i met my husband i had no support at all and it was horrid my family make a joke of it and me and love making the sound whenever im near . My mother didnt help either she would yell at me if i had a panic due to feeling N.

Is your partner ok with it as in do they support you

Kerry

[julespet]

Hi Kerry,

My partner can be supportive and other time gets upset with me. He just does not understand.

Hoe long have you had this phobia?

Julie

[patchie]

Hello Girls fom Australia, i am also australian and i live in the eastern suburbs of melbourne, my family knows that i am an emet and they are very supportive, my husband is also great, he will lie with me through my panic and anxiety attacks.

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and have been researching on here about v* in labour stages, i am also trying to find some information on when your own kids get gastro or something.... and how to cope.

[james84]

Hello all, i have just booked to go to Australia this winter. Was so looking forward to it till a friend started winding me up about how much turbulence there would be on such a long flight.. Now im just worried that im gunna get sick on the plane!! any experiences from london to sydney ?

[hadenough]

HI,

JULESPET... Ive had this for as long as i can remember . My husband finds it hard that i cannot rationalise when im in panic that i have felt this way a million times before and not been *s* but i still get myself worked up about it. Does your hubby have any phobia's ? I found by using my husband phobia of spiders i could get him to sort of understand how i felt but again its not the same but he did get it a bit more.

PATCHIE:: I had 3 natural labours and didnt *v* once they also are good are giving maxilon if you need it i wouldnt touch the gas as it can make you *s* but i found sucking on ice helped keep the nausea under control. In regards to the when they get *s* i am no help at all with that as i cant handle it at all but like you im lucky in the fact my husband is very supportive and will sit and try to comfort me through a panic and will look after the kids when they arent well. Good luck with the birth hope it all goes smoothly for you

JAMES:: I have never flown but i used to talk regulary to a friend who was Emet and she regulary travelled from here to England and never had a problem , i also have just had a friend come back from a holiday over there and again she never mentioned anything about a yuck trip either way and although she isnt emet she does like to tell everyone all those sorts of details lol
Hope you have a great flight try not to think about it and enjoy. How long you staying for and where abouts ?

Kerry

[james84]

Thanks for the reply,

I am going to Melbourne for most of the time, or thats the rough plan. Im on a one year working holiday visa. Booked for three months initially but can swop the flight if im enjoying myself . Really looking forward to doing this trip. Emet has held me back from doing a great deal..

Any tips or places I should defo see would be welcome.

[hadenough]

Im in New South Wales so cant help with any ideas while in Melbourne but im sure you will swap your flights lol

When do you come over ?

[patchie]

thanks Kerry, i have a feeling that when our kids are old enough to get sv* then it will be hubby that will do the looking after....... maybe it will help get over this...... i am not bothered about the spit up from burping the baby, just catching the sv* is what panics me, and also food poisoning?

Does anyone experience that here also with foods? I don't go to dinner anywhere only trusted places, i don't eat or drink at anyones house that has kids, if the house doesnt look clean i don't eat or drink there....... and believe it or not i am better than what i used to be because i have been to a clinical phycologist! LOL............. i am just actually chatting with my husbnd and telling him about my post, and we both agree that my avoidance is getting a bit out of control again so i think i might have to go back to the clinical pshycologist........ don't you just wish it would just go away... i hate living my life in fear

[hadenough]

Hi Patchie,

Yes i have issues with eating out i used to be pretty bad even at home i would hardly eat anything not that i was skinny either lol. But i have slowly started to eat a variety of foods i wouldnt touch for years but yes it does cause a panic but i try very hard to not let it go overboard but it is hard.
Tonight i crumbed my own steak and had veges and gravy with it and as it was something new i am now in a bit of a panic and feel yuck so lol i dont even have to go out to get paranoid.

I have a friend who isnt a very good house keeper i am in no way a freak with my house but my kitchen , bathroom's and toilet is always clean but having a lot of kids it gets messy often. But her house i will literally come home and have a shower and throw all my clothes in the washer. She is always asking me if i want something to eat or drink but i freak at the thought of it.

MMMMMM Maybe i should see someone again LOL

[Rheotron]

Hey guys, I'm Sam, I'm from Sydney. Same story as everyone else here. It sucks

[hadenough]

Hi Sam,

Where abouts in Sydney are you (dont have to say lol)

Are you married ? Kids ?

Do you have support ?

How is everyone else going ?

Kerry

[patchie]

Hey Kerry,

How did you go the other night with your meat and veges? I don't have a worry about food that i prepare....just food other poeple prepare.......... i have a friend like what you do and she has 2 kids and i am not sure why but i always feel grubby when i leave there!!!! I had to tell the midwife the other day that i was emet.... so that when it comes to the labour i was wondering what would happen...... do you ever get emotional when you discuss being emet? I do, i still have trouble saying it out loud, if i wasn't well, i wouldn't be able to get on here either and talk about it or anything, only after it has passed.

[patchie]

it is cool that there are other people from australia on here! this was a good post..... it is nice to see that there are poeple close by.

[hadenough]

Yeah i went ok LOL just stressed for a few hours as usual .

Yeah i hate telling people i have emet i have had bad experiences telling people even so called professionals that have made it even harder for me to tell people but at times you have to .
I have my hubby who is great and i also have a couple of really good friends one near me the other only phone help but i can always ring them if i need to for some reason hubby isnt home and i get stuck in a panic. I cant do it alone at all i just get worse to the point i cant hardly breathe.

So how long have you got to go now ?

[patchie]

Hey Kerry,

i have 7 weeks to go, i think that after all this time, it is only starting to hit me now.... and i think it might be because my tum is so big that i kinda have a little bit of a freak out, thinking wholey moley, that thing has to come out of me somehow!!! hahahaha..... but yeah getting slightly anxious about what to expect.

glad that you have some mates to lean on, i haven't told my mates the extent of the issue, some know that i am afraid of v* and that i am not very good with it, but ot to the extent where i wash my hands frequently and hate eating out etc.....

Do you have anything to take for your panic attacks? I take diazepam.... i had this for ages before i even considered taking it, as feared it would make me s*, but when the panic hits, it really helps with sleeping...

[hadenough]

No im to scared to take anything like you said to scared what it will make me feel like. Im lucky to take a panadol i had C/sections with the last few babies and i only had panadol after them as i heard morphine can make you *s* so i was to scared to use it to the point i made them remove the spinal straight away so i couldnt hit the button by mistake.

Yeah i didnt tell people for ages and am still very selective who i tell as i have had some treat me differently and eventually the friendship faded as i couldnt feel safe with them if you know what i mean so i was always making excuses if they invited me somewhere.

7 weeks will fly by do you know what you are having ? How exciting for you both im going now before i get clucky LMAO