Stephen

[Jenneh]

right... some NOT GOOD NEWS ABOUT STEPHEN!


before i start, i told u this wud happen, and i hope some of you learn a lesson from this.


Stephen has read that post, or the other post with it in it, calling him an attention seeker, thats makes up people's deaths.


i dont think any of you know how he feels right now.


can you imagine, just losing ur wife.. and coming on here to find that people have spread s*** about you doing it for attention??


ok, so you may think of it as a POSSIBILITY but next time for gods sake dont announce it on here like some news flash!


he said he's never coming on here agian, he regrets ever coming here and spending his time helping us, lightening things up, and hes changing his email address so he cant recieve any "apologies and other garbage from those from the IES group".


we ALL have been tarnished with the same brush... cant even IMAGINE what he thinks about me.. even tho i was backing him up the whole way, he;'s flicked me out the picture as fast as he's flicked eveyrone else out the pictre. altho can't say i blame him.


so.......... just thought some of you might like to know whats going on.... i know we're only on the internet, but this can be looked at as a proper life lesson.

[mbs730]

Yes well we know and I'm sorry for saying what I said, maybe its just best if we lay this to rest already</font>

[Jenneh]

ok, so you dont actually want to know about the where-abouts of Stephen.. but I did, and other people might.

[mbs730]

Well Jenneh I know how you feel about me okay? Its no
secret and I never said that, you said it and people know and I'm sure
they feel bad too about assuming that...but there is no point in
beating this to death anymore since the word is out lets just leave it
at that okay...</font>

[mystikal star]

Awww. I wasn't even aware of the situation going on here with Stephen.Did this happen when I took my 'break'? I wish he would come back. I thought he was a really nice guy. I wish him the best and I hope he's okay. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[sweetfreak]

Ummm...sorry...but I don't appreciate anyone saying that "we are all tarnished with the same brush". I am my own person, and would never involve myself in gossip about a person who cannot speak for him or herself. I don't need a "life lesson", thank you very much. If Stephen, and I don't know his situation, don't even know who he is, decided to leave because of things said about him, I don't blame him. It's his choice. Butthere are people in this world whodo pay attention to what they say, and are careful about hurting other people's feelings. So...please..donot shove me into some group and say we areALL the same.I don't feel guilty at all about Stephen choosing to leave, because I had nothing to do with it.Thank you for reading. I have said my peace.

[alliecat]

Wow...uhm...


sweetfreakall I have to say is lets not bite anyone else's head off here! This post was meant to be for those who wrote a postabout Stephen a while back. This was meant to be for the people who knew him, who spoke with him often, appreciated him and wanted to know where he was and what happened. If this didn't concern you or you weren't in that group of people, then disregard the post! There is no need to get hostile. Okie dokie.


I really dont like when this happens. We're supposed to be here for support of emetophobia and its related issues. There should never be a reason for any kind of hostility. This has seriously got to stop.


That's my two cents worth.


xoxo


Allie

[sweetfreak]

I was not being hostile. I said nothing to offend anyone. Where is there a hostile word in my post? I said please, thank you. I just don't like it when someone says we are all the same, that we are all to blame for something that someone else may have done. I am an individual, feel no guilt for what happened because I was not involved, and I just wanted to make that clear in case someone else may have felt the same way as I do. Thanks for reading.

[alliecat]

I know that, all I was mostly trying to get across was that if this post didn't apply to you, why did you have to say anything, you know? You made it sound as if she was directing it at you, when it was really meant for the people who were involved with that past thing. I don't mean to sound mean or anything... that was just how it seemed.


xoxo


Allie

[Babydoll]

holy cow. All I have to say is that I dont really know who stephen is and I stayed out of the whole topic until right now. Its toobad he had to leave, and if people had ganged up on me the way they did to him, I would have left to. I am glad I wasnt involved in any of the gossip.

[r311dude]

That's why we don't gossip. Case closed.

[sage]

This forum is just like life. Life can be a soap opera sometimes. And what's the most obvious problem in every soap opera storyline? PEOPLE DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER. Instead of going directly to the source when you have a problem, people often "triangle" in a third party. The life lesson (which is a good one)is that when you speak to anyone about anything at anytime - make it about YOURSELF. As soon as we start talking to one another about not ourselves, but a third party, the trouble begins.


This forum is meant to be a place where we come on and ask questions or make comments about ourselves, and others come on and relate their own story, or give the advice asked for. That's really when it works best.


Also, as is illustrated above, trying to glean emotional tone in a forum post, without having a person there in the flesh, is impossible. Hostility is implied, never stated - as are other emotions.


For instance, you could read this post of mine as though I'm angry and frustrated. OR you could read it like I'm just calmly typing information, in a rathter excited manner, cuz I love this "human relations" stuff. The latter is true!

[alliecat]

I realize that "hostility" wasn't the right way to say it, and I realized that after the fact... which is why you're supposed to think before you speak (or in this instance typing). I apologize to sweetfreak for saying that. I explained myself a little bit better the second time around...


xoxo


Allie

[Jenneh]

sweetfreak: its not me who's tarnishing anyone with the same brush. i'm just giving u the situation and saying TO THOSE who jumped their gun, let this teach u a lesson. if its nothing to do with you, then good, just lets not make an argument out of this.

[alliecat]

EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Thank you Jenneh! I'm just really bad with my words sometimes.


xoxo


Allie

[Jenneh]

lol. glad to be of some use in this place [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


Jen xxx

[sbias]

Or we could just talk about this now........And get it out of the way......



Considering I am one of the more vocal cast members in
this little play. You know what really just pisses me off? My e-mail
address is known, a lot of people here have spoken to me, not just
about emetophobia, but life in general, I know your fears, what makes
you happy, and I have shared and shared. Only two people e-mailed me,
and one of those e-mails was accusitive. My integrity, or anything even
remotely of that nature should have NEVER came in question by any of
you. I know some of you are upset, I needed some space, I needed away,
and I know a lot of people here don't feel the way some things were
understood by me.I didn't touch my computer to even play a game, and
damn how I do love my free cell.

This is supposed to be a place of healing, and by god it
sure as hell has helped me. I am currently seeing someone who has
helped me understand how my body reacts when I have an emetophobic
attack, and why I do the things I do when that happens. I would have
just suffered if I had never stumbled upon this place, now pay really
close attention to this part, I love several of the people here, I
spoke to you on a daily basis, you became part of my life, and I assume
I became a part of yours.

I tried to keep my responses up beat and up lifting, cause
when I first got here. There seemed to be a lot of depression, a lot of
sadness, and well, my god a lot of pain , and worry. I thought maybe
with me being totally stupid, I could crack a smile or two. I think I
did my job.

Now for the subject at hand, I actually was turning on the
computer on December 1st to talk to some of you, when I was reading
through the forum, and was just hit with a 30 pound anvil to the jaw.
Attention Seeker? I didn't want attention I wanted to get help, and
help people who sat up at night scared that the dinner they had earlier
was gonna come up on them. I have never asked for pity, I have never
asked anyone on here for anything, normally the first questions out of
my mouth or on the screen when you talked to me was "ARE YOU ALRIGHT?"

So here are the facts, I didn't go to Chicago to
meet Mary. Why? I was home with my son planning a huge Thanksgiving for
my family, and I was getting my stuff together. Is my ex-wife gone?
Yes, Yes she is. And that is the last we will ever speak of things
along that nature again. I have a feeling, that most personal things on
here should be kept that way. Personal. I know several people did not
feel that way, and like always you have my respect, and I would love to
have you over for a cook out, but we are emets, so no one would eat,
but I do know who did, and I do know what was said, please spare me
your half assed apologies, or well what was I supposed to thinks.
Kindly just don't speak to me. I have nothing to say to you, and you
have nothing to say to me.

Sage there is absolutely no reason to delete this post, I
mean no hostility or ill will towards anyone on here. And I will gladly
respond to anyone who wants my help, or wants to talk about how crappy
this little phobia is.

Now can we please talk about something else?



Birds?

Nuclear Physics?

The Weather?

The Effects Cows have on the Ozone Layer?



Stephen

[kmarie]

Hey stephen just wantedwelcome back! Glad to hear from you!!! and I hope all si going well.


Keep in touch!

[ejb199]

Hey Stephen - welcome back!
ive kinda been trying to keep a safe distance from this kinda stuff on the forum - i have been coming here for over 3 years now and your right - it IS a safe haven - its something that has helped me too immensly. I hope it can continue helping you too.

i noticed the birds the other night - i was sat in the garden - retching (i have been poorly) and i could hear in the silent of the night - the birds singing - it was quite calming really. the weather is pretty s**t here in the UK - just dull. i dunno abt cows - but those black poos are gonna have a hugggggeee affect on the planet now - (for anyone who already read my pepto bismol worries) LOL

ems x

[party_boi3423]

Yeah welcome back stephen! In major agreement with ejb199 about the weather! I hope you and your son are well!


Best Wishes and once again welcome back, Chris

[alliecat]

WELCOME BACK STEPHEN!! ITS NICE TO HAVE YOU BACK!![img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


xoxo


Allie

[sbias]

Well first off I saw the Birds when i was a child so I kinda ignore them........



Anyone ever had a movie scene disturb them as a child and they never
really got over it? Stupid me saw too many movies, and well I have
several of those.



As for cows......... Well I live in West Virginia so I love cows. Not
that West Virginia automatically makes you love cows, or farm animals
for that reason, in fact forget that lat line, and maybe the line
before that. They are everywhere. Not like in the street or nothing...
But you can find em if you look.



Ahh the weather, WE had a thunder strom today, and anyone whom knows
where I live it is Dec. 10th we should be COVERED in snow by now, but
all we get is nice 50 degree weather, and rain... I tell you them cows
are screwing up the ozone layer.



Oh and thank you all I missed you too.......... Maybe we can all get together and sing Imagine by John Lennon.

[kentuckygalrk]

Stephen... I am so glad you are back and I've missed you being around here because I was one of those people you made feel better and I'll never forget that!


As for the subjects you mentioned... Birds... I hate 'em, they s**t on my car right after I wash it! Nuclear Physics... I'm sure that's just another subject I'd fail miserably in! The weather... well I live in Kentucky (duh!) close to W. Va and it's been decent here too except it's supposed to snow tomorrow and I have to travel so I'm wishing it wouldn't, fingers crossed we don't get any ice storms this year. And I know nothing about cows and the ozone layer, lol, so I'm lost on that one!


And... last but not least, movie scenes that have disturbed me... the scene in ET where the governmenttakes him away and the most disturbing movie scene ever for has been the scene in Green Mile with the execution of both the mouse guy (can't remember his name, but the one with the water cloth) and the main characters execution. Never have I cried so hard in a movie in my entire life!


So there ya go! Again, I'm happy that you're back... I think you're an asset to this forum, but if you decide not to stay thenplease let those of us who care about you know how you're doing sometimes...


~Rachel

[wing]

Hello Stephen ^-^ hmm..birdies? I like birdies, i have a budgie and its adorable! ^_^ ehehe..Dont know much about science although at the moment its kinda killing me..chemistry..@_@ Weather..lets see..its been raining alot here in NY..

[NCsmile6]

Howdy Stephen! Welcome back!


BIRDS!! My first pets were birds...budgies named Petri and Orlando. Gosh I missed them!! We had to give them away when we moved from Canada to Texas. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]Petri was green and yellow and Orlando was white and blue. God, I loved those birds!!! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


WEATHER...not much to say, except no white Christmas here. But what did I expect, it's Texas right! It's not even cold outside!!


NUCLEAR PHYSICS...So...about the weather....[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


COWS EFFECT ON THE OZONE LAYER...So about the birds...[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[Hale]

Welcome back Stephen. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[Jenneh]

big huge welcome back hug Stephen [img]smileys/smilies_18.gif[/img]


tis wicked to have ya back in town.


hope ur here to stay... u deserve to be here more than the rest of us.


Jen xxxx

[sbias]

To be honest with you I never really left, I just took
some time to myself, I never had any intention of leaving, it's just I
wanted to spend some time getting my head together and relaxing, trying
to not worry about being ill, and really messing with Andrew over the
last few weeks.

I was going to post, I had every intention of doing so,
but like I said I didn't mess with my PC much, if at all. I'll admit I
was angry, hell I am still a tad pissed, but why let 2 or 3 very small,
and destructive persons destroy a very good thing. I think I posted
this once before, if you don't like the person living next door,
don't speak to them. I am a little too old to be flinging obscenities
around a message forum, ecspecially one that has decent people, that
want help and want to be cured. So a few people rub me the wrong way,
that is life you know? Not everyone can get along.

But enough about that, all it does is bring to the surface
a bunch of trash, and this place is too classy for that. Drew is fully
aware of my emetophobia now. I have made him aware of it, I sat him
down and talked to him about it. He somewhat understands, Drew can't
stand to have a closet door open in his room at night when he goes to
bed. I tried to explain to him, the beauty behind his fear is that he
can get up and close the door, and all is well. I used the "what if the
door wouldn't stay closed?" line of questioning, and it helped him a
little. So if I am having a bad evening Drew can tell, and understands
what is going on. I am more receptive towards my attacks now, but I do
not miss meals, and I do not stop myself from leaving the house.

Thank all of you for the kind words. You have my deepest respect.



Stephen

[sweetfreak]

I just wanted to say hi Stephen. Glad to finally know who you are, and I my sincerest sympathy for your loss.


Also, I am apologize to Jenneh if I may have seemed a bit hostile in my post earlier. I just didn't want YOU to feel guilty about something that you had no reason to be. We all feel enough guilt in life as it is without adding any that is needless.

[sunshine16]

Stephen!! Omg your back! OMG THIS IS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE EVEN THO I HAVE THE DAMN FLU!!!


Okay I really missed a lot here...but hey your back and thats all that matters! YAY!!! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]