Just to vent! :(

[BrightStars]

Okay, so I'm 18 - I don't like going out clubbing, drinking could make me sick and if I don't drink I don't see any point in me going. Also other people could be sick and send me into panic. My mum is continiously telling me I need to get a life because when she was my age she was out all the time doing this that and the other and that its weird I don't - even without this phobia I don't see myself enjoying those sorts of places anyway! So I feel weird for that, she calls me childish when I ask things about my sisters life even though she hacks a 15 yeat old girls facebook and talks to her friends! I just find it hurtful. Also I am told I am going to get kicked out soon for my attitute because I become uptight when they don't understand my phobia and why I do some odd things, I really don't mean to, I just do snap I know I shouldn't. I suffer with depressive that mixes things up in my head anyway, the few guys I have LET myself have feelings for (I seem to be very closed in fear of getting hurt) have turned out jerks, the last guy was so sweet and kind and now for the past for weeks was being blunt and mean. I just feel like an awful person - my own parents have told me they wish I was dead in one way or another or told me to go die, now I even struggle with guys who seem to go straight off me when they dig further then my looks. I just feel so down, and I wanted to vent! Sorry to bum anyone out and please tell me if this post Is to much I will removed it - just having a down night I suppose. Hope your all well

[BrightStars]

Sorry for my spelling mistakes! Just read through - must of been more het up then I realised :|

[wargerbil]

Don't take this the wrong way -- but your post REALLY made me not miss being a teenager!! That said, things will get better. You don't have to go out clubbing or drinking to have fun with friends. I used to like to go to movies, go to the diner and hang out well beyond when they wanted to give us free coffee refills, invite people over and make fancy dinners, have game nights, movie nights, etc.. You SHOULD get out, staying home all the time isn't going to help anything, you just need to find some low-key friends and do low-key things with them!

[BrightStars]

Thanks wargerbil, I go get out. It drives me crazy staying in! I have very low-key friends but it just makes me feel weird for not wanting to go drinking with friends

[bixzy]

I can understand what you're going through since I'm 21. I'm not big on drinking. I know that one/two drinks isn't going to make me sick so I usually stick to that.
Sometimes I don't drink at all.
I remember one night i was with my confusing ex boyfriend and we were at friends and it was a pretty decent size party. Everyone was drinking except me lol. And when they asked why I wasn't drinking I just told them because I didn't want to. They looked at me like I was weird but they didn't really care. We all still had a good time and no one said another word about it.
You can still go out and not drink and stuff.

[TheSweetThinker]

If it makes you feel better, I'm a teenager too and I'm not interested in partying, clubbing or drinking either! Those kinds of activities aren't for everyone, and there's no standard with which you need to comply in order to be accepted by people....I'm going to be cliche here and advise you to just be yourself; in doing so, you're bound to run into people with whom you'll get along very well, because they'll know and understand the real you and will therefore love you sincerely.

I think any phobia can bring out the worst in anybody, but don't let your phobia or phobic behaviors define you! More importantly, don't let others define you either, including your mom....if it's any consolation, you don't sound childish or weird to me.

Sorry to hear that your parents are giving you a hard time...frankly, it really isn't right of them to say such mean things to you, especially if you're feeling rather depressed. Is there a counselor/therapist available at your school or college? Talking with someone who can help you cope and even overcome your problems is always beneficial. =)

Hope things get better for you soon....just remember that plenty of us on this site have gone through emet-related relationship issues very similar to yours, so you're not alone in your situation!