Boyfriend=Migraine with V*

[Valerie13Ann]

So I went to my boyfriend's tonight. And he had a small headache when I got there so I told him to take tylenol. And he did and it went away for a while. Then we were laying on his couch he complained his eyes crossed when he looked up. Then his eyes hurt, then it turned into a full blown migraine. So we laid there for a while and I decided I wanted to go home. He stood up and of course said he felt like he was going to v*. This has been going on at least once or twice a month the entire 2 years we have been dating. And I told him to go to the doctor and he never listens to me. I'm not really anxious that I will catch germs if he does v* cause I know I can't catch a migraine. I'm just terribly anxious and worried about him. And he will not listen to me to go to the doctor. So I told him tonight if he does not make an appt. for the doctor tomorrow for his migraines, I will not be happy or see him until he does. I know that sounds mean, and we never fight ever. Only a few smalllllll very smalll arguments here and there. Mainly when I pms lol. But I cried the entire way home. I'm anxious that theres something really wrong not even really the fact that he v*s. Just that I know its not normal. And me being anxious about every little thing, I am so worried about him So really this post is just a vent, but I'm so anxious right now and worried about him. I still feel like crying. Please anyone with any suggestions talk with me. I'm so sad and anxious. And a little angry with him. But then that makes me cry cause I feel like I was too mean to him. Ugh. am I overreacting? I'm so worried about him.

[Valerie13Ann]

Anybody? please?

[TheSweetThinker]

My sister once had the same problem....chronic headaches that were close to migraines....but after she went to the doctor, it turned out that she just needed glasses! Does your boyfriend already wear glasses or contacts? It seems odd that the need for glasses would present itself via migraines, but if your eyes really do need them (even if you don't know it), then it's straining them to try and see properly without glasses. It also may explain why his eyes hurt or were crossed. If anything, maybe your boyfriend would be less reluctant to visit an eye doctor than a regular GP.

And vomiting associated with migraines isn't that uncommon....it's just the pain that causes it most of the time.

I don't know what else to tell you, because you can't really force someone to go to the doctor's....just keep urging him to do so, though. Eventually it may wear him down to see your constant concern, so he'll probably cave in soon enough!

[Valerie13Ann]

Thank you so much for your reply! I feel a lot better (except for feeling bad to sounding mean to him, but I dont know what else to do to get him to go.) My boyfriend wants to be a doctor one day! but he wont even go to one himself hahah. He's soooo stubborn. He is going to school for radiology technologist right now and he is at the top of his class and always says he will be a doctor one day. haha. Anyways, you know I have thought of the glasses thing, even though he always tells me he has 20/20 vision. But when he does homework he does lean very very close to the paper. But he also writes very small so I dont know if he does that because he is trying to be precise with his writing or what? But that has crossed my mind. I dont know. I'm just so worried about him. I don't want it to be anything really bad if you know what I mean. I hate being an anxious person. I worry about him so much when he is sick like this.

[Valerie13Ann]

Ugh. Now I'm just feeling terrible for saying what I did. I want to talk to him but I'm pretty sure he's sleeping. Sometimes when I worry I end up saying stuff I regret. But at the same time, I really want him to go to the doctors. His migraines has effected a lot of stuff we have wanted to do. We missed half of Steelers training camp last year (National football team in the united states) where we could have got autographs of the players and met them. But we didnt because he got a migraine and kept v*ing. Also last weekend we missed fireworks because he got a migraine and was v*ing. I'm not mad at him for getting the migraines, I'm just upset at him that he won't do anything about it. And I'm also not scared of him v*ing, cause I know I can't catch his migraine symptoms. I just hate that he's in pain and I'm so worried and tonight I broke down and cried for a good while. His parents dont seem to be too concerned, but I am cause I'm a generally anxious person. Ugh. I wish I wasn't. But if I didn't love him, I wouldnt worry, right?

[Naketa Parham]

Ur so right,u worry cause u do love him,and my situation is the other way around,its my husband that watches me suffer everday from nausea! Im starting to wonder if he thinks that its all in my head,and to tell u the truth me to! It feels so real though! Everday i am nauseated..i find myself questioning God as to shy i have to suffer the way i do, i dont really feel my husband is supporting me the way he should be either,its like im in this bubble by myself, i feel so isolated! Sometimes i can just suffer through it,and other times i drive myself to the hospital, just to get the shot of anti-nausea meds! Geez wht will i be like when i get older? If im this sick at 28!

[Valerie13Ann]

Aw, Naketa. I know exactly how you feel. I'm 24, and me and my boyfriend are finishing school and going to get our lives started (by the way he feels fine today, he bounced back so quick its nuts). If that were me I'd be n* for days due to anxiety of being n*. But I always worry what the heck am I gonna do when I'm older and live on my own. Am I gonna be anxious all the time? I don't want to be. I hate being an anxious person.