Really upset about death of pet

[x hannah x]

My hamster Beano died yesterday morning and I already miss him so much. I don't know if it's pathetic to be this upset about a hamster but why should a hamster be of less value than any other animal? He was my baby! I feel like there is this gap now. Like I used to take him out every evening and give him a bit of carrot or something, and now I can't do that. His cage used to be on the window sill and now there is this big space where he used to be. And I feel guilty because the night before he died, I had him out and he peed on my lap so i put him back and he'd only been out for a couple of minutes. I don't understand how it happened either, he had food and water and he was eating like normal, he didn't seem ill. My mum just went in to give him some broccolli and he was alll curled up in his bed and didn't wake up. Has anyone else lost a pet and now what I'm going through?

[mitch4133]

I am so very sorry about your loss. Losing a pet is like losing a part of your family. Sometimes we are even closer to our pets than anyone else. And just because you lost a hamster doesn't make him any less of a pet. He was a part of your life, and you can't forget that. I know how hard it is to loss a pet, and again I am very sorry for your loss. Try and remember all the good times you had with him, and don't ever forget them.


What was his name? How old was he?


Again I am sorry.


Michele

[SimplyMe]

Awww, I'm really sorry for your loss. Michelle is absolutely right, he was your pet, a member of your family and you love him, there is nothing pathetic about that and nothing pathetic about missing him. I have lost pets too and it is hard, they are such a part of your daily life and then one day not there anymore, that is a difficult adjustment.It will take time but you are allowed to feel sad and cry and grieve for him, like you said he was your baby. Keep us posted on how your'e doing sweetie. You and Beano will be in my thoughts and prayers.Edited by: SimplyMe

[madisonsmom]

Im sorry for your loss. A pet is a best friend...no matter what type of pet. Hang in there!!

[2jo2]

I'm so sorry Hannah, Beano was your friend and you shouldn't feel any different because of what he was. He held a special place in your heart and it's ok to grieve for him. Just think of the memories you have of him and feel blessed for the time that God gave you to have this wonderful little soul in your life. I'll be thinking of you.

[x hannah x]

Thanks so much for all your replies. Michele, his name was beano and he was 2 and a half. I named him Beano because his eyes are pink. (Albino. It was funny at the time) Thanks again.

[terified girl]

I lost my budgie after 4 years of having him, it was tough the first couple of days but it did pass for me and I'm sure it will for you too.


He was an awesome bird, when he sang it sounded like there were 10 of them, and my Dad gave him to me, which he also passed away 4 years ago, so there was a big attachment with that bird.


You will get better, and fortunately for us, we can replace animals, unlike humans! So go out and get yourself another friend in a while, it'll help alot. You'll have a new friend and always remember Beano.


Take care

[ChippedAway]

I'm sorry Hannah, it is so very hard losing them, they're like a part of the family.


I lost my first horse when I was 16 years old, and I can't think of a sadder time in my life than that. I felt like I was losinga brother, a child, my soul mate. It seems weird to say, but that's just how I felt (and still feel about him). The pain never completely goes away, but it does dull with time.


Please don't feel guilty, you had no way of knowing and I'm sure Beano knew how much you loved and cared about them, animals ALWAYS know. I felt guilty for a long time about Roy too, because a few days before he was put to sleep he had lost a shoe and it was my last week of school my junior year and I was going to be working at a camp, so I was busy with staff training and school ending and thought "well I can't ride him without a shoe anyway"... but that was the first time I had never not gone out because of that, before when he'd lose shoes I'd always go out and just brush him and be with him. But, the guilt has gone, it helps nothing and there is no doubt in my mind that that special guy knew how important he was to me.

[ChippedAway]

One more note... can get another pet soon? Nobody can fill Beano's shoes, but it does help to have another to love. I got my mare just 10 days after I lost my boy, that was probably too soon because of circumstances, but starting off making a relationship with her was the best thing to heal me. I still have her now and as long as she lives she will have a home with me, she's been a great confidant and teacher. As well as a big shoulder to cry on.

[redapple]

i'm sorry to
hear about beano, hannah. how you are feeling is totally normal,
even though he was only a hamster, he was a happy part of your daily
routine. some of my worst memories are the losses or pets, and i
also agree that maybe you should get a new hamster soon--soem of the
greatest healings for me was getting new pets and enjoying how alike
they were to the ones i'd loved in the past, plus the new things the
brought to my life as well. I love animals, i have 3 dogs and a
cat, i miss them so much while i'm away at univ. i promise time
will heal you, soon you will have only good feelings when you remember
beano. </span>



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