feeling nervous about last year

[jennyhud]

Hey guys....


I have a dilemma and I feel so silly about it but I needed some support. My sister in law called a few days ago and invited my husband and I to her daughters 2nd birthday party March 12. She is having friends and kids over from 5-7 and the family will stay on after to visit, etc., Well, last year, Damon and I went to the party and EVERYONE but 2 people came down with this SEVERE stomach flu a day to two days after the party. I am talking HORRIBLE. My husband went to work the following Monday and felt very nauseous all morning and ended up leaving---v* off the highway on the way home from work and continued to be severly ill all day long. I was a wreck. I cried in my bedroom (he was in the spare room and spare bathroom)---just hearing him get sick was so hard for me. And of course, I was terrified that I was going to be the next victim. I called the dr. to see if we could get him suppositories or something to stop the illness, but we would have had to go in and he was too sick to even go. I asked the nurse what my chances were of getting the bug and she said, "well, you'll probably get it too." I freaked out and was nervous the rest of the week. I never got the bug. But, after talking to my sister in law about my husband, she told me that all those people had been ill with the same thing after the party. See, my sister in law is not really into being that clean. She had all these kids running around fingering all the food, not wiping the table, not washing their hands, etc., AND SHE IS A NURSE!!!!!


So, here we are one year later, and we are going back. I tried to get out of it, but my husband wants me to go and spend the day with his family and I am a nervous wreck. I told him that he has to wash his hands alot, not eat out of anything that is sitting around (they had fishy crackers in a bowl for the kids last year and everyone was digging around in those and snacking). He doesn't want to be sick like that again--so he said he would be extra careful. I certainly don't want to catch anything either---but I am a preschool teacher and probably have a pretty high immunity and keep my hands extra clean.


Any advice???? Any words of support?? I can't tell his family about the emet. because they would think I was a freak. Really, they aren't the nicest or most understanding of families. Thanks, Jen

[baseballplaya12]

You'll be ok an instance like that one is very rare...im sure it won't happen
again this time...Just be careful you know the routine youre a preschool
teacher...

[ontariogirl]

Hi Jen, Well at least your husband knows where you are coming from;not wanting to go through what he did the last time! You and your husband will be fine. You both know to wash your hands. Washing the hands is the key thing to do. Go and have fun, enjoy yourselves.

[jennyleigh1975]

Jen, I am glad that your husband is supportive and understanding of you with this phobia. I also understand how you cant help but think, well, this happened last year, what if it happens this year too? I would be thinking the same thing. I think sometimes we have to step back and realize that was probally just one isolated incident and the possibility of it happening again is proablly slim. Maybe you could try just asking around and seeing if anyone says something about being sick, or a sickness going around and if there is, then you could just go to the party, socialize for a little while and then leave. When "V" is involved I have no problem being anti-social!! LOL!!

I cant believe your doctor wouldnt phone your hubby in something last year when he was sick, why make someone that sick go to a doctors office? Geesh!!

I hope that you all have a good time at the party, let us know how things go.

[terified girl]

I would react the same way as you Jen, but like you said, you and your husband will be extra careful. And think of it this way, you didn't catch it last year, and because you will be even more cautious this year, I think you can be sure you'll be safe.


And just in case you notice your hubby not being as careful as he said, don't kiss him for a few days!!! lol


So try to have fun when you go!


Take care

[donna1216]

I totally understand, it's my own kids who always get sick on the day of their birthdays and/or parties--I just posted about being nervous about a sick family who was at church and the party!!

[jennyhud]

Thank you guys! I am trying not to be so nerved out about this ----or superstitous!!! lol! But, you know---you replay things in your mind and it makes you fret. Thank you for the support---I will definetly tell you all how it goes---the party is on March 12. Countdown........ Jen