Well I’m gonna try and be a real mum

[maxfox]

I've given up work to be a stay at home mum, I went back to work when my little one was 5 months old and she is 3 now and i feel i've missed so much, my eldest is 6 now, i went back because i felt that my emet was ruling my life and i wasn't bringing the girls up in a healthy environment constantly asking the eldest if she had tummy ache or did she feel sick but i want to be at home with them so we have decided that my partner is gonna go back to work and i'm gonna stay home, i'm even gonna enrol in college and see if i can get some qualifications for when the girls are older. ooooooooh scary business.


Well time will tell (or the first bug will ha ha) [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


xx

[skinnyme]

I am a stay at home mom. This is what I wanted for my kids... not for me. I love that my kids are with me and not in daycare all day. My oldest daughter spent years in daycare and I felt bad, but being a single mother I had no choice. I find it difficult staying home with them, partly because I was always a worker. But to have the luxury of being able to be with them all day and raise them yourself is wonderful. My husband and I do without alot of "extras" in life but it does not bother me because I know someday I will go to work full time when the kids are grown. Good luck to you!

[2jo2]

Good for you!!! I was a daycare kid, my mom was a single parent and had to work and I went to a little pre-pre-school type thing. My mom has said many many times that if she could do it over, she'd have been a stay at home mom for my brother and I. I knew no different, so I don't feel I was cheated. I commend you in making that decision for your kids. Good luck!

[jennyleigh1975]

I am a stay at home mom also. I also made this choice for my children. My mother stayed at home with me and I wanted to do the same for my children. There was a time when I wasnt able to due to the amount of bills we had. My oldest daughter spent several yrs in daycare. I think staying at home or working can be hard for a mother. There are pros and cons to both and you just have to do what is right for you and your family. I will go back to work one day, when I am ready.

You are a real mom no matter whether you stay at home or work, either one is a very demanding job!!!!

[maxfox]

Thanx


I do feel better for having made the decision, I know they miss me when I'm at work especially in my last job where I was doing 12 hour shifts, sometimes starting at 4.30am and other shifts finishing at midnight, I never saw them. Mind you I do feel sorry for mums that have to work cosI remember the weird looksI used to get whenI saidI had kids to work colleagues, they would make me feel like the worst mum on earth, I really get the impression that you are totally expected to just give up on any sorta work when you have children, I dont know if its the same in the states??????? We have such appalling maternity pay and leave here and the childcare is so inflexible and unless you earn an absolute fortune most people cant even afford it!

[madisonsmom]

I have been working full time days 9-5 since Madison was 8 weeks old. She is getting ready to turn 1 on March 1st and I feel like I have missed her "babyhood." I have recently taken a leave of absence. (Oh BTW I have 3 children...a boy who is 14, a boy who is 6 and a girl 1). I have decided to go back part time and work every other weekend and a few days a week, actually evenings. I will be working around my husbands hours so our kids will always be with him or I. I really, really, want to be a stay at home mom....but working like this I will be home SO much more. I really do need some income because we live in a 3 bedroom house. We need 4 bedrooms.


Good for you on your decision. They are only little once. I went to college when my sons were 2 and 10 yrs...to be a nurse. We struggled while I went to school but I made it. Good luck to you! I envy you!

[shiva]

Being a mommy is the most important job one could ever, ever do. Especially one who does it well and has a lot of love to offer. I think it's great that you've made this choice and I wish you luck with school.

[donna1216]

I agree, being a mommy is so important!!! I was working part time and my husband was home with the girls while I was at work, but it just wasn't right for me. I need to be at home with them, I need to get them dressed (or not, haha), know what time they've eaten breakfast and lunch, what they've eaten for breakfast, whether or not they had a nap, etc. I just felt out of control and not really with it, I'm a horrible slob and disorganized as it is, and working and not knowing what was going on with the girls during the day just made me feel more disorganized!! My family does with out a lot of things, Greg is in school almost finished with his bachelor's degree (16 more weeks!!) but both of us feel that me being with my children is what I was meant to do--it's the one thing I am good at (Unless they are throwing up!!). I wish I could balance a job and my babies, but I am just not cut out for it!!

[redapple]

Good for
you! I think you will have a big part of you feel good, just
being able to be with your kids so much more often. And they will
LOVE it too!!</span>