For those of you who have lower self esteem, do you have this problem as well? I always find myself giving people these explanations as to why Im doing this or that, or just answering things that really are none of the other persons business, but I feel like I need to explain so that they won't think things or something.


Here's an example: Ok I went on this South Carolina trip last summer with my dad, his fiance, and their daughter (who is 15)and her friend, and well we had breakfast the first morning (us 3 girls went first, it was buffet style, while they got the car ready), and I had very little (emet was acting up, you know how that is!) and well then we got back to the car dad's fiance asked what we had eaten (like as tho we were 2 yr olds for petes sakes) and stupid me I should have been like "well you know I am 21 and I dont think you really need to know what I eat, because its not your business", but nope I meekly told my meager meal, and then she made an anorexia comment. Now if I just had the self esteem to say what she deserved to hear, then that wouldnt have happened. I didnt owe her any explanation. But yet I keep falling for it time and again!


Also I seem to have this chronic problem of well, obsessing over what people are going to think of me, especially if my decision is well, may be ridiculed. I think this is also a self esteem problem. I know that I need to NOT CARE so much because it is MY life, yet time and again I find myself thinking "oh no whats so and so going to think of this or that?" Do those of you with esteem problems also face this too? Have any of you been able to get through this or over this?