Need Advice!!

[winnieag]

I feel like such a horrible person right now. The holidays have passed and I still haven't called my good friend - the fact is, I'm afraid to. My friend has had a condition called Gastroparesis for years. This is where you spontaneously V*. You have no warning and you don't even feel sick. I don't want to get you guys anxious about this - but this is what I'd like some advice on... A few months ago, we were on the phone just chatting away and all of a sudden - yes- she began to V*. I stayed on the line and heard it all. After she stopped, she said that she was sorry because she knows how I feel about that. However, she continued our conversation like nothing happened. It is that commonplace to her. Needless to say, I couldn't wait to get off the phone. I felt so sick! I love this person very much, but I just can't risk that happening again. I don't even go to see her at her home. She doesn't go out much at all. We worked together for years and she had to quit because of this. She has kind of stopped calling me too, so I think she knows that the whole thing really freaked me out. How can someone with this phobia have a friend with this kind of condition?? Talk about emet ruling your life...I feel so pathetic. Thanks for "listening." Linda

[Lola444]

don't feel horrible, the same way that she can't help her condition, you can't help yours...if you could you would eh. Would it have been better if she had put the phone down and then called you back, if that would help then tell her. what about thinking about the positives, you can't 'catch' anything and look at how she deals with it so well, i kinda admire people that don't care! why don't you tell her that you find it so difficult and perhaps, she'll come back with some ideas so your friendship can continue. Either way, this is not a concious decision for you so don't beat yourself up. Best Wishes x