A step in the right direction!! :-)

[Jellybean5]

Hi everyone,

Well Happy New Year to you all firstly, my year has started with a little success story I would like to share with you all :-)

Having escaped the dreaded bug throughout December, including my sons birthday party, Christmas and New Year, my son was struck down with a rather violent bug on new years day!!! He first complained of a tummy ache and was very quite which is really unlike him, I look him to his room for a rest and he quickly had the onset of a fever :-( I took time to cool him down and monitor his temperature but the whole time I was very fearful and cautious. He slept through the night so no waking up panicking but the next morning as soon as he woke up he was tearful and anxious, telling me he felt the same as yesterday (he's 6 years old by the way). Within 20 minutes it all started :-( ......but something was different! ME!

I was calm, I had spent the night sleeping in his room and my attitude seemed to be, well if I'm gonna catch it I'm gonna catch it! He was really very poorly and while he was V* he said to me and his dad "do you remember mommy when I was sick on daddy last time" (this was a year ago, just after his 5th Birthday), I said yes, then he said "I remember you Mommy saying, I can't do this, I can't do this"!!!! :-( That was it for me, I spent the whole day with him, helping him, comforting him and reassuring him (this is something I would have left totally to my husband before, thought fear of catching the bug). I decided there and then that I couldn't allow my fear to be passed onto him, he was already showing little signs of emet in the run up to him being ill and I really don't want him to suffer as I have done of the years! I was 100% on top of hygiene of course, which we all should be but I really feel that this is a huge step forward for me :-) Finally!

And guess what......no signs of illness in myself and my husband as yet :-)

Just wanted to share this little success story with you, hope it may help a little, Mandy xx

[Paisley]

This is a HUGE step in the right direction! Good job! It's amazing what, as mothers, we CAN do for our children when it finally clicks that they need us and that we're going to turn them into fearful little germaphobes if we don't change our behaviour around them. Good job!

[mseney2]

Congrats!! You know my phobia is worst when it's just a possibility. Once it hits the house and I take precautions and begin to take care of kids I am fine. I think I stress most about hte where and when and how. But that's such an awesome step for you!!

[olschesky]

way to go.........seems your son has helped you to see the light.......sounds you will be having a fabulous new year

[Sarahhollin]

That's so amazing i was wondering though did you have emetophobia whilst you were pregnant because even though im young i always think about the future i would love to have children but the thought of being pregnant and having morning sickness terrifies me to my core.

[Jellybean5]

Hi there, I did have emet when I was pregnant, it was a hard descision to make as my emet was really bad before I decided to take the plunge and have a baby. I was constantly nauseous for the whole 9 months but never actually V*. I did however V* during labour due to drugs but to be honest in that situation it was like water off a ducks back. Please don't let this horrible phobia control such a life changing decision. I know it's hard but if it's any help my emet did lessen for a few years after I had my little boy. The anxieties built up again but after this latest experience I can honestly say I feel much more in control now.....and it's all thanks to my little boy xxx

[zipity]

That's so awesome. Congrats! I've noticed too, that when my son has v (he's 2 1/2) I've been surprisingly calm. I'm pretty sure it was carsickness each time but I didn't know at the time if it was contagious. There's something about seeing your child sick that makes nothing else matter.

Responding to the pregnancy question also, I stopped taking my zoloft when I got pregnant so I got a little anxious at times but knowing I had a precious little baby growing inside me made it all worth it. I didn't get too nauseous. I had about a week where I just didn't have an appetite and no food looked or smelled good. I was concerned about v during labor, but I told the nurses and doctors about it and they were very nice and understanding. and like Jellybean said, if I had v while in labor, I don't even think I would have cared much. I had been in labor for 31 hours when I finally told them I wanted a c section. Then of course I was worried about v in the operating room too but I didn't.