can you tell your friends?

[rhi*]

i am new to this site and am rly glad ive found it as i have never met or tlked to someone with emet before!


i just want to know if any one here has ever been able to tell there friends before? i have had this fear all my life but have never been able to tell my friends in the fear that they would think i was stuped.


please give your opinions


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[ontariogirl]

I felt that way before than I thought no way this has ruined my daily living and if I am open about it people will understand me and why I am the way I am

[swiftette]

Hi Rhi, If your friends really are true freinds, they will love and respect you regardless of your fears. They may not understand the depths of this phobia, but lets face it, no one WANTS to be nauseous or vomit, so they will be able to see where your coming from. The only time I worry aboutmy friendsin regards to this phobia, is the obsessing. I fear I will "wear them out"with all my constant worrying and questioning and the distance I sometimes need from then when I am having a period of major anxiety. That is why I am so glad I can come here, with people who also have this phobia. I'll be willing to bet even one or two of your friends have an irrational fear that they are afraid of admitting to. So do'nt worry about your friends.[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[jesskali]

I have told some of my friends about having emet, but I have never told ANYONE how serious it is to me. I have tried to tell my husband but I'm not sure how seriously he takes me!

Jess

[hippychick]

Iusually just tell people in a joking way if we are talking about fears and phobias or V* comes itno the conversation I will just say something like "oh no, I can't stand it, seriously!" and people nod and understand like "yeah it IS pretty gross" LOL only a few people know how serious it is for me but I find if you can joke about it or play ir down people dont treat you like a freak but also have enough respect not to V* near you. And those who dont? Are not worth being friends with!


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[mitch4133]

I haven't told any of my friends. They know I don't like v*, but they have no idea the extent of my fear. The only person that really knows is my boyfriend. My family knows that I am scared when I feel sick, and that I am scared to v*, but they don't know that I have a hard time eating cause of it. I blame it all on my recent illness and surgery. But, one of my ex-coworker, who is also a friend, googled my name, or some how found that I was posting things about my fear. He confronted me on the issue, and I told him everything. He was surprisingly very understanding, seeing he was always one to jokingly tease me. I told him all about my fear, and he said that it put a lot of things into perspective about me. He always thought that I had an eating disorder (which I do, but not the one he thought). He told me that he thought that I thought I was to fat, and all that, and I told him about how I am scared to eat, etc... It was weird, I thought I would get made fun of, but he actually was very kind and understanding.


So maybe I should tell my friends, but I just don't want them to think I am some kind of nut, so I keep it to myself.

[jennyleigh1975]

My close friends and family know about my phobia. I just dont think they realize just how bad it is for me. Most everybody is understanding and respectful of my fear, with the exception of my soon to be sis in law. I can already tell Im gonna have to have a little talk with her.

[kate1966]

I have never told my friends....i would be too embarrased....maybe they would understand.....but i doubt it....maybe one or two would...but i wish i could...Kat

[wing]

Hi Rhi*! Hm. I've told three friends so far. Two of them i explained it fully becausethey're mybest friends and the other oneI just casually mentioned it. Like Swiftette said if they are true friends they wouldnt think it was stupid. Ofcourse there is one thing, even if you tell them, they willnever fully understand. No Non-emet could fully understand, but that's life. My friends understandas much as a non-emet would and they still love me. [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[roxxi277]

I have told very few people the truth. All of my friends know
that I have bad anxiety, but they think it is from my
agoraphobia. My boyfriend, Dad and close friend I met on this
site are the only ones who know. The reason I don't tell everyone
is because I feel better when people are not questioning me. If I
felt sick and began to panic it would drive me nuts to have everyone
asking.."oh my gosh, are you gonna be ok?" Then I feel
worse! So I am ok with only a few people knowing.
Carrie

[rhi*]

heya agen


thanks for all you guys advise! i will seriously consider droping it in the conversation one day!


xxxxxx

[spilled_milk]

I know this is kind of late (lol) but I have told most of my friends. However, only three or four of them know how severe it is (they are mostly old childhood friends). As most people said, if they are true friends, they will listen, sympathize, maybe not understand very well, but they won't make fun or laugh at you. The friends that don't understand it very well at least respect my feelings and try not to do anything aroud me that would upset me.


<3 Anya--