Support system

[clbrooks14]

Is your support system always there for you no matter the circumstances? Night or day, for the good or bad times? I feel like my support system is only there because they feel sorry for me and i feel as if they don't want to deal with my problem anymore. My family knows about my emetophobia, especially my sisters since all three of us have it and have dealt with it for years. Lately when i have gone to my parents or boyfriend (who has also helped me with my emetophobia for over two years), seem as if they don't care, they ignore me, tell me i am overreacting, and sometimes say mean things such as, "Your going to end up in a mental hospital. Your crazy." I can't express how much this hurts my feelings to see my love ones get fed up with something that i cannot even control. I feel bad that i am making people deal with my issues, but i cant deal with it on my own. Does anyone else have a support system they feel is slowly deteriorating? How have you dealt with it?

[Endymion]

I don't have much of a support system. My room mate is constantly gone with work and is a marine to boot so he doesn't really have much time for it nor is it something I would really ever bring up to him. My family is spread out all over the country (east and west coast with me in the middle) so I don't really talk to many folks about this type of stuff. I'm sorry that your support system seems to be breaking down. I volunteer at a hospice and I have heard about similar things happening with caregivers and friends of people with terminal illnesses. They just sort of 'burn out'. They still care but on the surface things sometimes wear thin. If they love you they will love all of you, even the unpleasant parts, but they just might forget it sometimes. I hope that helps and don't despair!

[KaydeeJayde]

My support system is my mum. It's weakened over the years because I've lost some people in my life. My father wasn't supportive to begin with, and my ex-boyfriend used to be really supportive until he cheated on me, which I think was brought on by my phobia pushing us apart. Not that I think it's my fault he did it. My mother however, is a great support. There are times where I think she gets frustrated and periods of time when I think she doesn't want to deal with it. Maybe that's what's going on with yours at the moment, they're just going through a period of frustration. Can you talk to them about how you're feeling?

[froschic03]

I don't really have a support system. Most people just make a joke out of it. My bf doesnt understand it, but he does his best to protect me from it. Although he protects me from it he still makes comments about it "being all in my head" and I need to get help. My mom just thinks i'm nuts but she isnt rude about it or say anything mean. I have some friends who know that i'm scared of v* but they don't know the full extent of it, but I have made some great friends on here who are my true support system though!

[out_of_order]

I don't have a support system, I just deal with it on my own as best I can. People who don't have emetophobia have a really hard time understanding how severe and debilitating it can be and that we can't just snap out of it. For that reason, I don't even bother to tell anybody unless I absolutely have to for whatever reason.