College Roommate...should I?

[carelindsay]

hey all!


I am so happy to finally find some place like this because I have suffered from fear of v* since first grade, and no one understands it. One of my biggest problems is my fear of other people getting sick, which has increased a lot lately because of an increase in overall anxiety, as I am approaching my freshman year at college. i'm realllllly excited but also really nervous about having a roommate because I am terrified of having a drunk roommate getting sick in the room or having her get a stomach virus and giving it to me. i get extremely bad migraines so my parents are encouraging me to live in a single (i'm a very outgoing person) but i'm worried about making friends and being lonely, especially since i know absolutely no one at the school. doany of you haveany experiences with roommates or have anyopinions on whether or not i should live with someone else, atleast for my first year while i get used to being away from home. if anyone has any advice, i'm reallyworried and could really use it! thanks!

[samara's on tv]

When I went to college I had the same fear, so I didn't have a roomate. I also wouldn't ever go out partying with anyone either. I still made friends and I still had a good time without partying and stuff. I think that if you do get a roommate maybe you should tell them about your phobia...don't go into DETAIL with it I mean if you have strange behaviors or anything don't tell them that. Just be very breif and to the point maybe they'll understand. Since you are a girl they might be more understanding then if you were a guy...but I mean don't take my advice I don't know anything about what I'm talking about.


~Monica

[jennyleigh1975]

I think that even if you live alone, you will still have a great college experience and make friends. I know that I wouldnt have been able to live in a dorm or have a room-mate, because I know I would have been scared of them getting sick. I might could have tolerated having a room-mate living in a house/apartment with me, one where we each had our own bedroom and bathroom. I think you need to do what makes you feel comfortable. You are on the threshold of some of the best most fun years of your life, try not to let this crazy phobia or ours slow you down!!!!

WELCOME TO THE SITE!!!!!!!!

[anner]

Wow i just found this website and totally understand what you are going through this is my first year at college and i had the same concerns and well i still do. I would still say you should get a roommate.....i lucked out in that i didnt get a roommate who likes to drink. I am sure if you get one that drinks and told them about ur feelings on drinking that they would understand. Good luck!!!

[helenhd]

i know some colleges...or at least Holy Cross...offer a program where you can sign up for substance free dorms. Everyone in those dorms must sign a contract saying that while living in that dorm they will not drink alcohol. No alcohol means no drunk roommates.

[harmonygirl72]

Yeah! When I was in college, I was on a "wellness" floor! Sounds kinda geeky, but it was great! Everyone was into being healthy, whether it was physically, emotionally, spiritually, whatever! I loved it! I had a roommate and had no problem with it! Good luck!

[stella9]

I had the same thing going on when I went to college. The first
line of attack was no roommates. Where I went to college, they
put four people in each dorm room. No thanks. Part of my
distaste for a roommate was because of the emet thing, I wont' deny
it. However, I did not want to distractions from studying
because of four other people's habits. I wanted to be able to
study when I wanted to without someone's boyfriend hanging around or
another mate having parties. It turned out great. I had a
small apartment and lots of freedom to NOT put up with other people's
s**t. I studied when I wanted and got great grades. My
friends who lived in the dorm were always complaining about their
mates, the mess, the parties, the boyfriends and yes the v**** (and
these weren't emet). I knew myself, what would work for me and
did not try to force myself into a situation that I know would not
work. It was a win-win situation.



Stella

[alison03]

I am a sophomore in college and last year I had the same problem. I chose to live in a "substance free" dorm and never had any issues with people being drunk. Also, I lucked out and my roommate never got any kind of stomach virus, and I never was in the bathroom when anyone was being sick. I would advise you to take the risk and live with a roommate. I know at least for me it pushed the limits of my comfort zone just enough that I think I got a little more comfortable (especially with using public bathrooms!). Good luck!