Okay so this is not directly related to emet, but the problem is affecting my mental health. Basically I am employed full time and on the whole actually enjoy my job, I had a complete career break of several years up to about 2 years ago, and when I went back to work (into my current job) I had something of a change of direction. The thing is my boss (male) is a pig, he's a bully, my job is stressful anyways, and there is a certain amount of pressure, I am nowehere near as experienced as he is, my company knew the amount of experience I had and my skills when they offered me my job, I never lied about this I was completely truthful. But he is just not realistic, he expects too much, he changes his mind about what he wants all the time, but when I get it wrong it's inevitably bcause I got it wrong rather than because he had a change of mind, you see its impossible to get it right everytime when what's expected of you changes without warning. he's condesending, and patronising, and if I challenge him, he starts making remarks about mental health issues. I agree that a certain amount of pressure to suceed is good and it could be considered a managers job to push their staff to achieve their best, however there comes a point when too much pushing and critism becomes counter productive, and I feel that's what is happending, it's like he doesn't know when to stop, and it almost feels like he is trying to get rid of me, or at least see how I will takebefore I snap, and I don't think that is right. Thing is I don't want or expect pats on the back for every little thing I get right, but when its a more critism than praise my confidence suffers and i becomes less motivated. He's been like this since I started a year ago and it is becoming near intolerable now. I am frequently in tears and wondering if I really want to go to work. I always seem to have been an easy target for bullies. and I am not sure whether to rise these issues with him first, or just go straight to his boss. I don't wish to sound homophobic but he's also gay and I do wonder if it is partly that he dislikes women and generally has a grim view of them. What makes me think this is he commonly makes comments about women (in general not personally to me) reminding him of fish and smelling like fish. Sorry that this is rather long, but I just needed to get it out, I amthinking of speaking to him first and if he doesn't change going tohis boss. Problem is he is gay too, but I don't think he should just get away with this