My Delima!!! Help!!!

[kate1966]

Ok, here it is....I have to go with my co workers to my bosses house this friday night...for a cook out...no spouses...just us....our boss is male.......and we are all female...but anyway...there will be drinking going on....i don't drink at all for obvious reasons.....none of them know about my emet......and i could not tell them...they would think i am crazy....so now 2 of them are wanting me to be the designated driver!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my goodness....i don't know what to do....i can't say no, b/c those two live so close to me....and they know i don't drink....so i am scared....in a way....i don't think they will get too drunk...but you never know.....one of them had that weight loss surgery 2 yrs ago...so her stomach is way smaller and can't handle alcohol very well...i just don't know what to do here....i don't have alot of choice really in the matter....how would you handle this and what would you do to cope?????? Kate

[emms]

The thing I keep in mind when asked to be a DD is that if they get sick, we'll all get over it (albeit eventually ), but if someone drives that's been drinking, they may lose their life...that's not so easy to get over. I know you don't want to be around them for fear of one of them getting ill, but you are doing something far more heroic and nobleand should remember that! I'm sure you'll be with people who can hold their alcohol anyway! Just go and have fun, everything will be ok!!

[jennyleigh1975]

Gosh Kate, you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Is there anyway you could just go and stay for a little while, then leave early? Maybe you could kinda keep a watch on what they are drinking and kinda monitor it. Like, try to make them stop when you think they have had too much. I agree with emms too, think about how you could be saving their life, and the lives of others by being the DD.

I think its kinda weird that your male boss, is having all his female employees over, WITHOUT their spouses.

[Scattycat]

Can you not say to them in a jokey way - don't get drinking too much, I don't want you throwing up in my car - so they don't take offence. Even non-emets won't want somebody being sick in their car!

[shiva]

How about... "I have to leave early.. I have this thing I forgot about early the next morning and I will need my rest."


I don't know if you would feel comfortable lying or leaving early considering it's your boss, but I think that might be better than putting yourself in a situation that doesn't feel safe.

[kate1966]

You guys are right...i will just have to suck it up and just do it...i really think they will be ok...but you just never know...i will take a xanax and be done with it....i actually may have a strawberry drink myself....we'll see....i am just going to try and relax and have a good time and not worry about it....thanks...Kate

[siren]

This may just be me but my main fear it catchinga bug andv*ing myself. It may help just to reassure yourself that you won't v*because there's nothing to catch. But if that doesn't help and you end up giving you're colleagues a lift home then my only advice would be to make sure you drive slowly and go really slowly round roundabouts! lol That way if some one does become a bit queazy you'll have time to pull over so they can get out of the car.


I hope this helps

[kate1966]

Thanks for the reassurance...and the laugh lol.....that was pretty funny...I think I am going to be fine...and yes since i want be drinking...it will be even better....I am looking forward to a good time tonight...so hopefully all will go well...these girls i work with are not drunks by any means...so i think we will be just fine.....but you know how us emets are...always finding the worst situation in everything Kate

[SimplyMe]

Good luck, Kate! I agree that you will be fine and that since it is a "business" dinner no one should be getting wasted, and if they are responsible than they probably won't have any more than a couple drinks. Have fun tonight! We all deserve and emet-less night to enjoy!

[swiftette]

I agree with simply me-give the emet. a night off and have fun!!!You deserve it!!!

[kate1966]

You guys are so right...i will just let it go for the night and try to have fun and enjoy myself......i cannot let this crap get to me all the time.....everything will be fine and we will all have a good time....we all said we didn't want to stay too late anyway...so that is a good thing...i will let everyone know on mon. how it went....and hopefully it will be a good post .....thanks again for all your replys.....everyone here have a safe and healthy and happy weekend......kate

[kate1966]

Well, just wanted to let eveyone know that the party went well and there was no need for worry...no one V....thank goodness....and I actually had a great time in spite of myself worrying....I even had a few sips of some drink...and watched one of the other girls get pretty tipsy!!! she was hilarious......and it was fun...so anyway...thanks for the support and maybe next time maybe i want freak out so bad about it...Kate

[SimplyMe]

I'm so glad you had a great time! And no v*! It's amazing how much our brains make up that COULD happen that never does but we worry anyhow lol. Anyways I'm so happy for you! You deserved your fun night and sounds liek you got it!