OKAY. So i've been dating my current bf for about 4 months now. We both have already had birthdays and are coming to Christmas now too. For his birthday, I got him a very nice Bible because he said he didn't have one and faith is very important to me. It cost about $75. For Christmas, I bought him about $110 worth of stuff, 2 video games he really wanted. Now for my birthday, he got me an Opal ring, it was nice. It was fake Opal, but it was still very pretty and had a silver band. He gave it to me with the price tag on it ($139) and then proceeded to tell me that he was reallllly broke then after buying it. And I told him he didn't have to spend that much on me, and he was like, "Oh don't worry, I didn't. It was on sale, I got a really good deal."

So for yesterday he was over at my apartment after work and got on to my computer and said, "let me show you what I got for you for Christmas," and he went on to ebay and showed me this Pandora bracelet that he was bidding on. (it was oxidized silver which I'm not super fond of and I really wanted a simple silver bracelet like I told him to put the charm on it from bracelet that I had which broke.) Anyway he won it and bought it right there in front of me, it was like $65. And then he was like, "so what else do you want, you have a limit of another $35." But then he mentioned how he took me out to eat the other night and how that cost $25 so I could count that in (even though that covered BOTH of our meals) and then he was like, "I'm just kidding." And then he talked to me about how broke he was again.

So, I honestly don't care how much he spends on me, but I want it to be because he wants to and from his heart. A single rose from his heart would mean so much more to me than the obligatory gift that he got me. He makes twice as much as me, and I know he has a lot of bills right now which is fine. I really don't care about the money, I care about his attitude about it. I was SO excited to get/give him the gifts that I have given him because I love giving gifts and I love him! It hurts me that he acts the way that he does about this stuff.

Also, I could lose about 30lbs. He is always 'joking' about how I'm chubby or have a big belly or whatever. He is about 60 lbs overweight. I hate when he comments about it. I've told him that he could lose some weight and grow more hair on the top of his head after he said something just because it's true! I would never say that to him otherwise, but I was just like, really?! Look in the mirror! And I was like, "wow you really know how to make me feel beautiful, NOT!" And he was just like, "Oh, you know you're beautiful."

He has also told me that I wouldn't be successful because he went to school for his BA in Computer Tech and has a ton of loans to pay back and doesn't make a lot. I'm going in to Health Care Administration and going for my Masters, I know that I will have a lot of loans to pay back but I carefully chose my career choice and it fits me perfectly. I'm very excited about my future and know that I will do well with it. It's a good field and choice for me.

There are a lot of wonderful things about him and he is very sweet but those are the big ones. A lot of the things he says and does I think are out of his own insecurity. But I hate it that he acts that way. Am I being ridiculous? If not, how can I talk to him about these things??