"Why fear something you can’t control?"

[yenn]

Is it just me or is that the WORST thing anyone can say to an emet? For me, (bit of a control freak) I know that a large part of my phobia is the non control. I.e the lack of choice about getting ill and then the complete unvoluntary-ness of d* and especially v* so why then do people think it is comforting to say to me "Why be afraid of something you can't control?"





What do people say in "comfort" that annoys you?

[peachfeet]

<UL>
<LI>"It'll only last 30 seconds - tops!"</LI>
<LI>"It's not that bad if you plug your nose."</LI>
<LI>"As long as you didn't consume any dairyit won't be so bad. Oh wait... you did?"</LI>
<LI>"If you're gonna do it, you're gonna do it. No way stopping it."</LI>
<LI>"It would be best if you sat near the toilet, dear. Just in case..."</LI>
<LI>"If you do, you do. Nothing you can do about it!"</LI>
<LI>"How are you feeling? Oh, I'm sure you'll be fine. Would you like me to get you a bucket?"</LI>
<LI>"If anything should happen, I will be here. However, you clean up the mess."</LI>[/list]
Gaaaaaaaah! The horror! The horrrror! &lt;/3Edited by: peachfeet

[chicajojobe]

yenn, I totally know what you mean. Do they honestly expect us to respond with..."Whoa! We CAN'T</span> control it? Why ever didn't you tell me before? That changes everything, I think I'm cured!"

[samara's on tv]

Really I mean a big part of my phobia is about being in control of my own body. I remember one night I did drugs and I freaked out and I wasn't in control of my own thoughts let alone my body! I swore then at that point never to do drugs again. I can't stand not being in control. I think that to a point Emets can control weather they v* or not. I mean most of us would rather fight the n* then actually v* right? I know I would!


~Monica

[sparky2004]

I would rather fight the nausea as well, instead of allowing it to happen. Control issue? Maybe...I wouldn't be surprised.


Most people will never understand until they actually experience emetophobia themselves.

[yenn]

Exactly. People just don't understand and they think that because they're not phobic, there's no reason for anyone else to be. Foolish people [img]smileys/smilies_05.gif[/img]

[ontariogirl]

When I tell people that I have this phobia they look at me with a question mark in their eyes and say really. They don't get it but when I ask them if they have a phobia and they say they are afraid of bees (just a example) and I ask them how do you feel if a bee was near you? They would say they run away, the hyperventilate and I said that is how this phobia is. But they are lucky they only freak out when summer is here, with this phobia it is a 24/7 phobia. Some people get it some people don't. If you don't have this phobia you will never understand.