my mum died

[carri]

Ever since my mum died I have felt so vulnerable and alone. my Dad died 10 years ago and my mum died 2 years ago. I used to handle my phobia better even though neither of my parents really acknowledged it, but now I just feel fragile. I am finally going to a phobic clinic here in New Zealand soon, because it's come to a head! AND when my daughter gets sick I find it really really hard! Is that terrible for any of you out there too???? But there again it seems to have got worse since mum died cos I raised my step children without a real problem!! Maybe the relationship is that bit different too. But certainly without mum it's worse. Please comment, I'm new to this and look forward to hearing from anyone!!

[sparky2004]

I think you are still mourning sweety. It took me about 10 years to 'get over' my father's death...he died on my birthday when I was 14. I don't think that anyone really gets over a parent's death, or a child's.


I really hope that you can wipe away yourtears soon, as I don't believe that your mom would want you to still mourn her passing,....I think she would want you to live life with a smile on your face. Sounds crappy right now, I know, yet I promise you that this too shall pass.


Take Care.

[carri]

You are so right! You must have known my mum!!!!!!


And my husband just said to me..count your blessings...


Thanks so much for your caring words x x x

[ontariogirl]

I am so close to my mom and I know the day will come but still it would crush me. I am glad that you are seeking help for your phobia, I pray that everything works out for you!!

[aguerra29]

My heart goes out to you. My mom passed away 6 years ago and I am still dealing with it. My emet got bad when my father remarried a few years ago. I just couldn't handle the stress. I hope the clinic you go to helps you. LEt us know. I'll be praying for you.

[SimplyMe]

I'm so sorry. Good for you for seeking help tho. Hopefully that will help. It sounds like you have a supportive husband too which makes all the difference. I agree that you can't really get over losing a parent but you are taking the right steps to still go on w/ your own life! good luck, sweetie!

[peachfeet]

Hello Carri, and welcome to the site. I'm pretty new myself, girly.


I'm sorry your mother died. Both my parents are currently alive. I have a strong relationship with my mom - love/hate to be specific. However, I am extremely close to my father which appears you are to your mother. The very thought of him departing from my life brings tears to my eyes, and there you are living through such a turmoil experience. I admire how you're able to still function, take care of your kids and balance a marriage at the same time. You're strong, and you will get through this. An inspiration to me, no doubt, because some day I will be in your shoes. But hopefully not anytime soon...


Good luck, and great on going for treatment! Hope to hear more from you. Edited by: peachfeet

[carri]

Wow...came home from work and there are all your lovely heartwarming messages! I can't believe the support out there.


Thankyou all so much for your support, and understanding! You have made my day brighter.


1000 hugs to you all. x x x

[texas-darlin]

Oh, my heart was saddened reading your post. I too am sorry your mum died. (((carri)))



Do you have anybody to help you if your child gets sick?

I'm sure the phobia clinic will help you to cope better.



You take care,

Renee









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[samara's on tv]

I'm sorry about your mom dying. I don't have a GREAT Relationship with either of my parents but I mean I still love them more then anything and I don't know what I would do if one of them died. Anyway it's good that you are seeking help and I hope that you get the help you need...I wish I could find some good help here but it's hard. But you'll get through this I'm sure you are a strong person...because A strong person knows when they need to seek help. Feel better.


~Monica

[carri]

I continue to be so grateful for the replies.


Thankyou all so much. It feels like you are all so far away, but so close!!


THANKS X