Family member doesn’t understand

[mia3]

Anyone out there have a friend or family member who won't even speak to them anymore because of the phobia?


It's happened to me. My sister in law will not speak to me . She thinks I see a doctoronce a week for attention. Trust me I could think of other ways to spend thirty five dollars a week. Everyone who has this problem would love not to have it. What sucks is she would ask me how my appiontments were for like two years. Now all the sudden she thinks i'm full of it.[img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img] The winter time is difficult for me. I believe you have more of a chance of getting sick in the winter than the spring and summer. Which may not be true but it helps me cope.


To get to the point, in the winter I am not around. I probably do five things in public all winter. This past winter I could'nt bring myself to go tothe market for weeks. I could'nt do much. I could'nt bring myself to go out to dinner with her for her birthday but I got out of work early, got her a gift and hung out for hours at her house before she when to dinner. She acted like she understood but she did'nt ,she threw it in my face in March saying i'm never there for her and i see my doctor for attention. She said I don't try hard enough to do more with her and that I don't see her kids enough.


I chose not to have kids right now. My brother in law said well maybe you could see them once or twice a week.I told him I love you and your kids but they are yours not mine. And i'm not going to kiss your wifes ass and make your life easier so you don't have to hear her bitch. She has fought with everyone in the family my husband ,his father and mother. I don't think it's me anymore, it's her. I'm still angry at times[img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]I want to go over and slap her. I did so much for her I gave so much of my heart and soul to her . I saw both her kids be born. I been there when her and her husband have had problems and never said and thing bad about him. I encouraged them to see a therapist. I've left my job to be by her side when she was upset with her husband when she was prego. It's as if none of it ever mattered. We were in each others weddings. I'm the Godmother to her first child. She refuses to speak to me. I have made attempts and her husband said she will speak to you when she is ready. F!@#$ her[img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]He told me to not even give her the time of day when she finally decides to talk to me . He said she is an immature, spoiled little girl.


It's hard to accept because i know i'm not a bad person I do what I can. I was out on a work realted injury last summer from june to sept .I was at her house with coffee every morning until i went back to work. I played with her youngest son,we hung out . Then winter came, this past winter and i'm ok up until january first then i'm a hermet until the end of march. In March is when she started bitching at me. I felt like sayingHELLO, YOU KNOW HOW I AM!i ALSO FELT LIKE SAYING,IF YOU KEPT YOURf@!@!!!!! MOUTH SHUT WE WOULD BE HANGING OUT RIGHT NOW, SPRING IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER! i'M JUST SO PISSED OFF.


If you people knew me you would know I would never hurt anyone. I'm compassion and caring I can put myself in other peoples shoes most of the time, sometimes i feel like i can feel there pain. I even put insects outside instead of squishing them.[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img] When i was a kid I would scoop them out of the pool trying to rescue them. [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]I do run away when I see a cockroach and I don't care for bees but I won't kill them. Where I work there are huge cockroaches, alot of

[wing]

Aww Mia.. Its okay tovent. I really cannot say that my relationship with people is to the point where they wont speak to me because of emetophobia but i believe you. I'm positive that you are kind and willing to do all you can. I'm like that too. I'll do alot of things but once my phobia starts bothering me I just cannot. To tell the truth I dont think she's being logical at all. Sorry to say but i think its ignorance. I was recently at camp and an incident forced me to tell my teammates about my emetophobia. They wanted to know why in the world I would not go on rides. Telling them that, I thought that they would understand. I thought that they DID understand until the following week when I told them I wasnt going on the curise ride. (I cannot stand boats) My friend was mad at me and told me that wasnt any excuse not to go on the ride. There are people like that. Sorry if this isnt helping. I'm terrible at advice ^^6 Anyway, you have every right to be mad. I'd be mad as well.


Oh ew. 2 inches long???! O_O Gosh I hate bugs...!! Killing them..I cannot even use a tissue toTRY and kill them lol. I'm like phobic of them too. Anyway, sorry i'm not much help but i do hope you feel better. =]

[swiftette]

No, but I have had inlaw related troubles before -not due to my phobia. I try to keep my in-laws at a close distance. I'm keeping my oldest(5)neice overnight this Sat.(I'm like you-I avoid untill summer). I almost had aproblem this past winter. For the past 2 years, my bff had X-mas parties which I had to lie and not go at thel ast minutes because BOTH years, she had sv*s in the house. She knows about my phobia and Iwish I could tell her the truth. She's also an nurse and should KNOW how contagious they are. She is also not the cleanest person in the world. Anyways, I felt so guilty and I know this year she was angry with me. One year you say your ill and that's one thing, but 2 in a row and that's kinda hard to come up with an excuse again.I'd love to tell her the truth now that it's summer but will she be even more pissed I lied ?THis[phobia certainly does nothing for the relationships in our lives. I'm sure you are a wonderfulperson and a great Auntie. She is probably j ust a diva that does not want her spotlight taken from her.