HELP freaking out bad

[bexcelica]

hi everyone. i am freaking out so bad right now. me and my boyfriend
had sex last night and didnt use anything... including not using the
old pull out method. i know it was SO STUPIDDDDDDDDD but i cant take it
back now. i just got over my period (eek) about 2 weeks ago, which puts
me right around ovulation.



he says theres probably a good chance i could get pregnant.... that
freaks me out, im only 21, although i know i am going to marry this boy
(weve been together 2+ years and his mom says she loves me when i leave
and stuff) but i am NOT READY FOR KIDS AT ALL.



what do you think the chances are that im p*? please tell me
honestly because i would rather hear the truth than someone
saying ill be fine.



thanks for reading



PLEASE HELP





becky

[sage]

The chances are extremely high that you're pregnant. You can, however, go to your local emergency room at a hospital or clinic and get the morning-after-pill. It is 100% effective.


Then I'd suggest getting a very reliable method of birth control. "The ol' pull-out method" is only effective about 30% of the time. Because the liquid excreted by the man long before ejaculation has millions of sperm in it.


Condoms + foam or gel is a very good method. As is the birth control pill or patch. They're both over 99% effective.


Good luck.


BTW - I used to be an educator for Planned Parenthood.

[emms]

I have a friend going through the same thing! Call planned parenthood and ask about the "morning after pill." It's a wonderful drug that doesn't allow the egg to implant (like a really strong form of BC pills). Let us know! If you want to talk, PM me! You'll be fine!

[bexcelica]

hey, im afraid to take the morning asfter pill because supposedly it
makes you throw up sometimes.. i am such a freak, i dont know why
but i dont want to take it. plus its been two days already. how soon
can i take a test? oh god what if im p*?

[bexcelica]

i feel like no on cares

[yenn]

Its not that no-one cares it's that the morning after pill is pretty much the only thing you could have used. It doesn't always make you throw up - I took it and although it made me n* I wasn't sick. And you've gotta ask yourself, what's worse, taking a morning after pill and possibly being sick or dealing with a pregnancy and a baby you clearly aren't ready for or don't want? I don't mean to sound rude or nasty but if you're so terrified of getting pregnant then why would you have unprotected sex?

[SimplyMe]

I don't know anything about the morning after pill but like yenn said you can take it and possibly be sick or if you're pregnant possible get morning sickness or you could wait and see and hope to beat the odds. Either way you will be OKwhether you are pregnant or not and whether you take the pill or not. You could always tell the doctor about emet and ask for an anti emetic pill to take w/ it in the event it does make you feel ill. Hang in there and let us know what you do!

[bexcelica]

I know I shouldnt have had unprotected sex, it was stupid. Now that I
think about it I am pretty stupid. But we all make mistakes
right. I was stupid not to take the morning after pill as well. I
think its too late now. And by me saying no one cares, I wasn't
implying it to you guys, I was just being stupid. Im sorry guys just
ignore me

[samara's on tv]

I'm not PRO-CHOICE or PRO-LIFE but you can always get an abortion if it comes down to that. You made a mistake and no one can blame you for it, we all make mistakes. I hope you aren't pregnant you sound too young to be having children anyway. I'm 20 and I don't even think about having kids. Anyway Good Luck.


~Monica

[kmarie]

How are you doing hun? Youa re not stupid..you made a mistake...i have done it before..i lsot my virginity at the age of 18 and it was unprotected...i was 3 weeks late for my period..good god wasnt i scared..but no baby so life was good.


we all make msitakes every now and then..you just ahve to be mroe careful next time. you will learn from this experience...


If you are still worried I would call your Dr. and see if there is anything you can do. The otehrs are right..the chances of treatment making you throw up are a lot less scarey to face then having a baby that you are not ready for..as you not only ahev that responisbility but the chance of morning sickness and then inevitable sick child.


take care

[malaika]

My doctor was telling about the "Morning after pill."
Have you heard about this?

[bexcelica]

yea i heard about that, but its too late to take it now. i guess i just
have to wait and see. thanks guys im sorry if i was being silly or
whatever.

[SimplyMe]

You weren't being silly, you were being human. Anyhow I hope it was all worry for nothing. I don't know if there's a pregnancy test you can take this early or not but it's worth looking into. Didn't soemone say they make one now you can take before you even miss a period? That might be something to look at too?

[bexcelica]

i took one last night, just to see, but it came out negative... im not
supposed to get it until aug 1st. so i guess we're just gonna wait.
thanks - i know i was just being human, but it sure was stupid. i
feel a lot better about the situation now, after thinking a lot about
it. i might not even be p*

[sage]

It may not be too late to take the m.a.p. still - you should go to an emergency room immediately. The chances of vomiting during pregnancy or childbirth are about a million times higher than with the m.a.p....lots of people take this and don't even get nauseous.


Nevertheless, if you refuse to take it, then you can take a home pregnancy test as soon as your period is late - they are quite accurate, very early. (But before your period is due is too early)


All the best! I agree, it was just a human mistake - we all make them. But hopefully not twice.

[bexcelica]

thanks guys for your advice and support. i will let you all know what happens.

[charzysbebe]

It is waaaayyyyy to early to take a pregnancy test. You have to wait until you have atleast missed your period.


Sounds like there could be a good chance that you are pregant, and I am not saying that to ruin your day. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]


I have had 5 children, and I just know when most women ovulate...and yep...it is about 10-14 days after you've had your last period. If you do find out you are pregnant, and you feel you are not ready for children, there is always adoption. [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


Good luck with this. Either way it turns out, you will make it through! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img] Charlotte

[bexcelica]

Thanks so much. I know it was way too early to find out, but I figured
it wouldn't hurt to try right? We'll find out Aug first when I do or
don't get my period. If I don't I guess I'll take another test.



If I am p* and have the child, I would not be able to give him/her up
for adoption. Trust me, I've been wracking my brain for the last week
and a half.



Thanks Charlotte. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]



PS I know you werent trying to ruin my day, thanks for your honesty.

[2jo2]

Mistakes happen, you're not stupid, I'm sure there are a number of women here who've done the same thing. Oh gosh I hope you're not pregnant. I went on the pill when I was 17 (for PAINFUL periods) and so have never been in your predicament. Hell, I'm 30 and married and am not ready for a kid, so I think we can all sympathize with your situation. Whatever happens, you'll deal. Keep us updated!

[bexcelica]

Thanks. I called planned parenthood today to make sure it wasnt too
late for the morning after pill, but it is. so i guess i just have to
wait.

[aguerra29]

I have been in your situation before. Thankfully, the situation worked out and I do not have any children. If you are truly not reafy, you have options. If it is just poor timing, you'll will find a way to make it work. It will forever change the outcome of your life. It will no longer be about you. If this turns out to just be a big scare, you REALLY need to re-evaluate your birth control method. I was VERY bad at taking the Pill everyday and had many worrisome times. Eventually, I got on Depo-Provera. That worked for me. I did put on weight, but at least no babies. You can also do the birth control patch. If you do not want a baby right now, you need to be more responsible about birth control. I know the whole "heat of the moment" crap. I've been there. Maybe this incident is just a little wake up call for you. No matter what happens, we wish you the best. Take care.

[jennyleigh1975]

I think I am right on this, but someone correct me if I am wrong. When you are counting up to see when you are ovulating, you start with the first day of your period, and then count up 10, 12,14,and 16 days. Those will be the days you could be ovulating. I had a hard time getting pregnant with my second child and this is what I was told by my doctor. See, I messed up with this when I was younger and thats how I got my first child. I started counting up the days starting with the last day of my period, and guess what ................. I got pregnant.
Anyway, if it is too late for the morning after pill, then you will have to wait to miss your period before a home pregnancy test will be accurate. However, the HCG serum test (blood test) can in some cases detect the pregnancy hormone as early as five -ten days pregnant. Keep us posted on what happens.

[bexcelica]

i am really really freaking out right now. i dont know if its nerves or what but my stomach has been on edge all day. ive eaten fine, and i have no problems eating, but i just feel like poop. i also have been peeing constantly. i do drink a LOT of water but today i havent been. does this mean anything? or do you think im just worrying way too much? how long until i can take a p* test? i am supposed to get my period aug 1st. if i took one now would it maybe tell? HELPPPPPPPP please ive been freaking out all day. i want to tell my mom but if i am not p* and i tell her it will make it worse. what do i doooooo

[jennyleigh1975]

Unless you go and take a blood test for pregnancy, there is nothing you can do but wait til you miss your period. Nothing else but a blood test is going to be able to tell you if you are pregnant this early. No sonogram will show anything, nor will a home pregnancy test. Do you have a doctor or planned parenthood you could go to and have the blood test?

[bexcelica]

i called PP yesterday and they said its too early. do they give blood tests?





also, do you think its my nerves thats causing all these problems? i took an adavan, which helps me, and i feel a lot better so im assuming its nerves. thanks so much for your fast reply. i really do appreciate it

[jennyleigh1975]

Im sure it probally is nerves, it would be too early for anything else. I know you are nervous, you have just got to try to relax and calm down about this until you can find out for sure. Worrying isnt gonna get you any results any faster, know what I mean? Call PP back and ask them if they do an HCG blood serum pregnancy test. I know you are scared, I have been in your shoes, and I know it is not fun playing the waiting game.

[bexcelica]

thanks again so much. youre a big help. ill call tomorrow

[charzysbebe]

Unless you go and take a blood test for pregnancy, there is nothing you can do but wait til you miss your period. Nothing else but a blood test is going to be able to tell you if you are pregnant this early. No sonogram will show anything, nor will a home pregnancy test. Do you have a doctor or planned parenthood you could go to and have the blood test?

As for jennyleigh's post...(I hate being the one to bare all the bad news here) [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]but with my last child (whom is now 20 mo) I had 2 blood tests taken to check for the HCG hormones for pregnancy; one taken in the ER for bad cramping, and 2 days later, one taken at a local lab...both came back negetive. Now by this time, (within the first week of conception) I knew I was pregnant, because I have always been tipped off somehow during pregnancies.


Anyways, even though the blood tests came back neg, I knew I was pregnant and that I would have to wait it out until I missed my period. Finally...when I did miss my period, I still couldn't get a positive home pregnancy test. I have always been that way though; my HCG production has always been very slow at building up, and being detected; in fact, with my last child, I finally could see a positive result with a home pregnancy test when I was 2 weeks late for my period.


I must say, (and doctors have said too) that my case is rare. Most people have no problem showing a positive blood test right after conception. I think my problem was... after my hubby ejaculated in me, the sperm survived inside me for 2-3 days...THEN fertilized the egg. (common if a woman's egg hasn't released for ovulation just yet)


Like I said, everyone is different, and I hope you get the results you want. I just want to tell you, that anything is possible. Can you maybe try and get a blood test done at the doctors?


Good luck! [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img][img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img] Charlotte

[SimplyMe]

For you not feeling well, it's probably msotly nerves but you also mentioned you normally drink a lot of water and today you haven't, that may be it too. If your body gets used to a certain amount and then doesn't get it you can feel like crap. Hope you feel better soon!

[bexcelica]

thanks guys. i tried calling PP today but it was too late, they were
closed. im going to call my doctor and see if i can get a blood test
there. i just dont want my parents to know. but im under their
insurance. what could i say im going to the doctor for? i would just
pay for it but i am so broke i dont even have enough money to get a
hpt. i hate lying to my parents, but sometimes its the best. i dont
want to tell them and then me get a negative, and now theyd know im
having sex, which i think theyd probably assume. i dont know what to
do. i really appreciate all of your support - it really makes things so
much easier! thank you!!!!!!!!!!



becky