I feel like a really bad mom...

[jess0930]

I yelled at my 6 month old for being so upset he gagged. I just yelled his name and told him to stop... My stress is getting the best of me... I need a break. My 6 month old baby doesnt deserve that. I feel so bad, I went over and picked him up (he hasnt been feeling good because of a cold) and I held him and he stopped. But wow I feel so bad.

[sdd]

((Hugs)) I have a 12 month old who had (I think) rotavirus over the weekend/begining of the week. He spit up several times and v'd once. He kept having d and I found myself huffing and puffing while I was putting on yet another pair of latex gloves. I said "Would you just STOP it already?" He started crying. I felt horrible too.

Even those who aren't emets get stressed when their kids are sick. I remember my parents yellling at me on a couple of occasions as I was growing up when I was sick.

[Valen]

Yelling at a 6 month old doesnt help anything. He cant even understand what you are saying. But it definitely doesnt make u a bad mom. So dont be too hard on yourself. Im guessing this is your first baby..... There will be many many times ahead where u will want to scream at him and throw him out a window, lol (not literally of course...), but u have to remain calm and step away, to breathe It will be okay. Comfort your baby while he is not feeling well. He's only a baby.

[jess0930]

Ive definitely been comforting him. Of course there were alot more things that really stressed me out that led up to my small outburst. I was on the phone with my husband and he kept breaking up (darn cell phones) as he was trying to tell me he was going to be home late. we are in the process of buying a house and alot of things are going wrong with that, I had a major headache, I was trying to get laundry done and alot of other things that I was stressed out about and he was screaming through it all. So I snapped. I know he doesnt understand. and I know he has a cold. I went and held him right after I got off the phone. It was not a good day...

[Mamafear]

What Valen said about all parents, (Emet or no) losing their cool at some stage/s is so true. You love him and it sounds like it was a once off. The trick is, when you've got that frustration building up, put baby in a safe spot and leave the room. You must remember, everyone feels this frustration, but being Emet makes it even more stressy. My next door neighbour has worked in child ddevelopment, phsycology and youth and family council and when I told her that one night when my baby just wouldn't sleep I called him a ...(his name is Hunter, and it rhymed with Hunt). I was really really upset and she told me that every parent has said stuff, but the trick is to do it away from the baby. The crying inconsolably stage is rough, but when they're teenagers and off into the world, and you have no idea where they are, you wish you had that crying helpless little baby back!