Question for Sage about Trauma

[samara's on tv]

Okay I had a question for you about Emets and Trauma in their lives.


I had a ver hard time in highschool, and I mean a VERY hard time in highschool. I think the most traumatizing period of my life was my last few months in highschool. You see I had a crush/obsession with this one teacher. It all spun out of control when an enemy of mine called the police and told them that I threatened to kill this particular teacher. Weather I did say that or not is not the point. What happened to me afterward was terrible. They actually HIRED a woman to follow me around the school all day to make sure I wouldn't bother the teacher. Imagine that, espeically in highschool, having an adult follow you around to every class. On top of which before I returned to school the principal told ALL of the students (Yes ALL of them) That I had a crush/obession with the teacher. He held a school wide assembly to inform everyone of this.


A lot of things happened after that...not the least of which was having a woman follow me around all day long.


My question is this: Could trauma (That happened 4 years ago) be the cause of my Emetophobia now? There's not a day that goes by that I wish I could have done something different. There's not a night that goes by where I DON'T dream of going back to that school to finish out my senior year. Could this whole thing be the cause or one of the causes of my emet? I was thinking about that last night and I just had to ask.


Thanks.


~Monica

[hippychick]

Hey honey, I can't answer this question but I am so very sorry for what you went through. See I went through a similar sort of thing. I had a huge crush on my english teacher my first year in school, I adored her. But my classmates didn't and they were horrible to her. Sometimes I joined in because I was in huge denial but mainly i didnt and somehow my school picked ME as the ringleader. It was awful. I got called to the head teachers office, teachers would keep an eye on me to make sure I was staying away from her, it was damn humiliating when I hadn't even done anything to her!!!!!!!


Somehow most of the other people in my school year found out that I was in trouble for harrassing this teacher and decided a.) I was a stalker and b.) in love with herand for the rest of my high school life I was called a dyke, a freak all this sort of stuff when I hadn't even done anything to anyone. I actually would prefer not to be near this teacher because It confused me to feel how I did for her lol


I wish i could turn the clock back, go back and stand up for myself because now I don't give a s*** lol


Weird thing is...I didn't even think I was gay til I left high school, I had bf's! lol Well I suspected I was but i pushed it away because I thought "If this is being gay...well I dont want it!!!!!"


Anyway thats a long story, I just wanted ya to know that I kinda get how you feel and it sucks. I hope Sage is able to answer for you.


Edited by: hippychick

[sage]

Wow, Samara - that's quite the story. The thing is, without meeting you in person, I can't really "diagnose" you at all. I can only offer general statements - that may or may not apply to you.


First of all, it takes a whole bunch of things to "cause" this phobia - there is actually no such thing as a "cause" anymore. It's more about "contributing factors". Whenever stress goes up in our lives, it triggers our stress/anxiety system, and so...yes...a stress like this would be a contributing factor to your phobia - maybe so far as it getting worse. But it wouldn't be a single cause.


I can't imagine going through this. What on earth were your parents doing - or thinking at the time?

[samara's on tv]

It was actually my parent's idea to have someone follow me around the school...as I remember. I remember it being a mutal agreement between my parents and the teachers at the school. My parents wanted to sue them but they came up with this brilliant Idea to have someone follow me around, I couldn't even go to the bathroom by myself. It was terrible!


~Monica

[sage]

Gosh, how terrible! I'd say you could spend quite a bit of time in therapy unpacking that story and its subsequent emotions...and that would go a long way to helping your phobia.Gak. Sometimes I don't know what the heck parents are thinking.

[nobodyknowsit]

hey this is kinda off-topic but i just finished my freshman year in high school and i have a huge obsession with one of the teachers i had. At first I thought it was an OCD thing, because i was diagnosed with OCD (mainly because of emet), but I am always getting obsessions like that, with anyone or anything. I don't know if the obsession i had with her was a crush, and i don't know what my sexuality is, either. If it isn't too personal, Samara's on TV, could you explain what you meant by "obsession/crush"? I know this is off topic, but it's weird how so many ppl with emet get osessions with their teachers!


thanks.