OT: Pot odor seeping down into my apartment.

[ruhligv]

Well, my upstairs neighbors enjoy their pot. The fact that they smoke doesn't bother me, but when I come home from working a ten hour day and have to inhale dead skunk/weed smell it really ticks me off. I spoke with the girl (she lives with her bf and another guy roommate) she said that she would try opening the windows/ blowing fans/ incense... whatever... but I still come home to the rotten smell.

I know that she is on the edge already because the landlords don't like her so I've tried talking to her first. Our entire conversation is in my phone via text (her admitting that they all smoke and she is trying to fix the odor problem). Anyway she's really immature because she thinks she's doing ME a favor by trying to blow the smoke out the window, and she's really kind of borderline personality. She's a bigger girl and every time I post something on my Facebook wall about something I made (cookies, chili, etc) she texts me immediately and asks if she can come downstairs and eat it. So she's not really all there, like she's kind of socially retarded. (Not trying to be mean, she really is!) She also has this entitled and victimized personality, IE: why does this always happen to me? Nothing good ever happens for me... this it isn't my fault... I'm trying to be nice and you are being so mean... I have my rights... etc... etc.

Anyway - I don't want to be enemies with her, but it's really not acceptable to me to come home to that smell and I can hear them coughing and smoking up there CONSTANTLY. She claims that EVERYONE in my apartment complex smokes pot and that justifies that she does it. She also said her awesome boyfriend is in the process of getting his medical mary-jane card so it will be legal for him soon. I don't really know what to do anymore - should I contact my landlords? I understand that I live in a crummy part of town (I go to school full time and work full time and I can't afford to move right now, I've looked!) but I don't feel like I should just lay down and accept that smell inundating my apartment.

So any suggestions?

[KaydeeJayde]

Contact the landlords, definitely. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, it sounds really cruddy. I hope you get it sorted out as soon as possible.

[Grace47]

Well, you've done the neighborly thing and talked to her about it personally. She seems totally unconcerned that she and her roommates are breaking the law. Regardless of anyone's stance on the legality of marijuana, it is currently legal. Definitely complain to the landlord. You shouldn't have to put up with that. I'm sorry her response to you doesn't sound to me like she has any real plans to change. If she gets evicted or arrested, that's not really your problem. You could have always called the cops instead.

PS
She's totally wrong about everybody smoking pot. Loads of people don't. Probably well more than half of the residents of your complex don't. Most likely even more than that.

[jess0930]

I have had this happen to me as well WHILE PREGNANT! I was so nauseous and I was furious. The person who kept smoking pot lived right above us, and he had a lot of anger issues. To be honest I just called the cops. Well actually my husband did. My husband was tired of it too. The guy eventually got kicked out of his apartment due to getting so angry at 11 at night that he was punching the walls and he was hitting the wall so hard that one of me and my husbands pictures came off the wall and almost hit our premature baby. I wouldn't put up with it anymore. call the landlord and see what they say.

[wiscomommy]

Are you getting the munchies too?? J/K - trying to lighten up the mood. Yeah, that sucks. I'm a cigarette smoker, and the smell of any kind of smoke (cigs, weed, etc.) tends to bother me too. Feelin' for ya!

[realdeal1818]

Definitely contact landlords. Also, not everyone smokes it- I don't and know quite a few people who don't as well! I couldn't live that way either though, the smell of pot makes me extremely nauseous for some reason. I get sick to my stomach when I smell a hint of it. I hope things get better for you!!

[ruhligv]

Thanks for all the replies! I told her that if it continued I would have to call the landlord and/or cops and she told me that I was being very insensitive and rude. Whatever! I know they're still smoking but i haven't smelled it for the past couple of days, however I have the feeling as it warms up outside it'll get worse. Its been cool and rainy here so i think the moisture in the air helps keep the smell at bay, as they say vaporizors do. So anyway I'm sure ill end up having to call eventually. Like I said I don't care that they do it, that's their business. But I do care that it sinks down into my apartment and reeks. It's good to know you all feel the same way, I appreciate your responses! Thank you!

[Valen*]

ugh that sux :/ My brother used to smoke on my porch and we could always smell it inside the house. It was horrible! I hate that smell, so much. U did what u could. Next thing would be tell someone who can do something about it! Good luck, hun!

[ruhligv]

Thanks Valen, I contacted my landlord today and she was very understanding about it and said she would take care of it. I told her that I'm spending thousands of dollars and dedicating years of my life to my schooling and if I get caught with pot in my system (though highly unlikely with second hand smoke) that it would ruin my academic career and my future! She took that pretty seriously and told me I should certainly not have to put up with it. I try not to judge people, I mean its not something I choose to do... But when it's affecting me and my health and my future, I can't just let sit around and let it happen. Now I just wait for the explosion from my neighbors... Nervous about them confronting me! But I did talk to them first and give them a fair warning!

[Valen*]

Very good! & You definitely CAN have it show up in your system from second hand. It has happened to me :/ U did the right thing. If they get mad at you, so be it. It's always ideal to get along with neighbors, but they'll get over it.

[Grace47]

You're being insensitive? What a self centered person! They may get evicted and if they do, it's their own fault. In some states, if the police find drugs in a home, regardless of whether the owner lives there or not, they are fined. So I'm sure your landlord is happy to know about this. I hope things improve for you soon.

[sdfl]

You are actually quite darling for talking about it with her first. Some neighbors would have been too scared to confront her. She is simply one of those entitled, possibly histrionic, personalities, and that is barely your fault or issue. We're with you on this, as my neighbors do the same thing, and I love to keep my windows opened in the spring at night. Since I live in a more rural area it can be so refreshing....till they break out the weed.

[staystrongxx]

You handled the situation well. You spoke with them and they didn't listen so of course you had to go to the landlord. At least she was understanding.

Also, just to interject, not all "bigger girls" want to eat all the time. That's kind of a stereotype, why did you need to tell us that she's bigger to point out her annoying behavior about food.
I'm fat and I took a little offense seeing as I know skinny people who eat way worse/more than me.

Other than that, I hope the situation clears up

[ruhligv]

Staystrong I didn't mean to stereotype her like that, I was only mentioning that to describe her personality. I thought it was strange that she would see something on my Facebook about what I was cooking and then invite herself down to eat it! I guess I didn't have to mention her size... I mean I could lose about 30 lbs myself and I'd be horrified to invite myself anywhere to eat someone's food! I am not sure if it was her or the "munches" talking! So I do apologize about that. Thanks for pointing that out! I was actually being insensitive in that respect!

[staystrongxx]

Probably the munchies. My Dad eats a ton when he's stoned. -.-

And no problem