someone help me quick

[kelly20]

Today im going to a wedding and im having a panic attack.im so scared, ive started to feel a bit rough. im so scared. im going to have to eat and i dont know anyone at the wedding. i dont know how to calm down. ive got about two and a half hours before i have to go. im dreading it. im shaking and sweating. someone please hepl me calm down.

[mitch04133]

Sorry I couldn't be online when you needed us. I am guessing you went to the wedding?? I hope everything is going good. I would offer some advice, but its too late now, cause your already gone. Let me know how it went, hope you had fun.


Michele

[tcsarah]

I'm sorry I wasn'there yesterday. I hope everything went better than you anticipated.


I know exactly what you went through as I went through the same thing when I was asked to be a witness at my friend's BIG church wedding about eight years ago. The church stuff was fine, the only thing that I was dreading was the reception and sitting down and eating a five course meal with strangers knowing full well I'd panic, feel nauseous and not be able to eat. I was so worried about that day I had hypnotherapy for a few months beforehand! Well the day came and I was an absolute nervous wreck, fearing the big meal more than I've ever feared anything before.


Just before we went in for the meal I had the biggest panic attack and said to my then-boyfriend that I didn't think I could go through with it, but then the thought of telling my friend and her parents (who I'm close to too) that I couldn't stick around and imagining the look of disappointment on their faces, well, I just couldn't do that either. So I just found my legs walking me in and sitting down for a meal. I don't know how the hell I managed it, but I did. I trembled, felt nauseous, panicked throughout the meal and couldn't eat everything, but I did it - I survived! I kept thinking of the words of encouragement the hypnotherapist had given me and relied on my anti-anxiety drugs to do their stuff and prevent me v* and it worked. And you know what? - the high I felt after doing that was amazing, I thought if I could manage that I could manage anything!


Please let us know how the day went for you. I hope it helps to know there are people who have these exact same worries and fears about things, and who have been through the same hellish times, so can totally empathise.


Tracey x

[kelly20]

hey thanks so much for replying. it means so much to me. the wedding was fine haha. i think that because it was a late wedding, i had ALL day to think about it and get worked up. When i arrived i was so busy meeting people that i didnt have time to think about v* or anything. I had ordered a vegatarian option for the meal so i was instantly more relaxed, although it was a 4 course meal so i just had a little bit of each portion. I had to go to the toilet a couple of times just to be alone and take deep breaths. I ended up having a bit of each course and EVEN had a dance after. Im so proud of myself because i didnt have a major panic attack or anything and i really enjoyed myself. I feel that i made progress so thats amazing! Thanks so much for caring.

[tcsarah]

That's great news, and you ought to feel proud of yourself as you did really well. What an achievement not to have had a bad panic attacktoo - you did all the right things, what with giving yourself alone time to take relaxing deep breaths and everything. The thing is your good experience of this wedding will make you more confident about the next.


Big pats on the back for Kelly! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

[chicajojobe]

That sounds like me the day of my graduation. I was a total mess!



There were only two times that entire day when I didn't cry. The ceremony and the ceremony rehearsal.



It was in the middle of the football field so I was so afraid that I
was going to get sick with a whole stadium of people there to see it!
Of course everything was fine. [img]smileys/smilies_09.gif[/img][img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]



Glad to hear the wedding went good for you too.