I don’t think i can cope with this.

[lovelyliss]

Well I'm back guys, thanks for all your messages, it cheered me up no end to know that there were other poeple like me out there and I wasn't alone.

I must admit after having found this site and writing down my fears and woes I started to feel like it was manageable. I went to the docotr who I felt did not really get me and demanded a second opinion which went better.

However now I'm completely freaking out. What if this bloody thing never goes. I'm going through major changes in my life which I should be happy about and other things that I should be making more of an effort with but I cant because whatever I do I'm constantly worrying about being sick. Last night for example my boyfriend and our flatmate suggested going bowling which I love but I was spinning out on the bus, (you remember I havent been on the tube ofr months and the bus is the only form of transport apart from my own to feet which I can stomach). However it now appears that the bus makes me feel sick also. Today we went looking at flats because we need to find somewhewre bigger but you guessed it it involved the tube and the bus or a two hour walk. I almost didnt go and stayed home but I swallowed my fear and did it. I couldnt enjoy it though (even though we found the flat of our dreams) because all I could do was worry about the journey homew and whether I would be sick then?

I really just cant face this anymore. The docotr has reccomended some f***ing computer programme therapy which is of the cognitive behavioural kind but I am so so so scared that this wont work. I hoped that they'd be able to give me something which wouold take away the anxiety and the fear but instead they are unable to give me a time frame of how long it could take to beat this thing nd in the meantime I can barely leave my house am completely unable to do simple everyday things which involve travel and my poor boyfriend has to constantly listen to me moaning about being sick. I kicked him out the other night because he had a bit too much to drink and I was worried about him vomiting.

I cant take this anymore and seriously considered suicide toda but cant do it simply because I love my boyfriend too much but I have no answers to this problem and nobody else seems to either. I'm terrified all the time and don't know what to do. Please somebody help me before I lose my mind and my dinner.

Thanks again for listening

Liss

xxxx

[mitch04133]

I am so sorry you are going through a rought time. I have been in your position before, and believe me, even contemplating suicide should not be an option. Although there maybe no specific "cure" or "answer" to emetophobia, learning to live with it, and slowly moving away from anxiety is all we can do. Do you see a therapist now? Have you thought about trying any medicaiton for anxiety? I have never been to a therapist, or been on medication, I just have been telling myself that I can do this, that I can get past this phobia and not let it run my life. Having a positive attitude, and a great partner that supports me (my boyfriend Scott) has made a world of difference. You should be proud of the fact that you did go out, I didn't leave the house for months. Taking little steps like that will help you realize that v* is not controlling your life. I know it is hard, and I know how depressing it can be, but it sounds like you have a wonderful man that loves you, and I can tell that you love him, so working this out is the only option. I am sorry that things are rough, but I believe that putting yourself in a positive frame of mind can change everything.


I wish you nothing but the best, and if you need someone to talk to, PM me. I have been through an awful time this past year, I had major health problems, and surgeries, I broke up with an abusive boyfriend, and I was severly depressed, but I pulled myself out of it. Good luck and feel better


Michele

[tcsarah]

My heart goes out to you - I've been there so know exactly what you are going through. I reached such a low point in my life several years ago due to emetophobia, agorophobiaand depression, I used to think about ending things a lot. It seemed like I had tried every form of therapy out there, and the medication I was taking didn't seem to help anymore, I simply could not see a way out of my torment. The final straw was having an unsympathetic doctor who told me I wouldn't worry about trivial things in life such as v*ing in public if I had a baby to look after - at twenty five he told me the answer to all my problems would be to have a child!!!


I changed doctors to one who new something about mental health problems! It's important to feel confident with your doctor and it doesn't hurt to see different ones until you find a good one. I also tried different mediactions to see which one helped me the most and finally foundone that turned my life around and put me back on track with coping with everyday life. I'm still taking this medication (Seroxat, anti-depressants), which has literally saved my life.


I know it's hard, but the answer is to keep battling on, never give up, because you will find something that helps, and one day you will look back on what you went through and smile that you came out the other side. Try as many therapies as you can, ask your doctor about medication and talk your problems and worries through with a good friend/relative, or come here to vent your frustrations - we all know what it's like and are always here to lend a cyber shoulder to cry on.


I know you have the strength of character to fight this thing - you proved that by feeling the fear of going flat hunting and doing it anyway. Nothing is going to cure you over night but slowly but surely you will start to feel better bit by bit with the right treatment and talking things through with a good listener.


Good luck with everything, please let us know how you are doing.


Tracey x

[suzy.o]

You are probably having an "off period" In youre life at the moment, Dont worry we all get through it, even if its unbarable now this desperate feeling wont last forever, we have all been through the same, but remember, its impossible for you to feel like this for the rest of your life, eventually, when you get, dare I say, accostomed to it, it will have less power over you, then you will learn to live with your fear. Its not all that hard when you reach that because by then you will be aware of your feelings in different circumstances and you will have mastered the art of contolling it. It is a stranger to you now so you not an expert at how to deal with it, but I know you will become one without you even realising you have. Dont give up babe, you'll get there.

[suzy.o]

Forgot to mention, I have never took tablets to control my phobia but im no angel, I do drink alcohol to calm me down, We dont have to be controlled by a doctor any time, It depends what the person feels comfortable with, if it is therapy and tranquilisers then thats ok but a phobia does not mean your life will be centred around doctors and psychologists if you dont want them to be, and if you do want them then you are not mad or out of contnrol, there are so many phobics who dont go for treatment and phobias are far more common than we think.

[crystalmom]

You CAN cope, and you will. Life throws us so many curve balls, and we are built to withstand them. I know it seems hopeless right now (I know, I've been in the same state of mind), but you have to hang in there. Just think how strong you feel when you do do something, regardless of the anxiety. You are strong and can learn to live and not let fear rule you. There are so many people here that want to help, and I'm sure you have great people around you. Learn from their compassion, and you will find feelings of helplessness fading. Please keep us posted as to how you are doing. I'm sure I speak for everone here, that we worry about you, and all our other emet friends. We are here for you.


Take care of yourself,


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[lovelyliss]

[img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img] Thank you guys for your words of compassion,

Yesterday I was at my lowest ebb and felt like there were no answers. It appears that the reason I felt to bad yesterday was that I had a stomach bug which has made my nauseous feelings worse.

Today I have been uplifted by my friends and families support and I see you all as part of that afore mentioned group.

I appreciate all of your support

Has anyone had any hypnotherapy? If they have how did it work for them?

Thank you for your continuing support and I hope I can help you all as much as you have helped me

Liss

[crystalmom]

I have had hypnotherapy a few years back. It was "guaranteed". So, I go to my first session (my mom was with me) and I knew I wasn't "under" but I was a bit. It didn't work. So, I went back, and I knew that it wouldn't work for me because I just wouldn't allow myself to go far enough under for anything to really happen. I have thought about trying it again, and going to a differant hypnotherapist. I suppose it may help, and it may depend on how well you are prone to suggestion. Definately let me know if you go, and how well it worked (or didn't). [img]smileys/smilies_05.gif[/img]


Crystal

[tcsarah]

I've had hypnotherapy (I never felt like I went under at all though), and although it didn't help with the emet as such it did help with learning relaxation techniques. The hypnotherapist gave me tapes to take home, so that I could practice. Whenever I was suffering badly from anxiety I'd listen to a tape and it did help.


Apparently everyone is able to be hypnotized, it's just that some people will go deeper than others.