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[Gabbymeeske]

Someone help me. I feel like I'm honestly losing myself. My boyfriend and I of a year just broke up and I had always used him as a comfort. Now that I no longer have him whenever I feel sick I am overwhelmed by fear and anxiety. It's hard for people to truly understand why emetophobes go through on a day to day basis. Because my boyfriend and I broke up I haven't eaten barely anything at all in the past 10 or 11 days. I also find whenever I eat I feel sick afterwards. I'm especially overwhelmed right now because my stomach hurts and I'm only making it worse by being scared... I'm shaking and idk what to do really. Like I was with people and as soon as I left to go home I felt sick. Idk if it was my thoughts that did it or I just have a stomach ache. All I know is I feel like I'm falling apart without my boyfriend. I'm shakin uncontrollably right now and I'm not sure what to do... Please help me

[reggie96]

Hi there, Sorry to hear you are having a horrible time.I think probably why your are feeling sick is because your body is not coping with the fact that you haven't eaten much in 11 days.I know even after I miss a meal I feel a bit sick.I think maybe to your suffering some anxiety with all the stress and not coping with the break up aswell.Try taking a nice warm bath or some warm tea.If you need to chat more Im online.xx

[Gabbymeeske]

Thank you for responding so quickly. I'm just really having a rough time with my break up an being alone. I've always had a problem with being alone. And recently in the past year afraid of being away from my boyfriend in case something were to happen. He was my ultimate comfort zone and he's gone now so how can I do this on my own? Either way, I have to, but I really want it to just go away and leave me alone forever. The fear is honestly ridiculous, I know that, but there isn't anything I can do about it. The reason for the fear is dumb but the actual fear is real and now that I don't have my baby is the most horrible thing I can imagine. He was obviously a false sense of security because whatever's gonna happen will, but its the fact that my fear is based upon irrational thoughts, not rational ones, therefore I deal as if I really need my boyfriend to survive, to be healthy and not be sick.

[bakogirl]

I'm sorry. Breakups suck.

I'm pretty sure you're feeling sick for many reasons. 1. Because you haven't been eating. If I don't eat for awhile and then try to eat it makes me nauseous. 2. You just had a break up that's very stressful and it sounds like you were close. So it's like a grieving process. Some people don't eat when they lose someone and some people eat a lot. 3. The lonely feeling and not having him to turn to. You can always turn to us. I know some don't post that quickly but you are not alone.

Chin up! I hope you heal soon.

[missj]

*hugs* I know how you feel. My FI is a pilot so he is gone A LOT. In fact he's gone right now and we left with me being in a bad mood and he has NO means of communication right now. : ( I am home now, panicked, feeling like I am going to V* and wishing he was here because I can't even go to the store to get Emetrol or Saltines. : ( Makes me feel bad that I wasn't very nice before he left. : ( I am so sorry, girl. Huge hugs, again.

[Gabbymeeske]

Thank you so much. This website is honestly a blessing. If you ever need to talk I'm here too! At [email protected] you can email me whenever. Xoxo