v* as a kid

[bluebell242]

well, i guess my emet is also to do with social phobia.
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i mean as a kid who's v*, you're supposed to help them right? not do nothing and not care!

I don't even remember how many times i v*d in that trigger experience, but so many and I can totally understand how that would be terrifying for a small child who's father was not being supportive when I'd be told I could rely on him for support.

I read in my thrive book, that the chances of me developing emet if my dad had calmed me down in that situation and cared about me, would be virtually impossible to have developed it, and that does make me angry unfortunately.

Can I ask others thoughts/experiences? Did you still develop emet even if you had a lot of support in that situation? Thing is, I think this emet truly is unique for every one of us, so it is possible that if someone had not let you go through the experience yourself you may still have been ashamed or embarrased (the whole reason why I did not want to admit I was ill as a kid).

[misslucy1590]

Hi there,

I developed emet when I was 12 after SV with lots of V and D (horrid). Before that age, I had always been scared of V*ing, I'd panic about it, scream, etc. if I thought that I might V. But before I was 12, I would only worry about V if I felt N. I do think that part of the reason I developed emet is because my dad wasn't supportive and my mum used to laugh at me (not in a nasty way, but she told me that she thought it was quite a funny sight that I would be running around and V*ing at the same time). I think that's partially where my humiliation about it comes from. I don't blame my mum, she didn't mean to humiliate me and I don't think that's the whole story anyway. I also remember my dad telling me not to tell him if I was scared I was gonna V but to tell him afterwards because there's no point...not sure I understand that one, but oh well. Parents don't realise sometimes that so many of their considered off handed comments can have such an effect on their children.

[Miss_Pink24]

I genuinely have no idea where my phobia came from, I just know that I have always had it.

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It only got really bad after a *sv at age 6 when I had uncontrollable *ving for an hour (it was probably less, but it felt like an hour). I have not been sick since. I think maybe it was because I was more aware of what was going on and how horrible it was or something compared to when you are younger (I was sick A LOT when I was younger). I would say my parents were supportive; stayed with me until I had stopped *ving, cleaned me and my mess up, let me sleep in their room with them that night, so I genuinely don't know. The occasion I am referring to, I had *tu before I reached the toilet so my mum made me look round and said "Look at the mess you have made", but that was the only negative thing about her support, but even then it was not THAT bad that it would make me afraid, it just made me *v more when I saw it! :P Oh and I had a cup of water in the toilet with me and as I leant over to *v I poured it down the toilet, my mum laughed at that, but then that was not actually to do with me *ving and I think I laughed too inbetween heaves (I think it may have been her way to lighten the mood and possibly lessen my fear).

So I'm not sure. I can understand why emet may develop due to lack of support/bad reactions from parents after *ving as a child though. That psychological scar of "Oh, this is bad, I must not do this, my parents don't like it!". But I think that emet can still develop even if parents are supportive and caring when you are ill.

[misslucy1590]

Yeah, I don't think that parental support or lack of is the only reason people develop emet. I just think it's a contributing factor. I think sometimes you hold onto humiliating experiences and do anything to avoid it happening again. That could apply for me when my mum laughed (albeit not in a nasty way), because now part of my fear is about V*ing in public due to being embarrassed. But there are definitely other reasons people develop emet.

[JustLacey]

I developed emet aged eight. I've always had kind of a facination with vomiting, but I once gulped down spaghetti bolegnase without chewing and obviously that night, I had to choke on it didn't I? There was a lack of parental support during that episode, but I also got told off and felt guilty about doing it on the freshly cleaned carpets. Since then I've always associated it with choking and being told off and it developed into this. So that's why I developed it. I also have slight social anxiety too, and I would always be worried about being sick in class or in the street.
Lacey.

[shawlin218]

Mine developed at age 8 because it happened it school and my classmates freaked out on me and so did the nurse! And it didn't help that they called for a janitor over the loudspeaker. I was humiliated and already feeling bad and I don't remember my mom saying much to me after she took me home that day. Ever since then, it's gotten a lot worse. I'm terrified of it happening in public, or even if my family is around. I definitely think a lack of support plus holding on to that humiliating experience cause my emet.

[randall3329]

My family have always been supportive during any illnesses - I even remember my mum cleaning up after a friend v* at a sleepover at my house. I have never v* in public, never had a humiliating or traumatic episode... for me its just the way I am for no reason at all apparently lol.

[TerrifiedGirl]

I developed my phobia about the same as everyone else. I was 5, at daycare, v*d after the teacher wouldn't call on me to go to the bathroom. It was so normal before that.... I can't believe I could v* without caring about it before. Anyway, the teacher treated me like crap and all the kids were laughing at me. It's burned into my memory. My mom has never taken my phobia seriously, she tells me to stop being a baby and to grow up. The only time I v*d after that was when I was 10 and had a *sv. I was terrified and crying, and my mom was sleeping and told me to suck it up and take care of it myself. I still remember very vividly everything else that night, trying to find a bucket, barely being able to see because I was sobbing so hard... needless to say I'm extremely paranoid. I can remember every time I've ever been sick. I blame my mom for being part of the problem

[catherine73]

Iv`e no idea why I`m so scared of vting, I think that it`s mainly a control issue, & of course fear of doing it in public, & the humilliation involved.

[AmericanAdam]

when I was a child, I used to v* quite often, even though between the ages of 4 and 7 I didn't v*at all. I was 7 years old when I had a sv* and the next one I had was at age 15. When I was a child, It didn't bother me as much, being so young, I just remember waking up, feeling fine, then having it suddenly come out. The thing that bothered me the most was being thirsty and not being able to drink. I actually spent 5 minutes straight drinking water and v* it back up. I thought I was helping prevent it (I know, stupid, right). My phobia must have developed between the ages of 7 and 15 with me. I think it may have been early on, maybe 9 or 10 because I can remember being real young and hearing my mom v*ing from eating too much and being upstairs walking back and forth crying and panicking.