when is it safe?

[reevagee]

so after a long week and my bf v* at work wed afternoon and hanging out w me Thursday, I found out I have a bunch of cancer cells on my cervix and need this surgery. my bf came by to talk to me for a little. we sat on my porch and he hugged me a little. I didn't kiss him I'm still scared. I'm still afraid to get sick since he came by my house on Thursday after being sick wed. I really wana be w him now and just kiss him n stuff cuz I am so upset. when can I be safe to do that? he had d* yesterday and today but not a lot. I need his support but really don't wana get sick. what can I do? I'm so upset!

[NicManri]

You should be ok, it's not spread through saliva. If your going to his house either have him clean with bleach or you do it. Do you have to hav actually surgery or the biopsy procedure? I had the biopsy procedure and it wasn't too bad, it would have been a piece of cake if the dr knew what she was doing but if that's all you have to have done then its not to bad

[reevagee]

hey thanks! yea his cleaning lady came by Thursday and cleaned everything but id rebleach everything anyway. I have to have the cone biopsy I'm fourth stage severe cervical dysplasia. the carcinoma are all over the cervix. I'm scared to death. on top of it all I just wana lay down w my bf and be happy a little but I'm so scared. idk what to do. do u think I would've been sick already since we hung out the day after he v*? I took airborne and drank a ton of grape juice and constantly washed my hands.

[NicManri]

Yes, if you saw him Thursday I think you would have been sick by now, but it sounds like you did everything to avoid it, you washed your hands and I'm sure you didn't touch your mouth. I think it would be really hard to get it from him since you weren't around him when he was v* and d*, you wernt even in the same house. Just to be safe I wouldn't have him make you food for a few days but other than that being next to him is fine.

[reevagee]

thanks. I appreciate it. did you also have the cone biopsy? btw he's going to come for lunch but I won't be in his apartment until mon/tues. kinda glad. lol.

[NicManri]

I don't know what the procedure I had was called, the hospital I had it done at was awful with giving me any info. I know they swabbed some dye onto my cervix and the if the cells turned colors they used a machine to remove them, it felt like a pinch. Is that what they are doing to you? There's no way your going to get sick from him then. Really, unless your around an adult when their actively sick or either of you have bad hygiene then it's very unlikely you'll get it.

[reevagee]

no they already found the cells at stage four. I have to be put to sleep and they are going to remove a cone shaped piece of my cervix. im petrified.

[NicManri]

That sounds awful! I hope it goes well.

[reevagee]

thanks so much I'm just gonna keep praying..

[mdgirl1977]

I had the cone procedure done. Not bad. It is called LEEP. I was asleep for 15 minutes, then woke up. Normal cramping and a little blood like a period. It sounded way worse than it was. My mom drove me home and I slept for a few hours and was totally fine. I also had the stage 4 thing. they were worried I couldn't have a kid after due to the shortened cervix (I had the procedure when I was like 22) but I got pregnant at 29 and had no issues. I actually was also just told that I have dysplasia as well (that is what the term is for cancerous cells on the cervix) and it sounds worse than it is. Highly treatable and you should be fine after.

[reevagee]

I'm so glad to hear that u were able to have children. I'm just really worried about the baby if I am pg now.

[mdgirl1977]

you can't have it if you are pregnant I don't think as stuff with your cervix can induce miscarriage. definitely ask them to give you a test!

[mdgirl1977]

re kids after - they said worst scenario they would have to put a stitch or two in my cervix to keep it closed while pregnant. never needed it but there are always things they can do. again, it all depends on how deep they go and how much your cervix grows back. you will be fine though. it sounds wayyyy scarier than it is. hearing pad, Tylenol and rest. I was back at work the next day.

[NicManri]

I don't know if they will use the dye on you but if they do you can have a funny color discharge. They didn't tell me that and I freaked out a bit when I went to the bathroom the next day.