Dealing with boyfriend being sick

[Strummer]

Hi everyone,

im im new here and I'm glad I found this site!

So I'm with a new boyfriend(3rd one I've ever had) and he's a really sweet calm guy(balances out my high strung personality lol!). We don't live together and he lives a hour away but I really like him. Never thought I would want to kiss a guy because of my fear but he's the first one that Ive actually wanted to kiss! He got some stomache bug last Thursday and texted me the next day saying that he had been sick that night but that he was feeling way better.

I had that panicky worried feeling sink in but I also felt disappointed because I was looking forward to seeing him. Well I decided to tell him about my fear so that he would know why I might act a bit funny around him when I saw him next. He wasn't worried at all and said he was totally fine with waiting to be able to kiss me. Well I'm a business owner and had to work on the weekend on short notice so I wasn't able to go to see him on Sunday. I was kinda relieved but sad at the same time.

So my whole dilemma and what has caused a increase in my stress level is that I want to kiss him the next time I see him( probably Wednesday) but I also don't want to because I'm super worried I might catch whatever he had last Thursday. Do you think he would still be contagious? This whole situation has caused more stress than I'm used to(I've been feeling great with little to no stress for the past 6 months).

Ugh this dilemma is driving me crazy!

thanks in advance for any help!

[gumdropper1]

If he vomited last Thursday, August 7, he would have been in the clear after Sunday, August 10 (72 hours later). If you read various discussions posted here on IES, you will find that emets generally don't catch stomach viruses from their intimate partners even when they're living together or married. You're lucky to have an understanding partner!

Doug

[Strummer]

I know they say 3 days and a person isn't contagious anymore. I was worried because I know they say a person can carry the virus for 2 weeks in their intestines but that there really hasn't been any research done to prove that it isn't in saliva. That's really good to hear that even living together it can be avoided. I will keep up my " germaphobe " (as my little brother puts it so kindly haha) practises.

[Applejack]

You should be in the clear now. Like others have said it only lingers for up to 72 hours. That being said I've lived with my partner for two years and when we first got together I ended up kissing him (and more) the evening he had been ill (last *v that morning) and I never caught it. He knows better now though just in case!

[Strummer]

Wow! That's good to know. Thanks applejack! Ya my boyfriend knows that I have to wait a few days luckily i kissed him this past weekend for the first time and my emetophobia didn't even affect me! I'm so glad because I never thought I would be able to kiss someone!