Why? Just why??

[michg]

I hate having emet. I have started dating a guy, he is not only a teacher but has 3 kids that he sees every weekend a quite a lot this week. We had a lovely day together and he was feeling fine until after lunch, he said he was feeling uncomfortable but had probably eaten too much. We sat down and watched a film and about 90 mins ago he started feeling ill and got stomach cramps. He is really good about my emet and he offered to go. (At which point I was keeping my distance any way). He has just text me to say he has had v and d. Now I am panicking. Can I catch it from his saliva before he v'd?? I feel fine so it wasn't lunch that caused it. How do I clean a sofa? He wasn't ill at mine but am scared I will catch it now if it was noro or a bug. Just wish I could go one winter without this phobia. I so want this relationship to work but between school, kids and now him, I am not sure it will :-(. Too much of a risk.

[Syrup]

No, he wasn't contagious until he began to show symptoms so unless he pooped at your house there's nothing to fear. Saliva DOES NOT transfer the virus. My boys had a sv* last weekend and I kissed them both and drank from their Gatorade bottle. I was fine and you will be too! Don't let the fear of ANYTHING get in your way. If you WANT this relationship to work and he knows about your phobia why would you walk away? Don't let emetophobia make choices for you.

[jkl81]

I agree, I feel like there is almost no chance you will get what he has, assuming it's even contagious. Don't worry about sanitizing the couch...or I wouldn't.

[michg]

Thank you syrup, you are right.
I want this to work but have chosen someone who always seems surrounded by v or v risk with kids and work. High anxiety levels. This has given me the drive to start to get emet from my life once and for all.

[Theropod]

Having emet or not, we all have the rights to protect yourself from viruses, even if it's from a loved one.

I hope I don't sound disheartening or anything.