I feel like a horrible mother!

[lilyann]

Hi everyone--I just got on tonight and I have to say I've been going crazy for about a month now since my husband and son both came down with an sv within 2 days of each other. I treated them like they had the plague, made my husband sleep on the sofa when he came down with it. I am pregnant with my 2nd child. I can't even take care of my 6 year old son when he is sick. I run and hide. I've gotten a little bit better because at least now I don't run screaming from the room. I obsessed about it for days after they got sick though and thought I caught it too, but thankfully never v*. I started reasearching this disorder after that. I've always known I had it, probably for the last 15+ years. I'm 31 now and haven't v* in 10 years. I want to work at lessing my emet for the sake of my child due in May and my son. I don't want to obsess during and after the time my family catches a sv. I know it's inevitable when you have kids. I don't know if anyone else out there has felt this, but I'm starting to believe that I'm jealous that my husband can deal with a sick kid and get sick himself and just move on. I want to be able to do that too someday. I think I'm also mad at him for being "careless" and catching it too. I just want to be able to put these thoughts out of my head and move on,but since I'm determined to overcome this I'm afraid if I stop thinking about it I'm going to go back to my old ways!

[sheri-baby]

OH my thoughts are just like yours...my husband catches every sv the kids get...he's careless about hygiene and doesn't worry at all....and I am so jealous of him because he never worries or cares about throwing up, in fact if he feels sick it's nothing for him to stick his finger down his throat!....I wish I was like that soooo bad......the not worrying part. I too treat them like the plague, but just breathing the same air has me feeling doomed....well at least it looks like you've dodged this one, just think their immune systems are getting stronger, so the next virus that goes around will miss them or if they catch it they can fight it off faster. You sound like your on the right track though, just keep telling yourself not to obsess about this and move on. Best of luck to you[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[lilyann]

Sheri--Thanks for that! I just want to be able to get sick with the rest of them if I have to,complain about it, get some sympathy too, and get on with it. Not be the one who doesn't get sick and just has to witness it all happening curled up in a ball on the couch. I think I've gone so long that I've mastered the art of not getting sick, even if I feel really sick. I go back and forth between being jealous of those who can just do it and get it over with and being mad at them for not being able to control it too like I do.

[aar13]

Wow Lilyann, we are almost exactly in the same situation. I am also pregnant with my 2nd child which is due in May! My 5 year old daughter just had the stomach flu about a month ago now and I'm still obsessing over it. The SV is going around here really bad and I can't stop worrying that I'm going to get it. I did ok with her when she was sick - she V*ed from 3am until the next night around 8pm and I was home with her ALL day long while my husband worked. (he is also not her father so it's my responsibility) Each time she gets sick I deal with her v*ing better, but it still makes me crazy. My stomach is upset while being pregnant as it is, I don't v* but I'm always nausaus and scared that I am going to wake up in the middle of the night sick with the sv.


Being pregnant, stress and anxiety is no good for me or the baby - and you too Lilyann, but I just can't seem to calm myself.My husband is not at all supportive, so it really stinks. I just hate this time of year - hurry up summer!