getting intimate with emet.

[krste]

hey everyone! i just have a quick question or need some advice!.. the emet. is new to me, i have alwasy been fear full of V* but never like this.. but my question is, how do i get over the fear of V* during being intimate with someone, this a a huge deal for me, because i dont want to be like this forver or be lonely forever and its a huge part of life if i say so myself.. im so scared to do it now (literally lol), i never had a problem with this b4 so it never even crossed my mind, but the other night i had a not so nice dream about being intimate and having emet. and it opened my eyes to a problem( another one lol) so any advice?? anyone else have this same problem??

[rayvin400]

Hi there! Sorry to sound ignorant, but what exactly do you mean by intimate? Do you mean being friends with someone or having sexual relations with people?Edited by: rayvin400

[liriodendron]

DURING ?!?!

OMG, I that would be the biggest insult of all time to the partner LOL.

That's a joke.

I don't think your odds of that happening are huge. You would not feel
up to any intimate encounters if you were ill or coming down with
something. Maybe that will make you feel better. Even if it did sort of
happen on an episode of the Sopranos.



If you mean that you are afraid to get in a relationship because your
partner might become ill at some point and spread it to you, that is a
very real problem for e-phobes. I don't have an answer for this other
than if you find the right person, it should be an exciting
relationship that has much more value than the security of having a
decreased risk of becoming ill. There's many couples that remain
healthy for many years without v*, you could be one of them, especially
if the partner is willing to follow some of your tips for staying
healthy if they aren't already aware. Kids on the other hand... I'm
just going to keep quiet about that.

[gubba]

I have been an EMET my whole life and at 41 and can say that I have a wonderful husband and a terrific son. It is possible to do this. Just know a few things...


first---if you truly love someone and you know you do, it is not so bad thinking that if you caught something it would not be the end of you. I do worry that my husband will kiss me and then he will be sick later and I will worry about catching it. Well, I do worry and he has been sick and I have not gotten it yet, but I am certain that one day I might. For the one time he has V*'d since we have been together, it seems silly to pass up on great love and affection for one day. Now, I will add that the day he did V*, I was scared to death and I washed my hands all day and ate smaller amounts and I did get D* from stress and I was nuts, but I stayed home knowing that if I did get it, I would be o.k. here at home. For 3 days, I did nothing too far from home and then i felt like it was over. I lived through it and I still have a great man who loves me.


My son V*'s a lot and I worry constantly. I panic and freak out... I would never trade him for the world and if I caught something from him, I would just have to ride it out, but I do get very scared. Would I want to be without either of them for this awful fear??? NO WAY


Finally, let me just say that it is one thing to be scared of being too close and catching something and another to write off intimacy for fear of getting sick. If you love someone and they love you back, they will be there for you and help you through anything.


Please do not let this fear stop you from a world of love and affection. The EMET gets enough attention from all of us and giving up love to it is unfair to you.