Ok, so I'm going out with this guy... and I really want to break up. I'm just not happy anymore... he says we are SO ALIKE, but we are not at all, I don't know how he can't see it. His priorities are different, he gets annoyed when I don't want to be sexual before marraige. He knows I won't have sex before marraige, but I've promised him I'll give him oral before - but I don't want to do that either! It's a long distance relationship, we've been together for a year and a half, and he has our ENTIRE LIVES planned out!! When I move to college in fall, he'll come, find some way to move in with me, and then we live together forever.. I'm only almost 18, the thought of all this is so overwhelming!! I want to go to college, have FUN without being so attached for life to anyone, get a good job, and THEN begin thinking about marraige. He doesn't understand it really though, he's in more of a hurry to settle down and be married then I am. I want to be independent, not stuck with him when I go off to college. My family doesn't even know about him! If I talk with him, I'll say I was talking with a different friend. We don't have the same sense of humor, we don't have the same spiritual beliefs (I'm not even heavily religious, and I have no issues with his religion, but it's like whenever I say I believe something, he has to debate it and try to prove that I'm wrong). We are both prettyliberal in politics, but I choose to live more conservatively in my personal life, and I don't think he understands my choices at all. He says he likes my values, but stillwants me to do things to him that I am not comfortable with. I have just realized that, while he makes a good friend, we should Not be more then that.


Sorry for ranting.


Here's the real problem: He is so depressed, and has said that if I break up with him, he may kill himself. He says the only reason why he hasn't already is because of me - he knows that would upset me. I try to give him solutions to feel better in his life, but he doesn't listen at all! He just complains and is depressed. So I lead him on and tell him we'll be together forever, because I would feel SO GUILTY if he did anything to hurt himself. I feel so bad. I just want to break up with him and get on with my life, but I want him to be alright. I trust that he may actually follow through and kill himself, because he has attempted before, before we were a couple. I don't know how to break up with him. I am just feeling bad now, this is my senior year and I should be enjoying it, but I feel stressed all the time because of this. I've had such a short temper with everyone lately. I need to go back to feeling happy. I don't want this to take over my life anymore.


What should I do? Please I need advice, this site is normally good with that.... thank you.