Sorry, gonna be long, but please read, I need some serious guidance --


Ok, I know this is rather horrible of me and somewhat controversial, but here goes: I signed up with the www.classmates.com site, where you can read about and contact old friends and people you went to school with. Well, I am having marital probs and the biggest is that my hubby doesn't show me any physical attention, and s*x (sorry) is once, maybe twice a week and boring. Well, he doesn't touch me any other time, and gives me small pecks rather than real kisses, things like that. When I confront him, he says things like, "I don't feel like it". He is a decent guy, but says very hurtful things to me until I'm crying, then he wants me to shut up because I'm annoying him. ANYWAYS, during a vulnerable moment I sent a message through Classmates to a guy from middle and high school that I always had a major crush on, but we actually never spoke to each other! He wrote back that same day, and he gave me his phne #, so we've talked a few times as well. He is going through a divorce, and I'm unhappily married. Here's the weird parts: He told me he always thought I was "hot" but was too embarrassed to talk to me, he says that he feels "happy" when we talk, he says that if we would've talked back then, our lives would be differentnow because we'd prob be together. Here's the REALLY weird part: We had mutual friends in school, and he was talking to one of them about me just a few days before I contacted him out-of-the-blue!!! Also, the night he got my message was his first night alone-his wife had moved out!!!! Mind you, we graduated school 20 years ago! All of a sudden we both were thinking of each other after all this time. How weird is that?!?!?!?! He says it's "fate", and wants to see me next month. He lives about 4 hours away in California, and I have this uncontrollable urge to see him, and look forward to talking on the phone again this weekend. HELP!!!! Am I terrible? Do you think this is fate and is maybe meant to be?? What would YOU do?? I'd love some feedback.....Edited by: californiagirl