Help - hubby is drunk

[trix vix]

Hi i need someone to talk to


My hubby went out with some friends this afternoon for lunch and a few drinks. I agreed to take him and drop him off but am now regretting it. He is really drunk and i am feeling really anxious and panicking that he is going to be sick.


I know it's really bad when he sits/lies down and has to put his foot on the floor - this helps the room stop spinning apparently. He is in bed doing this now, fully clothed. I am REALLY angry with him and don't want to stop him from having a good time, but it's me that's sitting here worrying to death!!! [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]


Please god don't let him be ill

[Carolee]

Hi how are things right now? Try and go to a room far away from him, turnt he tv on or listen to headphones...does he understand your fear? could he tell you if he will b esick and when it is over so youknow when ti is safe?

[princessmel]

Try to calm down. How is he now? Does he know about your phobia? If he does get sick, just step outside.

[fifi]

Try and relax. Can you sleep somewhere else? Just take deep breaths and watch tv or something.


At least you know he feels sick because of the drink and not a sv, still hard to cope with i know.


Keep in touch and let us know how he is


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[trix vix]

Yeah he knows about my phobia and is quite good about it, normally. Before he went out i told him not to get too drunk and to wash his hands before eating because the SV virus is still going about.


He is still in the bedroom, in the dark, fully clothed but he has now taken his foot off the floor (could this be a good sign?)


I'm in the spare room on the computer (obviously) with the stereo on. Am frightened to death and so angry with him.


I love him so much and don't want to control his life because of my phobia but i struggle to control myself - does anyone else nag like me?????

[princessmel]

Yeah. I do the same, but sometimes we just can't help it.

[fifi]

My hubby does not drink. I have told him about my phobia and he said i have no need to be scared as he is with me.


I know that you feel bad, darling, and i feel for you. I always nag my hubby to cook things properly and to check the dates on food. But you know what men are like!!!!!


Keep strong


xxxxx

[kellybean]

Hey Trix Vix, I know exactly how you feel. My husband likes to go out every once in a while and get pretty drunk. Even though he never v*s, I can't help but worry and panic and be really mad at him. Then I feel bad because I don't want to be telling him that he can't go out and have a good time because of my phobia. This is a really tough situation for me, but I always seem to get through it. How is he doing now? Can you leave the house for a while?

[trix vix]

Thanks everyone


I don't really want to leave the house because i am frighteneed that if he is sick he will choke or something, although at the same time, i want some other company and want to be as far away as possible.


In the 7 years we have been together he has been sick so many times from drink. On one occassion i had to stop the car after picking him up - it was a complete nightmare cos i had to call my mum in the middle of the night because i was so worried about him. She is a nurse and came over to positon him on his side so that if he was ill he wouldn't choke (i didn't speak to him for days). I won't go into details but it plays over and over in my mind, especially when he gets drunk other times. I don't want to be mean but he is quite easily lead and he will sometimes do shots and stuff if his friends are doing them. He has stomach ulcers and i tell him that drinking will make them worse!


He doesn't tend to drink too much. He'll have a couple of beers during the week but only when he is with friends, and i'm not there, does he get really bad. If i'm there i nag him until he can't be arsed to argue with me.


Generally he is quite good about my phobia, except when drinking is involved!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[jodi054]

try and keep calm the sleep will do him good ..... i always tend to open the window slighty let the fresh air in....


try and relax and take your mind off it .. i know its hard

[laneyb]

I think if hes moved his foot from the floorhes prob feeling better.


This will make you laugh (if nothing else) a few years back before my now hubby moved in with me, we had a row, he went out, got wasted, came back to myhouse to declare undying love.......he rocked back and forth on the chair, said he felt sick, so i tiold him to go outside, he fell out the front door and v* all over the pavement, I called his parents and asked them to come and get him (i was about 29 and he was about 24, god how pathetic was I, I still laugh about it now and so does he) however if he did it now I'd probably call my parents to help!!!!!!!


Hope the situation is better,and you are feeling calmer now.


Laney xx

[trix vix]

Thanks everyone for talking - it has helped me trying to keep my mind off it, although i am talking about it................you know what i mean!


He has turned over and is sound asleep. I think i might go to bed now - scared to get in next to him but hopefully he'll be ok. He has to get up for work at 6.30am tomorrow, but i will have no sympathy if he feels rough (i'm a realy meany)


Thanks again ya'll