Son with *sv-HELP!

[surfjunkie]

Well, I knew that it was coming...and now I am doing the best that I can to
get through it. It feels like morning will never come! And then, my
daughter will probably get it! HELP! I hate feeling like this! I just want to
leave my house and come back when it is over!!!!!! I truly thought we
were out of the woods! It's almost May! [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[6pksummer]

Surfjunkie...what is going on?

[surfjunkie]

Well, we went to visit family tonight and my son informed me that he had
been burping all day. That was my first clue. Not many people would
consider that a red flag, but I knew something was up. I had a terrible
panic attack driving home. Luckily, my mom was with me. We got home
and I dropped him off with daddy. Then, I drove my mom home. I just
wanted to get out of the house. I was hoping to calm down with my
mom's help, but she is so caught up in her own life, she just tried to talk
about her stuff. I got home, we all went to bed. I slept with my
husband's ipod on. Next thing I know, he is at out door and I am jumping
out of my skin. He had gotten sick. I kicked my husband and he got up.
I handled it and helped clean up and could be around him, but now I am
just panicking. I took an Ativan, but I don't know if it will help. He is now
back in bed with a trash can, and I am downstairs. I hate this!!!!! I just
keep thinking about how he and my daughter shared my cell phone...I
pray that she doesn't get it. I was sick myself on Sunday, but it all led to
testing and finding out that I might have to have surgery...that's a whole
other story. I just want to get out of here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What do
I do now???????????????????

[sheri-baby]

hi there, how old is your son?...you sound exactly like me I have 2 kids also...a boy 6 and a girl 8 there have been times when one or the ohter had an sv and no one else caught it....i know how you are feeling right now, my hubby just had an sv for 3 days!!...i won't feel safe for a t lteast a couple of days more....terrible anxiety worrying me or my kids will get it....so far so good....i really think keeping them seperated during the illness and just having to watch everything they touch like a hawk for maybe a few days after....it has worked for me and some other mothers on here too...i wish you and your family well....hang in there.....i feel for you

[surfjunkie]

my son is almost 8 and my daughter is 5. i thought that we had been so
careful while i was sick and that was 5 days ago. we have a heavy duty air
purifier that has a sanitizer that i thought handled it. who knows, he
might have brought it home from school. i just hate how i can't shut my
brain off. it just keeps going and going and going. what do you do to
help the anxiety? any ideas that i might not have tried yet?

[sheri-baby]

were you sick with an sv? what were your symptoms? as far as how to help the anxiety..i'm the wrong person to ask..i'm probably worse than you in that department...i've been worrying 24/7 about this sv crap!!!....does the ativan help ease it alittle?.....i'm so sorry your going through this, but i'm right there with you

[surfjunkie]

the only symptom i had was d*. and i wasn't even sure that was *sv. i
had had a tough week and hadn't eaten very well, so i thought it was
stress and bad eating habits. i went to the dr. monday because i thought
i was dehydrated. i have been having soreness in my lower rib cage on
my right side, so she order an ultasound. got results yesterday. told me
that it showed a shadow. of course they didn't tell me over the phone
what that meant. when i went today, they found a nodule on my liver,
enlarged bile ducts (gall bladder area). they want to do an mri of my liver
and another test for the other stuff. so, I don't know if i really had the
*sv. she said that i probably did, but also said that my kids were
definitely out of the woods. guess not. as of now, the ativan seems to be
helping a little bit, but not like i would like it to. it's been over an hour
and i am just waiting to hear my little guy up again. i wish i knew if it
was just too much pop, (which he drinks very infrequently) and junkier
food that he isn't used to. if i knew that, maybe i could sleep. i know
that my husband will deal with it, but he sleeps so soundly. is your
husband supportive when your anxiety is bad? mine just seems to get
frustrated with me.[img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[sheri-baby]

my poor husband..i make him deal with it.....any other illness that does not involve v*, i'm the best mother...unfortunatly my husband works mostly nights....every single night i worry one of my kids will wake up and tell me they got sick, or their tummy hurts....my husband knows i'm afraid of v*, but has no idea how bad i am.....iif your son caught it from you, that shoots down the theory of 3 days incubation!!...yikes we might still be doomed!!...i can't stop freaking out my self....the last itme my son was sick in January, I stayed upstairs in my room...closed all the windows and took a sleeping pill...so i wouldn't hear him v*...but I still couldn't sleep and i had to keep checking on him because i needed the relief to see if he was done v*...he was sick for about 5 hours that night...then he had a fever and no appetite for 2 days...no one else in my family caught it...so it is very possible...another itme my daughter was sick when she was sick and no one else caught it again.....i'll be on for a while if you would like to talk...please try and relax....i know easier said than done

[sheri-baby]

so what is the doctor saying is wrong with your liver....does it sound serious?...i hope not

[curly wurly]

Poor you. I know how bad you must be feeling. My 6 year old daughter was v*ing all day last saturday. I was so worried my son would catch it but he didn't. I felt in a real panic, my heart beating fast, upset tummy and hot sweats, but somehow I got through it. I opened lots of windows in the house and took some deep breathes. Yes, it was hard but you are stronger than you think. I think you have done really well to be able to clean up after your son and be with him. Well done. I hope your son soon feels better and that you are o.k. Thinking of you and hope everything is soon back to normal.

[surfjunkie]

i appreciate your support. i think that the 3 day incubation is probably
still the case...it just seems like the *sv is out there again. i am a second
grade teacher and i had a student sick at school this week. who knows, i
could have brought it home. i got a nasty bug in january and no one else
got it. so, i can keep hoping. my husband gets so frustrated. i don't
know what i expect from him, but i end up feeling so guilty that i am the
way i am. i feel like i disappoint him everyday of my life, because i am
obsessive about everything 24/7. how long have you been dealing with
this? i feel like everyday of my life since 4th grade has been affected
somehow because of it. i wish that i was phobic of something else, that
didn't involve everyday and every aspect of my life!!!

[surfjunkie]

same symptoms for me right now....sick to my stomach, hot flashes,
shaky, on the verge of tears, amd my heart ready to pound out of my
chest. then, i worry that i am getting it. boo hoo! i am feeling sorry for
myself when things could be so much worse. they think that the spot on
my liver is nothing to worry about (try telling that to my brain!)

[curly wurly]

Try not to feel guilty, you cannot help having this phobia. I always feel so guilty as well. My husband does not really understand either and I always feel like I am disapointing him. Unfortunately my husband works away at sea for 4 months at a time so 9 out of 10 times I am the one who has to deal with everything when my children are s*. I have had emet for as long as I can remember and have no idea why I have it.


You are doing really well. You have managed to be with your son even though you are so scared. I really feel for you. You are doing a great job. I hope this is over for you soon.

[curly wurly]

Sorry you are not feeling well. If the doctor thinks the spot on your liver is not anything to worry about then try to stay positve, but I know that is hard, especially when everything is going to seem so much worse at the moment because of your s* son.

[sheri-baby]

curly you are very admirable...you have handled your children when they are sick...just as well as any on-emet out there.....at least it seems that way to me....i'm jealous!!.....surf junkie...i hope you are sleeping!!.....please let your son be okay....sending hugs your way[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[surfjunkie]

wow. i give you so much credit for having to deal with it alone. i would
have a hard time if i didn't have my husband around to help. but i guess
it is similar here, because my husband is a firefighter and gone quite a
bit.

i feel like a crummy mom that i can't handle this more gracefully. i'm
sure that he can totally suspect that i am struggling. i can handle any
other illness with flying colors. i often pray for other illnesses to catch
us...anything but the *sv!

i keep hearing my husband moving around upstairs and panic that he is
getting up to help my son again. the anticipation of it happening again is
torture!!!!

[sheri-baby]

you sound so much like me...i'm still shocked that there is even 1 more person in this world like me...let alone hundreds or thousands more!....please don't say you're a crummy mom...it's this damn phobia that's got control over your mind.....i've explained to my son the last itme he was sick that i was so sorry i couldn't be near him, especially when my poor baby needed me most....but i just told him i'm afraid of v*...and that's all i could do....i'm sure your children don't think you love them any less.....we all have things that scares us and this just happens to be the extreme.....we are all good moms here....i just wish children could come without the v* feature..lol

[surfjunkie]

i agree! when i found this website, it was so reassuring that there were
other people just like me. it took me a while to start posting, but i'm so
glad i did! my husband is sound asleep up there, so i couldn't count on
him to help calm me down, but i could come to all of you and be
supported.

what all have you done to try to get past this? have you found anything
that works? i have been to 3 counselors, take ativan if it's bad, tried
hypnosis, ordered a program "Attacking anxiety and depression" from the
radio, etc, etc, etc. i wish there was an easy fix!

[surfjunkie]

yikes...he's up again...just as i was dsoing off...say a little prayer!

[surfjunkie]

false alarm...just my little girl...daddy's handling it...maybe just a little
accident or too cold.

[sheri-baby]

i haven't done anything to get past...i have a very defeatus (sp?) attitude about tal;king to someone about this....i have not even been able to admit this to my family...no one even knows i come on this forum...i have to do this in private...i really can't explain why i can't tell anyone the extent of mu fear...it's so debilitating that i know i will be like this the rest of my life...what a great future to look forward to!!....if there was a person in my state that dealt with emetophobia i would definatly give it a shot....but it seems so unheard of......i wish i had the motivation to do something about this...i feel like drugs are just a pacifer for this, but i need to take things to sleep often just so i don't worry all night....i feel like i have this phobia the worst out of all the post i've read here.....it consumes every waking minute of every day....i feel like i would be so much happier if i lived by myself.....you're able to do something you love...teaching children....that's great...i am on pins and needles everytime i enter the school to pick up my kids...i used to count how many kids came out of there classes and i would look to see who looks ill...it's horrible i'm trying not to do that anymore and i don't ask them if anyone was sick either....but the thoughts never leave my head.....your son hasn't been sick for a while maybe he will be okay....or maybe this will just be a mild sv...let's hope

[sheri-baby]

get some sleep.....take care....i have to get my kids to bed now.....i will check back in on you in the morning.... fingers crossed for you!Edited by: sheri-baby

[surfjunkie]

i am so sorry that you haven't felt like you can talk to anyone about this.
i seem to tell everyone i come into contact with. i figure the more people
that know, the more can help me if something happens. especially at
school. i work with a wonderful group of women who would help me at
the drop of a hat. i love working with kids, but like you, i watch them all
so carefully and i can't tell you how many times a day, kids come up to
me to tell me that their tummy hurts. it is awful! i really hesitated with
the meds. my husband was really against it, but it seems to help when i
am in a tough spot. i don't take it on a regular basis. just when a major
attack comes. i used to ask both kids everyday who was absent in their
classes, too. i have stopped that, but i sure do think it all the time! i pray
that i don't pass along this phobia to them.

[surfjunkie]

thanks for your support, sheri! i hope that you sleep well! i hope that i
will have good news to share in the morning!

[daffodil]

surfjunkie, I'm sorry to hear about your son. I know how hard it is when your kid is sick. I hope everything looks better in the morning. Hugs. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[marieb73]

Sorry you are going through this. The panic that sets in can be almost as bad as sv sometimes I think.

Is your son feeling any better? How about you?

[surfjunkie]

Well, we got through the night without any more problems. He is up now
and playing Game Boy in his bedroom. He seems ok...I am just waiting
and anticipating what the day will bring. I am exhausted, myself. Once
the Ativan wore off, the anxiety returned full force. I hate to be a neurotic
mom, but I want him to stay up there all day. I agree...the panic is almost
as bad as the sv.

I can also tell that I am going to have a jittery day, and I'm sure that my
husband won't be too happy about that. I have a feeling that he will just
be frustrated and irritated with me, just because I will probably ask him
all kinds of questions ,"Do you think he is going to get sick again? Do
you think Jamie (our daughter) will get it? What if.....?" You get my drift.
I am going to be on pins and needles ALL day! I am glad that I got over
the hurdle of night time, but it is almost just as bad during the day.

[marieb73]

Well, we got through the night without any more problems. He is up now

and playing Game Boy in his bedroom. He seems ok...I am just waiting

and anticipating what the day will bring. I am exhausted, myself. Once

the Ativan wore off, the anxiety returned full force. I hate to be a neurotic

mom, but I want him to stay up there all day. I agree...the panic is almost

as bad as the sv.



I can also tell that I am going to have a jittery day, and I'm sure that my

husband won't be too happy about that. I have a feeling that he will just

be frustrated and irritated with me, just because I will probably ask him

all kinds of questions ,"Do you think he is going to get sick again? Do

you think Jamie (our daughter) will get it? What if.....?" You get my drift.

I am going to be on pins and needles ALL day! I am glad that I got over

the hurdle of night time, but it is almost just as bad during the day.

I don't think it is unreasonable at all for you to be concerned and "what if-ing" about your daughter catcing it. Even if you were a non-emet, you'd be worried.

[surfjunkie]

now my daughter has *d. can i run away from home?

[marieb73]

now my daughter has *d. can i run away from home?

Well....you could go out for a walk. But running would not be good. [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]