somthing serious. help me.

[_ruby]

as some of you may know..this year has been a terrible year for me.
-my best friends house burned down
-one of my best friends was killed in a car accident with one of my
good friends, who was also killed
-my very close friend eric commited suicide
-one of my best friends dads died unexpecdtly from a heart attack
everything ahs just been crazy..and added on with emet..this have
just been getting to hard for me. its hard to control my emotions and
all oft he pain in my life..the only pain i can control..is by cutting.

i don't cut everyday..only when things are really bad. and sometimes
i don't even break the skin all the way..i just bleed a little. i havne't
cut for a while..but i still have scars. its just the only pain i can
control. my parents don't know. last year..i did this thing wewre i
would snap an elastic on my wrist..my friend saw and made me tell
my mother. my arents don't know about my cutting..or
scraping..either do my friends. what should i do.

advice..please.

[pino3321]

Hun I know I've had some very rough times with my family my dad is a drugie and my sister there not anymore my dad od right in front of my face and I saved his life, I've had alot of bad things happen to me, my advice is say I would get help for this hun it's very serious, cutting your self is no way out of your problems it just makes it worse cause your adding another problem in your life, the best way you can deal with this is to talk about with someone you feel comfortable with and let everything out I know it's very painful with the things happen but by no means it is right for you to hurt yourself, you need to get help, get on anti depreseents and get a consulor, release your stress in a different way like exercising, deep breathing there are many ways you can relieve stress without hurting yourself if you feel the need to cut yourself come on here i'll be here for you Ill talk you through whatever your feeling, the point is talk about your stress and don't hold in. Please hun dont' do it it isn't worth it keep me updated

[_ruby]

i take anti-depressants..but they sometmes seem to make it worse..i
du nno. thanks a lot though, its nice to know someones here.

[confusedgirl]

I wish I knew... I occassinally scratch myself, often until I break the skin, if I get very stressed... I know that and cutting aren't good ways to calm down... but it's hard to quit. I only do it once a month, or once every couple of months. I wish I knewhow to help...


and sorry so many bad things have happened to you/people you knowEdited by: confusedgirl

[pino3321]

Alot of times anti depresents have opposite effect on you where you feel it's worse, I would try to get on a new one, and also find someone you can trust to talk too, My sister had major problems and she would never talk to anyone about and ended up drugs, I know it's painful to talk about things but you have to or it will get worse, Get consuling too hun you can't do this on your own you need help and make sure you get that help it's only for your wellbeing, I just want to say s*** happens in your life you have no control over that's what life is, you learn from the bad and you move on, Hun it's not your fault these things happened and your blaming in on yourself like you did sometihng wrong, you have to realize whatever happens for the bad you learn and you get to be a stronger person, I know lot of stuff happened people dying it happen already nothing you can do except live for the good memories and it's time you take care of yourself instead of living in the past wishing these didn't suck so much but hun the future is what you have to look at not the past where it just drags you so down you can't deal with, just remember the good memories of the people, hun if you love yourself you will get help you can't live that it's just not healthy, Please hun get help I'm begging you, you have so much to look forward to and you can't see that cause your stuck in the past. I'm here for ya girl but you have to be there for yourself! life goes on and so will you.

[taffy]

I am sad to hear about all the misfirtunes in your life lately. Have you tried rewarding yourself when you want to cut but then decide not too? Or will that temporarily dull the pain?

[_ruby]

thanks so much everyone, i just dn't wanna talk to someone..i don't
want to admit what i'm doing is bad. ya know?

pino..your amazing, thakns so much, what your saying is really
helping

[pino3321]

Hun I know you don't wanna admit it's bad, I wouldn't either if I had a problem like that but sometime or another something is gonna happen that's bad and your going to have to deal with the stress some other way instead of cutting you have to get i through your brain it's not good even know you don't wanna come to the realization of it but you have too, it's important for your well being not to do this to yourself, I know you don't wanna deal with it now but you have too or in time it will get really hard, don't hide from yourself or it will only cause problems for the future! Please hun don't do this, no one deserves that.

[purpleteacher]

I self-injure. If you would like some online resources, PM me and I'll send you some information. I have lots and lots and lots of it... as this has been something I have been dealing with for over 10 years. I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.

[daffodil]

Ruby, I'm sorry you are having such a bad time, with so much loss. I wish I had some advice for you. I just wanted you to know that I have a problem with self harm too, so you are definitely not alone.

[stef]

hey ruby... i myself had a huge problem with cutting myself the past few years... my life has taken huge turns since i turned 14 (im 19 now)... i wont go into that but i know exactly what ur going through... and far out it's hard.. i know that a few reasons i did it was that ifelt like i had control.... i had no control over anything else in mylife and the only way i could acheive that was by controling how far i cut and how much pain i wud put myself through... also i wud dissociate myself without realising it and apparently most ppl who cut do this.. like ur so numb and hurting from everything that ur mind and body send you into kind of a survival mode where you completely disconnect yourself from reality. the only way you feel like you can come 'bak to earth' and get bak in control is by feeling that pain. almost like when ppl say pinch me am i dreaming. also for me seeing the blood was like letting some of my pain out.. its so hard to put into words... but let me tel you, maybe it's something you need to go through right now. even tho it's horribly wrong.... and i hate the fact that i ever went through that bcos of the awful scars its left behind... but ur going to hav to get some help and get this under control eventually bcos it doesnt help anything... it may feel like it does but it doesnt.... i got better by talking to ppl, a psychiatrist especially... and getting on some decent antidepressantts that actually work for you.... i know its harder than it sounds but you will get through this ruby.. everything that goes down must come up... its the way life goes... you will come out of this so high ontop i promise you.... im studying psychology at uni at the moment and i know that you will pull through.... i hope i havnt bored you too much hun.... we're all always here for you.... xoxoxoxo