scared away from home

[Galadriel]

Hey all,


Well as some of you may know I'm away for a week visiting in-laws and family a couple states away. We were visiting some friends of my husband's (well, they're now my friends too) and well we ate dinner there, and were talking and such and man I just got so tired and sick feeling and wanted so bad to run out of there (couldn't of course). I mean I like visiting them, but I just when I get real sick feeling get all panicky inside and its all I can do to sit there, and having to act like everything is fine in front of other people its really hard. I know its just because my guts act up on almost every trip, but man sometimes I honestly wish I never had to travel ever and could just stay around home where I know everything and feel safe, but of course I have to make myself. I just wish it were easier, I mean I know things could be a lot worse (I could have any number of worse things), and I try and tell myself that and it helps some, but then my guts start hurting and it all goes out the window. I mean I know most trips my guts are going to hurt, and its nothing really wrong, just ibs or whatever, but its like i always feel like its never going to go away or ruin the whole trip or never get better, but logically i know its not true.Argh now I'm rambling. I just sometimes wish it wasnt always such a mental struggle, especially seeing others who it doesn't affect them or bother them in the least. I guess I was wondering also if others experience this and how do you get through it? I mean its enough sometimes to make me want to refuse to travel for any long periods away from home, but I know in a way that is the "cowards way out" so I just try and get through it as best I can, but I always feel a lot better when we are going home. Edited by: Galadriel

[marieb73]

I understand how you feel. I sometimes dread even going to a friend's house for dinner because what if my IBS acts up and all that. And when I am going to be away from home for more than a day or so I really freak. It's all nerves and it sucks.


Try to enjoy the trip as much as possbile. Maybe to keep the ibs in check, eat smaller and more frequent meals?

[kate1966]

Hey, i know how you are feeling...I just got back from a beach trip with my friend, and of course, I start my period while there, and then the next day, i was sick as sick can be with my period....and it lasted until sunday night!!!!!!!!!! Very bad d and just feeling like death. The first day i was there i was very nauseas...so i know what you are going through. I always start feeling bad normally when i go off somewhere...it's like out brain automatically tells us it's "time" to be sick...so weird, and so very annoying. I am also coming down with a bad cold now...lovely, that my husband has and now my 12 yr old son has and is home today from school b/c of it. So, i just got over the stomach stuff, now i'm getting the head cold stuff...fun fun for me this week. I hope your trip goes well, and just hang in there, you'll make it....just think of me, and all my troubles, and maybe that will make you laugh

[Galadriel]

Hey Kate and Marie,


Thanks for the replies. It does help to know others understand. I mean I know most likely most of the IBS stuff on trips is brought on by myself, because I always tend to go into not eating mode, or eat the bare minimum, which can mess up my guts, and then when I do eat I get real crampy and that can bring on nausea. Usually on trips like this to get through I just try my best to not think about it (which is hard), and I admit I tend to count the days till going home again. It would be nice to just have a trip where I can completely enjoy myself, its so hard to just chill enough to really have a good time because those thoughts of "what if I feel/get sick or ibs acts up bad" are constantly gnawing at the back of my mind. It definately makes it challenging. Thank you for understanding tho!

[lostangeleno]

Man. Traveling just flat out BITES for me, and my emet's pretty
mild--getting milder still as I work up through Sage's online
hierarchy, but I still don't really want to leave home, even for a few
days. Why? Because it seems like every time I go on a trip,
I FEEL SICK THE ENTIRE TIME! And it ruins everything for me.



I made it to San Francisco and back--five days in glorious weather, the
cutest little city you could ever hope to see, and only one relatively
mild panic-related upset when I decided to try eating in a restaurant
instead of holed up in my hotel room. For about five minutes, the
walls seemed to close in on me as I sweat bullets and became more and
more convinced that my thoughts of the dreaded deed were soon to become
reality for me. But nothing happened, and a few minutes after I'd
paid my check and was walking down the sunny street, I was fine.



I also made it through a four-hour flight, 24 hours of other people's
mourning, and a four-hour flight back home with only some vestiges of
anxiety.



And then the trip to New York...another very, very short trip, but I
felt nauseous upon nauseous from the night before I left until I got on
the plane to come home. So nightmarish.



I think I have separation anxiety. I just don't like to leave
home, and when I do, I don't have all that great a time. I have a
cat, you see, who's like my baby. And when I'm away from him,
well, I worry about him and want to be back home with him!



Anyone else here a fellow introvert who prefers being alone with a good
book, DVD, or TV program than in the company of others????