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    Hi everyone.....I am new here. My daughter has this fear of v* or being around someone that was. It started last year when she was a freshman in high school. Someone in her first period class v*ed in the classroom and the students were forced to stay there and not allowed to leave. This happened right next to where she was sitting. Soon after that she was refusing to go to school on time.....and later refused to go to school at all. I know this sounds ridiculous but it got so bad that she refused school altogether and ended up missing three months. As it turned out, she was also depressed and was placed in a facility that she attended everyday for that time. She received schooling and counseling there. She is not really having any trouble with school this year however, she almost always feels sick to her s tomach especially in the morning but she does go to school (I think probably because she now has a boyfriend that drives her there..lol) I have a friend that told me that the best thing for an upset stomach is wonder bread.....it's okay you can laugh....I think it is nuts too. But my daughter has been having it in the morning and she is getting to school so for whatever it is worth, it is working. But she refuses to eat lunch because she is afraid that she will v* if she does.


    Although things are better this year, I am so afraid that it will start all over.


    Does anyone have any advice for me? I am deserate.


    Lyn



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    Apr 2004
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    Vancouver, BC, Canada
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    Hi Lyn,


    Please go to the top of this Treatments section and read all the sticky posts at the top. There are several articles of information (that I've written), helpful links, etc.


    Generally what I say to parents (and I am also a family counsellor) is that mum's anxiety about the child's anxiety problem, is just one more thing she has to cope with. What I mean is that a parent's anxiety (which can be "worry" or "fussing") is sort of contageous to a child, even a teenager. If she wants to get help with her phobia, you can point her in the right direction, and offer to pay for the therapy or medication, and basically "do the right thing by her". But excessive worry will make her worse.


    It may be important to knowthat the incident at school wasnot the actual cause of her phobia. If it were, every child in the room would have this phobia, and they don't. Your daughter's anxiety was present before this (probably long before), and it sort of found its way to "target" vomiting in particular.I would encourage you tolook at her phobia as a "family" problem, rather than something peculiar to her. Anxious kids have anxious parents. Sometimes the parent's anxiety goes up because of things that happen in the family such as stressors, marital conflict or distancing, problems in their family of origin, etc. These things cannot be hidden from a child - they can only be masked. At some point, this child got the idea that the world was a dangerous place. When this can be addressed, in a supportive family-way, rather than simply diagnosing her as the only "sick" one, then the phobia can disappear quite quickly. What I see in most families, and most of the people on this board, is the opposite of that, and these folks suffer their whole lives with anxiety.


    Thank you so much for coming on here and asking for help - it shows how much you care. If there are any other questions I can help answer, feel free to send me a Private Message or post again. I check the site almost every day.


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