Hi Everyone--I do apologize in advance for the pity party I'm throwing for myself here. I do need a little advice/reassurance/or anythong you can offer me?
Well, hubby (John) and I have had our share of crap over the years! I've shared some things on here in the past. Anyways, we've gone 2 weeks without arguing, which is GREAT for us!! Tonight ended that streak though.
I have a problem with his sis and bro in Boston (we're in AZ). When we lived there, we'd get together with them and I felt bad because I was their new sis-in-kaw, and tried very hard to fit into the family. When we'd get together, ALL THEY FRIGGIN' TALKED ABOUT were one or all of three things:
1) Boston Red Sox and the players' private lives (who friggin' cares?!?!??!?!?!!?)
2) New England Patriots and their private lives also
3) Their deceased dad and how hilarious he was because he was a hard-assed, can't have any fun, dictator. Yeh, funny.
Well, did they ever get to know about my life?? Where I came from?? My parent's/sister's names? NO. I was soooo nice to them, and helped out any way I could, but they still treated me as if I really wasn't there. My BIL said some rude things in my home, John's friend's (3 to be exact), have disrespected my daughter and I by either saying something mean or talking s**t about people of my race (God forbid, I'm not Italian like them, and I have nothing against them). So anyways, this all kind of hurt's my feeling's a little.
In February, I was stuck taking care of his daughter Jamie, she is a problem child, her mom didn't want her anymore, so they imposed her on me since I work from home.. Did they ask me if I wanted the responsibility of her? NO. I took care of her even after she s**t on me a few years back. I did special things for John's friends and one of their mother's when she goes through bad health stuff. Now I am caring for John's son who was hurt in an accident last week, which I don't mind because he is good with me. But, still, was I ASKED if I wanted to? NO. I make dinner every night, clean the house, work (at home), and make sure everything's taken care of. Also, all of the people that I mentioned above NEVER have sent me a birthday card on my birthdays, even though I did for theirs.
Anyways, my BIL called tonight. He hasn't called here in months, but he did tomight because the Patriots were on TV. I made a comment about it, and John gets mad at me. Never once did John ever defend me to any of these disrespectful people, but let ME say something about THEM, and he gets pi**ed at me!
So, I really got mad when he told me that I worry about this crap because I have "too much time on my hands"!!!! HELLO!!!! Am I not busy during the day, mainly catering to his hurt son?!?!?!? What an ass! So dumb me started crying and told him that maybe we should separate, since he can''t be f**king nice! Every time I talk to him or want hugs or something, he always has an excuse: "i'M NOT TURNING MY HEAD THAT WAY TO LOOK AT YOU", "I don't THINK about hugging you", It's late, I don't wanna discuss it", "I'm not gonna stand here and talk", etc. So, he said he doesn't wanna separate and that he has to "work on his problems". I've only heard this for years, but he is sstill insensitive and cold-hearted! Damn him! No matter how hard I try, I will never be deserving of his respect, let alone his hugs!!!!