I love my boyfriend and we have been together for a year and a half. There is one thing that does seem to make my emetophobia rise--the music he listens to ( death metal-we are complete opposites) always have disturbing images on their cd's or on their website graphics ( they leave comments on his myspace page). I was so mad because today I went on his band's myspace page to take a lookand another band left a VERY graphic image on their page!!It looked like something from ogrish.com ( i don't recommend anyone go there-someone sent me a link to it once and I was horrified at what I saw).I was so mad because these people alwaysdo this and it doesn't bother him. Everyone into metal seem to be cool with blood, guts, gore, etc...If there are any metalheads on this forum, I am not looking down on you, I am just saying that the majority that I have met at his band's shows are really into getting drunk and joke about v* the next day ( ugh!!!) I felt so n* all of a sudden. My boyfriend knows I am scared of v* and n* but I have to have a serious talk with him about this. ( now that I know there is a phobia for this). I just need advice on how to handle this because it is a part of him and he lives fordeath metal music ( disturbing images, music, everything) and I cannot change this about him. I just need advice on how to be able to tolerate it without feeling n* or anxiety like.I hate to be reminded of death and to me, it's everywhere when I am in his bedroom.