So the title is a little dramatic, but it's fitting for what I feel like. This is
embarassing but here goes... Within the past 6 months, I have turned my
life around for the better. I moved across the country and started working
as a nanny. I'm in love with my job and the child I work for is absolutely
amazing. I have never worked for a family this loving and amazing. I'm
finally feeling good about myself again, and I love where my life is right
now.
Unfortunately tonight I faced the "fear"....almost, but still too close for
comfort. A few hours ago the daytime nanny texted me (I am a thrice
weekly evening nanny) texted me, telling me that I should come at 5pm
and then she said it: "(the child's name) has the flu and has been v--." My
worst fear was staring me in the face. I started shaking and I felt like I
wanted to run away, like my heart was going a million miles an hour and I
was going to die. The fact that I could lose my job for denying a shift
somehow began a secondary concern, as the fear had me in its grip. I
called my boss and told her an "embellished" concern: When I am around
children when they have bad colds/flu's, I become sick too and when I get
ill, my asthma is affected. If my asthma is affected too much, I end up in
the hospital on a nebulizer. Since I have no health insurance to pay for
any possible hospital bills, it leaves me in a definite jam." Like I said, this
is all somewhat true, but the root of the problem is obviously the
emetophobia.
I have nannied for other children in the past and there have been
instances where the child did v--- and I did panick, but somehow got
through the event. Still it is the anticipation of the act of v-- that kills me
the most. Like tonight, I knew the child could possibly v-- and I just
couldn't handle waiting, having the panic attack until it possibly
happened, etc. So I bailed and now I feel like a complete freak. Best job
I've ever had and I put it in jeaopardy like this. I hate this fear. It's stupid,
irrational, and no matter what I do, I cannot get over it. I would love to go
into therapy, but I could never afford it.
I've finally found my niche -taking care of children. But how can I be 100%
successful at this when the possibility of the child v--- is a huge fear of
mine. when This fear has become so consuming. I'd do anything to rid
myself of it.
Now I am faced with the embarassment that I bailed on my shift tonight. I
am sure the day nanny thinks I suck now. My boss is a celebrity, she can
have any nanny she wants for this job, I am sure so many people would
be thrilled to work for her and her awesome little guy. She seemed
understanding when I told her my fear of his cold/flu kicking up my
asthma too, "oh really sweetie? dont worry about it." (She basically hired
me so that she can go
out on date-nights, and has been a very sweet, understanding boss in the
past). I am sure she has no issues staying at home with her kid when he is
v---. She typically has me call in when I am sick so he doesn't get sick,
so wouldnt it only be fair vice-versa?? Right?
The Good News: Now that I have told her that there are complications
with my asthma when I get sick, she is aware and will most likely not have
me over on the night's that the little guy is sick.
The Bad News: The v---- fear is still the cause of all of this and now I fear
that she will hire someone who can "cope" with it, IF I were to confess my
phobia.
Do I just lay all my cards out on the table and confess my emetophobia? I
am terrfied to the core that she will think I am incompetent, and will lose
me as her nanny. For that reason, I am considering just sticking to my
reason of "asthmatic concern." Either reaso